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No transfer πŸ₯Ί Did not survive the thaw and neither has my heart πŸ’”

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So.... a nice senior embryologist phoned to say that after leaving it an extra hour, too much of the embryo had broken down. She said more that 50% had gone....Closer to 80% and it wouldn’t be fair to put me through transfer .

The whole thing is not fair

πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”

πŸ˜”

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My heart just dropped as I read that πŸ’” No words will help you right now but I’m sending all the love in the world xxxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Millbanks

Bless the embryologist .... she tried to explain and said that she would ensure a swift review.... I’m like .... what for .... that’s my two rounds over πŸ˜­πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’” such a hard week πŸ₯ΊπŸ˜’Thanks for the love πŸ’

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Millbanks in reply to RhinoCat

Oh Lordy, that’s not helpful either. Hoping you NHS cycle comes round quickly. Time for a big glass of wine methinks xxx

Ow no, I am so sorry πŸ’” it really isn’t fair, this whole process can take such a physical and mental toll. Sending you big hugs xx

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RhinoCat in reply to XOXO13

Not one part of it is fun πŸ˜©πŸ’”

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XOXO13 in reply to RhinoCat

I know lovely, it’s really awful and I’m so sad for you. Rest up and let it out xx

Oh my lovely. I’m so so sorry. So devastating to go through all the drugs and get here to be given that news. You must be very upset. Sending hugs to you 😘xx

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RhinoCat in reply to hifer

Upset and hormonal . Had myself day dreaming about another miscarriage or ectopic .... not this. What a waste of money, time, energy and hope πŸ₯ΊπŸ’”πŸ’

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hifer in reply to RhinoCat

Oh my love. I just feel for you so much. It’s devastating. I’ve not gotten this far but I’ve had a cancelled cycle too because of a rubbish lining and I wasn’t expecting it either. It’s so so difficult. Sending loads of love to you 😘xx

Oh RhinoπŸ’” i dont have words. This is such a traumatising rollercoaster. Literally no words. All my love πŸ€—πŸ’β€οΈ

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RhinoCat in reply to Mimisami

The trauma is real 😒 thanks Mimisami πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Im so so so sorry to read this, and I know u must be heartbroken. I pray the next cycle is the one for u and you have the strength to pull through this. Lots of love and prayers for u xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Sk1817

I wish the next cycle started tomo but with my nhs turn 21 months away and funds for another couple of rounds not quite in place .... my head is pickled and I think my heart just fell out. Wine and gin and pizza required πŸ’

So sorry RhinoCat ❀️

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RhinoCat in reply to FrancyItaly

Thanks πŸ’

Oh no, I’m so so sorry. That’s just so unfair, after all the prep and positivity. Thinking of you xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Jam-master

Thanks πŸ™πŸ»πŸ’

So sorry RhinoCat, such disappointing news 😞.

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RhinoCat in reply to Vicster80

Majorly disappointing indeed 😞

I don’t have the words πŸ’”. I’m so sorry xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Miracle43

πŸ˜˜πŸ’”πŸ’

So sorry πŸ’” xx

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RhinoCat in reply to MD123

Thanks pet πŸ˜˜πŸ’

I’m so sorry to hear this 😞

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RhinoCat in reply to Nix321

πŸ˜žπŸ˜˜πŸ’

I'm sorry to hear thisπŸ˜ͺπŸ˜ͺπŸ˜ͺ

I'm so deeply sorry to see this update. My heart sank. Sending you so much love right now. Xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Lovemylion

Thanks so much πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Oh Rhinocat I’m so sorry πŸ’”. Just the worst news after all that build up for you. It really is such a brutal process and so unfair. Sending so much love your way today xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Picalilli99

Brutal multiplied by heart breaking πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”

Awww my love I'm so sorry! It's just one thing after another for you!! I know how devastating it is to build up for transfer for it to not go ahead. Huge hugs, I know it's of no great comfort but I'm thinking of you!! Lots of love.πŸ˜ͺxxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Cinderella5

One thing after another indeed! Just feels like a train journey that only calls at station heart crush, station head melt and station nasty surprise 😭😒 πŸš‚πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”..... stop the 🌎 I need to get off πŸ₯ΊπŸ˜žπŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’” my heart hurts so bad this day πŸ˜žπŸ’

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Cinderella5 in reply to RhinoCat

I can only imagine sweetheart!πŸ’” Look after yourselves and be kind to each other.xxx

Sorry to read this, not fair at all. You’ve been so bravely open with your journey on this forum so everyone here is sending you so much love xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Nat246

Thank you so much πŸ˜˜πŸ’ the love is very much needed as we decided not to tell anyone this time so we didn’t have to deal with sympathy faces and hard conversations . Tough tough day . πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Oh no! I am so sorry 😒😒😒❀️❀️❀️ This really is so unfair! Sending you lots of love xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to IVFwithPGD

It’s happened to so many before me, it’s so nice to know I’m not alone πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Rhinocat, I’m so, so sorry. This happened to us with our only genetic embryo to pass PGS. I think it was the worst thing we ever went through in our seven different attempts. That was the worst phonecall of all of them. I know your heart is breaking right now and I’ll be thinking of you. xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to FluffyPink

