Just wondering if we should give in and realise children isn’t in our future? I have extremely low AMH and husband has high DNA frag 😅 can’t find any for either! We’ve both live a healthy life style and take all the supplements had 2 failed rounds of IVF already and are signed up for 2 more but don’t really see the point of nothing can be changed and there’s no reason for why it’s not working? Thinking we just need to except this isn’t in our future and get on with our merry life’s! This has been going on for 5 years - urologist again said yesterday relax and keep trying 😑 xxx
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I'm sorry to hear your path to pregnancy has been so tough. Unfortunately your question can only be answered by you. How much you are willing to put yourself through. It's so personal and everyone's circumstances are unique. Some might say "don't give up!" But ultimately it's you who has to go through it all, or choose not to. It's a difficult decision but nobody else can tell you what you should do.
Whatever you choose I hope you find peace and happiness. 💓 Xxx
It’s so tough isn’t it! You’ve been given such a difficult hand and that feeling like your life is on hold throughout fertility treatment is the worst. Ultimately, only you can decide when it’s time to close this chapter. Personally, I had two failed rounds (zero embryos), but wanted to exhaust all avenues before moving on. I changed clinic for my third round, had my worst egg retrieval yet and lo and behold it resulted in my son! So perhaps a change could be what you need before moving on. Sending lots of love! Xx
Hi lovely, have you been to see Dr Jonathan Ramsay about your husband’s DNA frag? If not, I would strongly suggest booking in to see him as he does really thorough investigations to figure out the underlying cause of high DNA frag, which unfortunately isn’t always the case with other urologists.
Low AMH isn’t indicative of the quality of your eggs, so it sounds to me like the high DNA frag is your main issue at the moment. DNA frag can definitely be improved with appropriate treatment, you just need to figure out the underlying cause first. Go see Dr Ramsay if you can, he was a lifesaver for us xx
Very personal decision. And whatever one you make will be the right one for you. Have you considered donor eggs and donor sperm. It’s the route I took due to my age and being single. Zero regrets x
Thank you so much for all your replies 🩷 it is a personal decision I think you just always look for positive stories to keep you going! Our 2 rounds weren’t a disaster we retrieved 1 egg the first round and 2 eggs the second round (changed clinics) I respond to the stims and we retrieve eggs, both rounds 1 egg fertilised (so we don’t have a fertilisation issue either?) but doesn’t develop past day 3 - that’s when we got DNA frag test back (husband is just outside the fertile range at 38%) we seen a private urologist the other day who confirmed no varicocele (has possibly been mentioned a few years ago) which is a good thing! His advice were we are at a good fertility clinic (create Manchester) we’re fit & healthy to relax keep trying and crack on with the IVF and keep up with lifestyle/supplements as a lot of DNA frag is doing to life style/environmental, we have our review appt next Friday but thinking why carry on with another 2 rounds (3 cycle package) for the same thing to keep happening or should we have a break and carry on in a few months?
Hi lovely, it's great that no varicocele was found but there can still be other causes of high DNA frag (infections in the urinary tract, hormone imbalances, etc). If your partner doesn't smoke, eats healthy and has been taking supplements for at least three months, it's unlikely that you'll make a drastic change to DNA frag results with just lifestyle changes. Honestly, I find it pretty underwhelming that the urologist's main advice to a couple that's been ttc for as long as you have was 'relax and keep trying'. 😑 I don't mean to harp (and obvs you should do whatever feels best for you), but Dr Ramsay will check for a whole load of other things besides just varicoceles that could be causing the DNA frag. Since he specialises in male fertility he's really much more thorough in his investigations than any other urologist. And if/when he does find the cause, it's almost always something that can be fixed. Good luck with whatever you decide! xx
yeah we both decided that we wouldn’t be comfortable using donor on either side right from the beginning so we’ve made our minds up about that! I think a break is best and keep our fingers crossed for a miracle when we start again 🥹🥹 xx
Hi, I went through 4 failed transfers and finally chose to go double donor because it didn’t feel right for me to stop (obviously do what feels right for you). Now I have a 3 month old daughter sleeping on me right now. I honestly never thought it would happen when I was going through it and it still feels surreal. Donor eggs and sperm are a great option to consider. Good luck x
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In shock! We done it 😊
First IVF appontment 26th jan😀😀 what should we expect??
What could have we done better?
Advice please from people who are considering giving up or have had to give up with IVF (DEPRESSING STUFF AHEAD!)
Here we go again :(
