6dp5dt feeling low, worried and hopeless

[IVFlurell]

Hi all,

Just looking for some stories (negative and positive!) on transfers.

We transferred a 3BB 5 day embryo Wednesday 19th and I'm taking progesterone vaginal pessaries 3 times a day.

I've been feeling so emotional and I stupidly decided to test on a FRER which got a v v faint line on 4 and 5 days past transfer. I took another with FMU today at 6dp5dt and still so faint. My cervix feels hard. I've had some heartburn and cramps but nothing major.

When I had a chemical pregnancy last year I had nausea at 9dpo so just feel like surely I would have some symptoms now.

thanks all,

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hard to do but try not to test again till your OTD This is a stressful time so try to soothe yourself- breathing exercises - mindfulness- gentle yoga and keep busy[ reading -walking etc] Keep talking to your partner and look after each other Eat well - drink plenty of fluids - rest when you can and take any meds you have been given as directed

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[IVFlurell in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you lovely, you're definitely talking sense into me that I need, just so hard to stay rational 💖

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely,

Firstly I just wanted to say that every pregnancy is different - just because you felt something last time doesn't mean you will this time - which is so cruel because we just want some concrete proof that it's worked!

Secondly, try to ignore things like how your cervix feels - because of all the meds we can't really go by "normal" standards of what it should feel like. Also, this is different for everyone. Mine felt absolutely no different on my successful transfer.

At this stage your tests will likely be quite faint, try again tomorrow (your HCG should double every day so will take a while to get stronger)

xx

[IVFlurell in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you, you're so right. Every single person and pregnancy is different so I just need to stop comparing. I think it's all such a rollercoaster before transfer day and then it's just this horrible period of waiting, I'm struggling mentally way more than I thought I would. 💖

[Millbanks in reply to IVFlurell]

This bit is so hard - but you're doing so well! And you've had a good start. Fingers crossed for your next test x

[IVFlurell]

hi, just to update. My line started to get nice and dark but unfortunately 10dp5dt it has started to get lighter and I’m having cramps similar to my last chemical pregnancy, so think it’s going the same way. Just want the lines to go away now and be done with this pain 😭

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