Hi everyone,
First time posting.
I had one failed FET in March which devastated my husband and I (we were naively positive about it working) we will soon have our transfer in a couple of weeks all being well.
Any ideas of how to stay sane in the 11 days wait before official test date? Like, what did you actually do?
Last time I think I made the mistake of not doing much and spent way too much time on forums and checking for symptoms etc which drove me bananas!
Try to keep yourself busy - go for walks - reread your favourite book Eat well and drink plenty of fluids and rest when you can Give yourself a little treat every couple of days such as buy favourite magazine - fancy chocolate treat [ just a little bit!] - a pamper night Remember to take any meds you were given as directed
Look after yourself
Janet-Partner
Hello lovely, so sorry to hear your first one didn't work.
I was exactly the same and just assumed it would.... it didn't.
I've done a fair few 2ww (9 now) and the last few I decided to make myself a 2ww advent calendar. I basically bought myself a little gift (one for each day) and opened one each day - it really helped for some silly reason. I asked my husband to contribute to it too so I would have some surprises. I saved the best one for OTD.
It sounds very superficial but it really helped me to feel a bit more positive about each day and try not to overthink everything, because unfortunately it's impossible not to think about the outcome.
I also tried really hard to stay on a level, not getting excited, not losing hope - just somewhere in the middle xxx
What a good idea! I love this! I hope all is ok with you xxx
Prior to my previous transfer I was so careful to the point where I drove myself bonkers because I didn't leave the house (none of those transfers worked). After my last transfer (which I didn't expect to work due to past experience) I was very busy because I had just started a new job. Literally the day after my transfer I was at my own leaving do, eating Thai food with my colleagues. I then got stuck into my new job. It didn't really give me a lot of time to think about the transfer. Then I tested and it was positive. I'm now 36 weeks pregnant.
So, honestly, my advice would be to keep busy. The embryo is either going to stick in or its not, so you may as well just try to carry on as you would normally (obviously avoiding the hot baths and intense exercise)!
Best of luck X
For my last cycle, I tried to keep myself busy with things I enjoy—reading, light walks, and catching up on shows helped me focus elsewhere. I also set small goals for each day to keep my mind from constantly wandering. It’s hard, but it can be done. Try not to overanalyze every feeling (easier said than done, I know!). Sending you strength and hope for your upcoming transfer! x
Thank you everyone for sharing your ideas and suggestions. I am definitely going to make a rule with myself about no googling symptoms and try to stay busy. I know that I can easily get into a negative spiral and it creates so much stress in my body.
I've already talked to my husband about the advent calendar idea- I'll be giving it a go!
I already feel a little more excited about this round and feel more in control of my emotions!
Baby dust to all x x
Hey i'm in the 2ww too. What day is your test day? mines 25th🙏🙏But so tempted to give in and test! just want to know....this is our 3rd transfer.
Sorry just saw this. I haven't had my transfer yet, I have my 2nd scan to check the lining tomorrow, so all being well I should know my transfer date after tomorrow. All the best to you.. 2 more days until OTD! x x
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