Hi all!

[Blue93___]

Hi all, today it's been one of those overwhelming days when nothing seems to work and this TTC seems long, exhausting and endless, so much so that it makes me wonder "why?". I thought I'd give this group a try because I feel very lonely and hopeless and I think it would help me to talk/hear from other women who are on the same journey. Half of my friends don't know what I'm talking about and give me the usual solutions like "relax", the other half have kids and keep saying to "enjoy it while it lasts".

I feel very lonely and isolated.

Anyone based in or around Reading?

[BlueEyedTabby]

Hi, sorry to hear you've had an overwhelming day and feel lonely. You're definitely not alone. It's been a bad day for me too. Two pregnancy announcements at work, one of which is their third baby and an accident and they're not excited about it....!! Can you imagine! I totally understand what you say about people not knowing what to say. I'm sorry this isn't a reply with positive advice! But you're definitely not alone. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you xxx

[Blue93___ in reply to BlueEyedTabby]

This is so reassuring though, to hear that other people out there are struggling, just like me. Thank you 🎈🙏🏻

[Gofly84]

we have been on our TTC for 5 years through which we have seen countless others have babies which are now kids, and other babies on top. It’s hard. I’m not trying to pile on the misery but just to say you will have those days but they will come and go and you have positive, happy days too. It’s just about carrying on. I heard a motivational story recently - imagine you’re digging a well, it’s hard but you don’t want to give up one inch before you hit water right? So hang in there! Xx

[Doodlebug23]

IVF is such a tough journey but this forum is amazing. It was such a massive outlet and source of information for me. I had good and bad days but what’s the choice but to just soldier on?!

I found every pregnancy announcement gut wrenching and the feelings of jealousy that came with it hard to deal with.

Sending you lots of positive energy.

[BenjitheG]

Hi Blue93_,

Firstly big virtual hug. It’s a really tough journey but as Doodlebug23 says this forum can really help. I would be surprised if there is anyone on this forum who doesn’t have personal experience of what you describe. Been caught between two worlds is how I describe it.

I’m 7.5 yrs into this journey and this is what’s helped me mentally;

Check in and honour how I feel in the moment to help process the emotions I’m feeling. There are lots of highs and lows to negotiate.

Try and find activities with others which have zero chance of any pregnancy announcements and can give your brain a little break - this has helped me hugely (I joined Good Gym for its mental and physical boost).

I found meditation apps quite helpful in the moment- Headpspace now has a dedicated fertility section which can help you navigate different challenges.

Wishing you all the very best on this journey and know this forum can offer support and is rooting for you to succeed. x