egg transfer waiting

[LoriJo]

I have transferred 3 5th day embryos (pgt not tested) 6 days ago. Feel bloated and stressed. Trying to read symptoms and not get paralysed with uncertainty, Feeling depressed anxious about the results and trying to stay positive although being pragmatic due to my age. Feeling that my bad mood will affect the result and I am spiralling. Any tips ? How other women cope?

[Londongirl84]

Hello! don’t worry about the bad mood. I turned really snappy and then crying the next when I was in my TWW pregnant and I have a heathy boy. Just try and relax, go with the flow. Keep your mind busy with walks and seeing friends, Your emotions will be all over the place and that’s okay. Try some breathing exercises when you feel overwhelmed. Good luck! X

[LoriJo in reply to Londongirl84]

Thanks for sharing all this advice and your personal experience! Keeping busy is key. I think going back at the office really helped me today since I am snapping all weekend at my partner (and feeling really bad about it). Did a test today, 7th day from transfer and came out negative Waiting for the final blood exams in two days and to avoid doing any more tests to protect me from insanity (and to convince myself there is still hope, which I don’t believe by the way..)

[Londonlady2024]

Hi, keep yourself busy and stay hydrated. I got my positive at day 7 which was a day 3 transfer so if you are in the mood do a test. But unfortunately it can bring on anxiety too. By tomorrow morning if you are pregnant you will see a faint line. Wishing you success. I'm over 40 x

[LoriJo in reply to Londonlady2024]

Many thanks for your tips and encouraging words . Unfortunately did a test today, on the 7th day and zero faint line, .so I am losing hope here So happy and glad you made it!

[Londonlady2024 in reply to LoriJo]

I'm so sorry, maybe try another test tomorrow as I know many on here keep saying late implementation? However I would say by now you would have seen something unless the test was faulty xSorry once again 😞

I had 4 failed fresh transfers before I got my first positive which was my one and only frozen transfer.

[LoriJo in reply to Londonlady2024]

Many thanks for sharing ! Were you putting one embryo per time? Really now, how did you cope with the disappointment of the failed transfers until you succeeded?

[Londonlady2024 in reply to LoriJo]

My first one was funded by NHS (2022) and I only got 1 early blastocyst. I didn't expect a positive. Second one was 1 early blastocyst and 1 3AB, double transfer- negative. In the end I put down to having covid the month before. Third transfer did not happe due to risk of ohss. So my nhs clinic froze my embryos at day 1. 2023 new fresh transfer but this time I chose to have day 3 double transfer - negative. By this point I was so upset but my faith kept me going. 4th transfers I had add ons such as prednisolone, lubion and clexane - I had double transfer of 2 early blastocysts - negative. Agreed to hyCosy before they gave me green light to go ahead with my frozen embryo transfer from Oct 2022. Got all clear. I remained hopeful. Nov 2023 did first ever frozen double transfer at day 3 (3 survived thaw, by day 3 one didn't survive) and got my positive.

So I would say positivity and my faith kept me going despite all the failed transfers. Plus I have been through stillbirth at full-term so had to keep going for my rainbow baby.

So only one single transfer which was first transfer and I was on long protocol. The rest were short protocols and they changed dosages between cycles.

I had almost a 4.5 month break from early June 2023 to November 2023 before my frozen transfer. I was 43.

[LoriJo in reply to Londonlady2024]

Thank you sharing your story with me! I find you amazing and very courageous! Your persistence paid off! I am waiting for the results tomorrow., hold myself from not doing another pharmacy test not to be disappointed. If negative I will continue with a following transfer (I have 5 more 5 day embryos frozen, gathered at 45 so just hoping there will be at least one good, slim chances but crossing fingers) xx

[Londonlady2024 in reply to LoriJo]

Thank you, I never wanted to give up. That's great that you have additional frozen embryos. Wishing you success. Keep us posted x

[LoriJo in reply to Londonlady2024]

Negative blood test today 😔 feel down and sad and trying to think how / when to move forward when the next transfer (feeling not very hopeful)

[Londonlady2024 in reply to LoriJo]

I'm so sorry. Stay strong and positive. I know it's easy for me to say. But trust me, I've been on the same road whilst grieving for my stillborn baby. Allow yourself to reflect and please do not give up. Think of those frozen embryos...one could be your little baby xx

My DM is always open x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. Just keep busy and take all prescribed medication and drink plenty of water. You will feel tired, but wate and test on the day recommended by yout clinic. Good luck. Diane

[LoriJo in reply to DianeArnold]

Many thanks for the positive words Diane! I am crossing fingers while trying not to completely lost hope!