It defo feels like the worst pain today. The tears are coming easily 😭😒 Hopefully I’ll feel differently in a few days πŸ˜”πŸ˜’πŸ’”

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FluffyPink in reply to RhinoCat

Give yourself as much time as you need. It’s the worst pain 😒 xxx

I'm so sorry. That is absolutely heart breaking xxxx

I wouldn’t wish it on anyone πŸ’

I am so so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I remember the disbelief and devastation. It probably doesn’t help much right now but your posts and comments always reflect an incredibly strong and resilient women and I admire you. This is a difficult time and you deserve all the love and comfort. Sending you hugs xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Lillilly

Think my heart fell out today. πŸ˜”πŸ˜’πŸ˜­ thank you for caring πŸ’

Oh no darling, I’m so so sorry to see this. Sending you a big hug today πŸ’” xxxx

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RhinoCat in reply to KiboXX

Thank you πŸ˜˜πŸ’

This is sooo frustrating πŸ˜”πŸ₯ΊπŸ˜€πŸ€¬πŸ˜‘ absolutely terrible news when you put so much hope ... Lots of love and big hug from me β€οΈπŸ€—

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RhinoCat in reply to Ranchu90

If ya know a way to do it without any hope let me know 😭🀣

I'm so so sorry, its just so unfair, sending you lots of hugs at this incredibly sad time xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Italy300618

Thanks so much πŸ’

So sorry to see this πŸ’”Sending you a virtual hug xx

I’m so very sorry to hear this today I was really hoping for positive result ,

I know how this feels having had my one embryo fail the thaw last year , I didn’t even prepare for that outcome as nothing was mentioned to me about this happening I just wasn’t aware

I’m sending you strength & support Xx

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RhinoCat in reply to butterfliez

Sadly our clinic mention it every time just in case 😩😞😭 just not my day or week or month or years πŸ’”πŸ’

I'm so sorry πŸ˜žπŸ’” Sending you lots of love xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Chel91

Thanks πŸ’

My heart just broke for you. It’s not fair AT ALL. Oh god 🦏 🐈 I’m sending so much love your way....

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RhinoCat in reply to Corchi

Thanks Corchi πŸ˜˜πŸ’ just having a Wee cry here to myself πŸ’

Ah I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending love xx

Thanks pet πŸ’

So sorry to read this. Happened to me twice, the words are horrible to hear.. it’s just not fair. Sending love xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Maui2020

πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Oh dear, I can’t believe this has happened to you. I’m so sorry, I feel your pain. Xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Linda84Co

It’s not the best πŸ₯ΊπŸ˜’

OMG πŸ™ˆI’m so sorry to hear that. I was rooting for you. It really isn’t fair at all. Cry as much as you need to. You have a right to feel how you do right now. Thinking of you πŸ’—πŸ’—

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RhinoCat in reply to Cswanlake36

So weird having an embryologist tell you it’s over then having to wait 5 hours for someone to ring and see how you are 😩😭 Not easy. Thanks for your message πŸ’

So so sorry to hear this. This journey is so hard and so brutal. 😞 Will continue to have you in my thoughts and prayers πŸ™πŸΎ

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RhinoCat in reply to JoyfulStar

Thanks so much πŸ˜˜πŸ’πŸ’”

I'm so sorry xx❀️

No words will help right now I'm sure but just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and sending lots of love 😘 xx

Thanks PurplePiggie πŸ˜˜πŸ’

Oh this is just so unfair!! I can’t imagine how you feel, this is so disappointing. This journey is so rough. Sending you hugs and hope you can do another round soon xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Lisichka

Disappointing indeed πŸ₯Ί thanks πŸ˜˜πŸ’

I’m so sorry to read this πŸ˜” sending lots of love xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Hope752

Thanks πŸ˜˜πŸ’

So sorry to hear this😭sending you lots of loveπŸ’›xx

Aww no 😭 so sorry to hear this ❀️ I really hope your ok xx

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RhinoCat in reply to Cmc2020

I’ll be ok soon πŸ˜˜πŸ’

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Cmc2020 in reply to RhinoCat

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I’m so sorry to read this RhinoCat. No words can help atm but I’m sending you big hugs xx

Oh I’m so sorry to see your post Rhino. Truly heartbreaking. Sending lots of love xxx ❀️

Big hugs xx

I’m so sorry to read this. Sending lots of love ❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of you. Xxx

Aww soo sorry , sending you hugs

Eurgh came on here to check up on you, I am so so sorry xxx

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RhinoCat in reply to Daisy1245

It’s not the best 😞 Having a Wee wine and a cry. Time will

Heal I know, but right now.... it hurts so bad 😒

I am so so sorry. Sending you love and hugs!! You deserve happiness 😘❀️β™₯οΈπŸ’

So sorry to hear this xx

I'm so sorry to read this, sending you love and hugs xx

I am so sorry πŸ˜” we had six embabies in the freezer and lost four during thawing and the other two lost 50% cells. I know how much this pain hurts. Look after yourself and keep looking forward x x x

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RhinoCat in reply to Flossy92

Oh Flossy92, your heart πŸ’”πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»

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