Im day 1 of my third rounds of ivf/ivsi, this is our last attempt (1 failed, 1 ectopic and each time poor fertilisation and only 1 blast). I’m terrified as this time be have chosen to do PGT and I just know it won’t work! I’m 41 so our only option after this is egg donation .
Not really sure why I’m posting, just feeling very alone, scared and defeated!
any words of wisdom, or suggestions to help this round!
i don't have any words of wisdom, i am afraid just stay strong, love yourself and your body, focus on your goal! <3 <3 <3
Thank you
Just wanted to wish you luck! Can I ask why you have decided to do PGT? I have also done PGT but at the same time I’ve been told if you are not getting many embroyo’s sometimes it’s better to just put it back in. I did PGT and only had 1 and my embryos didn’t’t survive. . I was so devastated. I then spoke to my gynaecologist (who did my first round of IVF a few years back) she said she would not have tested it and only uses PGT when there are more embroyo’s to test. Her words they are so delicate. However I totally understand wanting to check and not go through another heartbreak. I’m also trying to decide if I’m going to test on my next round. X
Thank you. Tbh we didn’t do round 1/2, but with ectopic the dr said it could be putting me through so much that it is better to. I have asked that if at point of freezing and there only 1 can I just do fresh transfer and they said yes so I have that option.
It’s so hard but Iv come to terms with my only option may be donor eggs.
It’s just so hard and this is the first round Iv really struggled
Good Luck - I'm starting my estrogen priming next Thursday and feeling similar to you as it's my 3rd round. Feel free to PM if you'd like a buddy xx
Good luck 🍀 my third cycle worked and I only had 1 blastocyst from each cycle and was 40 at the time. I hope this is your time, keep looking forward and go for it 🍀🍀 I had similar feelings of fear, know you are not alone and it’s a tough time to navigate.
It’s ok to feel negative, I felt the same, I didn’t think it could possibly work until it did. There are still options, and one way or another it can definitely work and bring you success. Good luck xx
keep positive, I know its hard.. I am on 2nd round and keep spiralling my thoughts off to if id do DE or not, its a big decision so just think about that if the time comes, as it may work this time and you won't have to think about it. have they said if you would get many more eggs on 3rd round? I only got 1 then 2 so I'm not sure if id only get 1 or 2 on next round x
Thank you. Iv not had my scan yet, I got 10 last time but only 1 made it 24hrs! Trying egg activation this time!
I think, like we all did, this will work! I never thought 3 rounds later I’d still be here.
If I only get 1 again this round then will transfer and not PGT, no point
Hi, because of previous miscarriages we PGT-A tested all of our embryos- that said we only got 1 normal and 1 mosaic after 4 rounds of EC. I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant with the normal embryo. If you do want to use OE please don’t give up even when the odds are against you. X
Hi, im planning on doing my 3rd round doing pgt also and didn't for my other two rounds. Ive asked for pgt to be used only if wev more than 2 embryos. Most wev managed to get is 3. Last round we tf 2xday 3 embryos and froze 1 blast. I understand what the clinic are saying about the trauma of the tww and if it doesn't work but money wise it is expensive so i figured if i get 1 or 2 just pop them bk in and hope for best, clinic have agreed i can tf 2 blasts if we get them. If i get 3 then i wana know which is gona be the best to tf that will give me best chance to avoid emotional trauma and also cost of multiple tfs. Im 41. Hope this helps x
sorry to hear your feeling like that, I’ve seen success stories of ladies older than you having success, you just need that one good embryo so try and focus on that and tell yourself this one could be it and you’ll hopefully get through it. All the best and stay strong 💪 x
I’m sorry you are feeling defeated, just know you are not alone. So many of us here I think have been at the point of ‘I can’t go on, how can I keep doing this.’ Just to bring some hope, I am currently 33w pregnant. I am 44 and this was egg collection 5, transfer 6 my own eggs, I’ve various issues, fibroids, blood clotting etc.. but my co-ordinator at my clinic in Cyprus always said, in the end you just need one golden egg and she really believed that. I’ve still a way to go so am taking nothing for granted but I know the pain of losing babies and pain of failed cycles… it’s hard, it’s gruelling and heartbreaking but if your heart still wants it - keep going if you can, one day at at time, one foot in front of the Other … also just my personal take but I never believed in pgt testing and would put the embryo back in and give it a chance…❤️❤️❤️
Wishing you so much strength and. Best wishes for this cycle.❤️❤️❤️
After two failed rounds, I'm on Day 5 of my 3rd ivf/icsi as well and I'm right there with you in feeling like it won't work after the last two. You're not alone as we can see from all the lovely comments, but I get thst it's hard to focus on that one egg that will make it when we're also told its a numbers game... but we have to believe that it just needs that one good egg and one good sperm! I have very low amh at 1.4 so my doc was already floating DE after the last round which was devastating to hear when I feel like we were not there yet (I'm about to turn 38) So, yeah let's both try and stay positive and give it our best shot. I got so worked up and stressed my last round, I'm hoping to stay as zen as I possibly can this time and try to enjoy the amazing science behind all this. Wishing you all the success with it xxx
I'm in a similar place to you, I've had 3 rounds with 4 failed transfers. We then took a break and since then I've gone 2 ECs with PGT-A testing to try and bank something.l, I'm going to be 41 next month.Our first collection in August we tested 3 embryos and got no normal ones, because we'd paid for a 2 cycle package we had another 4 tested in November and have managed to get 2 normal embryos. 2 out of 7 overall is pretty much the avg for our age. Unfortunately my consultant doesn't think 2 is going to be enough for me to get pregnant as I have other issues so wants me to do another EC.
I should be happy that we have 2 but instead feel sad, disappointed and scared. All I keep getting told is not to give up. xx
Tippyt have you done any supplements?
Also have you done any testing? My consultant said he wouldn't transfer anything until I've had a few tests as he doesn't want to waste another chance for us before making sure there's no underlying issues as we've had 4 failed transfers (3 failed and 1 miscarriage). x
It’s male factor so think that’s effecting fertilisation (along with age off eggs). The dr are happy with me.
Supplements I’m taking myo instol, proceive multi, impryl, vit d. Taking a disgusting green drinks, and lots fruit and veg! Also had an IV on Saturday! I feel like I’m rattling!!! 🤣
When did you get your 2-3 and 3+ on CB? 
Round 3 happening
Second Round IVF 
Round 3 January 
4th fresh round 4th BFN, what a year!
