11dp5dt FRER tests dark but not progressing to dye stealer....

[Sarascottxox]

HelloI'm back here again! This forum was so supportive when I was going through IVF in 2022 and I now have a gorgeous two year old boy. We decided to transfer our last embryo and I'm currently in the 2WW but of course I've tested early.

As a serial early tester I've been doing FRER tests daily and watching the progression. With my first transfer in 2022 they got dark but then never became a dye stealer and it ended in a chemical. With my successful pregnancy by 11dp5dt the test line was stronger than the control line and by 14dp5dt the control line was barely visible.

I know this makes me sound like a lunatic to compare but I'm worried I don't have a dye stealer at this stage that it's going to be a chemical. I did a clear blue digital today and got 2-3 weeks which is really positive as that's what I got at this point in my successful pregnancy . I've read on other forums and threads that the new FRER (that have opaque pink caps) are less sensitive the the old ones with light pink caps. It was the old tests I used in 2022.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Am I just absolutely mad doing this to myself.?

Why is this so hard? My anxiety is so bad I just can't enjoy this 😔😔😔

[Tnthketnf]

My only ever positive test was not a dye stealer and it's now my 5 week-old daughter.

[Sarascottxox in reply to Tnthketnf]

Congrats and thank you for the reassurance! Hope you're enjoying the baby bubble with your beautiful baby girl 😍 x

[Rjfguitfg]

With my first pregnancy, I didn’t get a dye stealer until 20dpo. With my second I got a dye stealer on 10dpt, but turns out it was twins lol. Every pregnancy is different. I know it’s so stressful given your loss but have faith.

[Sarascottxox in reply to Rjfguitfg]

Oh wow! Congrats, I bet you have a very busy home now!!! I know it's silly doing comparisons as all pregnancies are different. I think I'm a bit of a control freak and it's my way of feeling slightly more in control of an uncontrollable situation! 🤣 Thanks you for the reassurance x

[Twiglet2]

I would say the 2-3 weeks at 11 dpt on a clear blue was more reliable me for me than line progression in terms of viability and that is really really positive. The line on the FRER is also really dark so as a serial early tester myself in the past who has had many a chemical I would say looking good so far from these! Hope it is a sticky one for you! Xx 🤗

[Sarascottxox in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you so much for the reassurance!!! I really hope it does stick as it's our one and only shot at a sibling and if not we're one and done 🙏🤞xx

[Positivechangeplease]

you definitely need to sit down and take some deep breaths. Now I think put the tests down and treat yourself to something lovely. Congratulations!!! This is a good sign. Stop worrying about the dye stealer and I’m afraid there’s nothing to do but wait for your scan. No amount of testing will help now. It says you’re pregnant. Job done by tests. They definitely look dark enough.

[Sarascottxox in reply to Positivechangeplease]

Oh I know ... I've read so many threads with similar posts and thought exactly the same. I swore I'd be calmer this time seeing as we have our gorgeous miracle boy now, but I think in a way I'm worse. Might be cause it's our last embryo and if this one doesn't work out we're one and done so feels like alot of pressure riding on it. We also sold our house last week and got an offer accepted on a new one after a bit of a bid battle.... So not exactly has the calmest 2WW 🤣Thanks for the message though ! I feel calmer today x

[Positivechangeplease in reply to Sarascottxox]

ahhh that’s a lot of stressful stuff! You definitely need to treat yourself. Well I think it’s a good congratulations for you, but if not maybe it helps to tell you I just gifted my last embryo to research as we have our one daughter and it’s decided I’ll be much older and my body struggles now - it would far more 3 years later etc. and the cost of living affects our decision so I had to say goodbye. For my partner it’s nothing. For me it’s a potential. But if I had 6 I’d have I let some go… and now I have I feel fairly okay with this decision as at least it is a decision! What will be will be… and you will always have your miracle boy.

[Sarascottxox in reply to Positivechangeplease]

What a wonderful thing to do, but I totally get how it must have been a tough decision. Tbh my husband would have been happy to have left it and stick with one. We had our little boy when I was 36, I'm 39 in May this year and while I had a very easy pregnancy when I was 36, I'm prepared it might not be so easy a few years later. Cost of living was a big discussion point for us too as nursery costs are just insane, but hopefully , if things do work out well with this one, we won't have two in nursery too long. If we weren't going to use our last I was also going to gift to research too, but when it came to paying for another year of storage, my husband came round to the idea as I said I wanted to try it before I was 40 otherwise we should donate it rather than pay for another year. It's amazing to know your donation may contribute towards future families being able to have longed for children.

I've done well today and not tested. But tomorrow is OTD so guess I will tomorrow and hope to see a strong line still 🤞🤞 xx

[Positivechangeplease in reply to Sarascottxox]

I have everything crossed for you. I’m sure it will be! It sounds like our situation except I was 41 with our first and I’m 44 now so you can see you’re not too old, but for me, a baby in 9 months time I’ll be nearly 45 and then 63 when they’re 18 and if it was my first it would be different, but it’s not, and we’re thankful. And tbh 1 and done is the actual thing these days so she won’t be alone. Hope it all works out for you xxx

[Wishinandahopin]

that last one is beginning to be a dye stealer! And I didn’t get a dye stealer till much later, so try not to worry. I know that’s so hard though given your past experience. Wishing you all the best x

[Sarascottxox in reply to Wishinandahopin]

Thanks! I'm feeling a bit calmer today. It's hard not to compare to previous pregnancies but tomorrow is OTD and my clinic have already booked me in for my scan on 27th as I had to call them Friday to reorder my meds as they run out Monday! The 27th seems like years away 😭 x

[Bluecheeseplz]

No judgement here! Accept the lunacy - I have 😂. Looking at your photo, your 11dpt test line is definitely stronger than your control line 😊. Looking back at my photos, mine was only noticeably so at 12dpt, and my 13dpt bhcg was 2,521. It wasn't until 15dpt that the control line was what I'd call faint, and my bhcg at that point was 6,992. I stopped at 16dpt, but the control line was still definitely visible, faint but very visible. So, I think yours looks good and a bit better than mine so far! Totally understand where you're at, I am unable to relax and enjoy things as well, losses really ruin the journey 👎. Wishing you all the best 🩷

[Sarascottxox in reply to Bluecheeseplz]

Thanks for the reassurance !!! It's so hard not to compare with my successful pregnancy when I've had two chemicals (one IVF and one natural ). I do feel like I'm becoming a bit obsessed !! My husband thinks I'm bonkers 🥴

How far along are you? Oh and congratulations!! Xx

[Bluecheeseplz in reply to Sarascottxox]

I'm in the same boat with a (much older) child and then two losses, so I completely understand and am exactly the same. Partner also thinks I am nuts. But they'll just have to accept that 😂. Thank you, and congratulations to you too 😊. I'm still very early days, 10w4d, but scans looking good so far. Due to the aforementioned lunacy, I've paid for weekly scans for reassurance 😬. Would it make you feel better to get blood tests while you wait for scan? X

[Kitkat10]

lines look great, my tests have never been dye stealers for my successful cycles. Congratulations 🩷 keep going and hang in there. Totally relate to the anxiety, I felt the same but gets easier as time goes on xx

[Sarascottxox in reply to Kitkat10]

Yesterday was my OTD and got a definite dye stealer so feeling much calmer. I didn't test today and don't have any left so I'm going to try leaving the sticks alone and chilling for a couple of weeks till my scan 😁 thanks got the support xx

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