Embryo didn't survive the thaw

[SarahHit]

Our only frozen embryo unfortunately didn't make it. Don't know what to do now. we've had two rounds and transferred 3 embryos since I had my daughter with no success. Should I give up? Or try donor eggs?

[SarahHit]

Or give it one more shot with my eggs

[Cahoots]

I'm sorry, it's such a hard process isn't it. I can see that you've already been through a lot!

If you're able to muster up the energy, it may be worth having a discussion with an embryologist about potentially having another try but having your embryos PGTA tested so you know whether it's a problem with the embryos before deciding on donor eggs. I don't know whether you've already done that?

[SarahHit in reply to Cahoots]

Thank you so much for your comment. I'm mainly worried that even if we get to that stage they won't cope with the freeze and thaw 😓 it's so disheartening to invest time and energy into this and not have a chance

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

So sorry to read your post Make sure you have taken advantage of the counselling appointments that should be available during your treatment As previous post says be sure to discuss with your clinic what your next step should be

Look after yourself

Janet-Partner

[SarahHit in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you, the embryologist couldn't really advise this morning. Will give myself a couple of weeks off and think about it again, I'm just so tired 😴

[Tnthketnf]

I am so sorry. This happened to me with the 3rd and last embryo of my second retrieval. I was told then by the embryologist that's it's not very common and I was one of the small number of people that this happens to. I proceeded to have another 3 retrievals in the following 1,5 year with no success. I switched to DE and I am pregnant for the 1st time after 6+ years of infertility.

It is difficult to decide. I am guessing that you want to carry on.

What does your clinic doctor say?I would look for a 2nd opinion too before making up my mind.

You could consider further tests depending what the clinic/doctor says about the unsuccessful transfers.

There are a lot of factors to consider including finances, when you try to decide whether and how to move on with treatment. Age and time, the dreams you have for the family you want, how much you ve been through and of course money.

The DE route comes with its own complexities, especially having already a genetic child.

Taking some time off and distance from treatment might also help you clarify how you feel.

[SarahHit]

I haven't got the chance to speak to a Dr yet. I'm in the UK and while I'm paying for treatment I don't get to access Dr care easily. I am tempted if we try again to get a second opinion from another Dr at another clinic.

I've had the same treatment for two rounds with the same result so it would be nice to have another person's opinion.

It's hard to know if I should have the endometriomas removed so maybe I'll get advice from as expert about that too 🤷

[Belldandy]

This happened to me as well earlier this year. It was also our last embryo. I was devastated, specially because the odds of this happening are very low. I had another ER with Pergoveris instead of Gonal and the results were better. Hang in there! 🙏

[DancingQu33n in reply to Belldandy]

Glad you’ve had a better result this time. Have you had more eggs? Or better quality? Don’t know much about the different drugs but hoping to do another cycle in a few months. Thanks x

[Nakijo]

Sorry about that. It is very heart breaking. May I ask how old you are. Since you already have a child, I would advise that you try again you never know things might work out this time

[SarahHit in reply to Nakijo]

I'll be 38 in December. It's very frustrating as I was told by so many nurses when I went back for more treatment after I had my daughter that it's much more likely to work again for us and I think it made naive to what could happen.

Not going to make any decisions until the new year. My husband is ready to give up but that feels scary to accept it's over

[DancingQu33n]

So sorry that happened. We’ve just used our last one in storage too for a 3rd failed transfer so also back to the drawing board.

Our consultant has said they’d want to do pgta testing if we go again (we do want to) so that’s our plan. But do feel nervous about the process and possible risks. Depending on your age, they might suggest that as the next step rather than donor eggs but of course it’s worth thinking of all the options and stats.

Hope you’re doing ok as you can xx

[SarahHit in reply to DancingQu33n]

So sorry you are in the same situation but glad you know what you want to do next.

I would be open to pgt if this embryo had survived thawing. The Embryologist said it's a hard process for the embryo to go through so I would be too scared to try it if it meant a potentially viable embryo was lost because it couldn't cope with being frozen and thawed for testing

[DancingQu33n in reply to SarahHit]

Ah ok I see what you mean, hadn’t thought about it like that. But yes the actual process of it does make me nervous, can’t really get my head around it not causing damage to the embryo.

I wonder if you could leave it on the table as an option but see what number of embryos you have to work with after your next round? I think if we got a smaller number then I might take a chance and not do the testing. If we got a bigger number I might see if I could do a fresh transfer and test the others before freezing… all so unpredictable. Hopefully there are some options you can weigh up🤞

[Kitkat10]

I moved to DE for a sibling when I was 42, so you are quite a bit younger than me. I would try again with your OE if you feel that’s right for you.

DE will always be there. It doesn’t hurt to research a bit and see how you feel about DE. I had them on my mind when I was trying my OE for the last time. But you have more time than I had with OE, just got to go with your heart. It’s a tough time even though it should be easier second time around, it’s really not. Xx 🍀🍀

[Lelo3479]

Oh no sorry to hear this 😔❤️🙏💐, hope you're able to find some peace and come to a decision and get good news soon xxx