FET transfer viability scan 6 weeks

[Crazycatlady007]

hello! This is my first post so hoping I am doing this right!

Following a frozen transfer I went for my first scan today at 6w 6d. They advised the sac looked empty and it was unlikely the pregnancy would continue. It was measuring more like 4 weeks than nearly 7.

I asked if it would be like 99% chance it wouldn’t progress and she said yes it is very unlikely.

They have asked me to go back in a week to be absolutely sure and said I need to carry on taking my medication.

I’ve read through some other posts and can see mixed outcomes but wondered if anyone else had this experience.

I’ve read that this can depend on the time, the date of implantation and the quality of scan but I saw the image and it looked pretty clear to me.

Am I completely bonkers for even having any hope on a 1% chance??

thank you xxx

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely,

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I had similar in May and although they did see some growth after a week, I had to wait another week after that and at that point it had stopped growing. Unfortunately with IVF pregnancies there isn’t much wriggle room because they know the exact age of the embryo and when it was transferred.

there is always a bit of hope though, you honestly never know. I have everything crossed that this one is a miracle for you xx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Millbanks]

Oh I am so so sorry to hear this happened to you. I hope you’re doing okay??

Thank you so much for replying to me.

Its making me go a bit crazy because this embryo was a little slow to grow in the first place so I am hoping they’re just a bit lazy 😂 I know the chances are so so slim but I feel like I don’t want to give up hope but then feel stupid for even thinking there’s a chance.

This is our first positive test after three rounds of ivf but only our second transfer. No more frozen embryos so felt like there was a lot of pressure on the poor little thing x

[Millbanks in reply to Crazycatlady007]

The pressure is unreal isn’t it.

I’m ok thanks lovely, it was shite at the time but we made it through as we do with everything. If you look at my posts you can see others responding - some positive some not so much but might be helpful?

I really hope it’s a slow grower! Xx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Millbanks]

I’ve just done exactly that!

Keeping everything crossed for a miracle and wishing you all the best.

Really appreciate you replying it means a lot x

[Endofitall]

I’m so sorry you’re in this limbo. I know what it’s like to be in limbo in early pregnancy and it is just the worst.

Sending you lots of strength and love!

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Endofitall]

Thanks so much for your reply!

I feel so silly for even considering having hope! Gosh the whole process messes with your head doesn’t it! X

[Endofitall in reply to Crazycatlady007]

I honestly think all of us are some of the strongest women out there!! 💪

[Twiglet2]

I’m so so sorry I had similar last year and it wasn’t a good outcome for me either 😢 we know the exact dates with IVF so for the sac to be measuring over 2 weeks behind means things aren’t going the way they should. Mine dragged on for a few weeks as there was growth and even a heartbeat at one point but everything still measured behind and by 9 weeks heartbeat had stopped and growth, there were bits I allowed myself a tiny bit of hope of it helped me get through the week but mostly I didn’t hope as it’s the hope that crushed me. You need to do what works for you. Sending you so much love right now I know how hard it is, especially the limbo xx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Twiglet2]

Oh I am so so sorry this happened to you! It’s so helpful having people to speak to who’ve been through the same - I just wish you hadn’t had to.

I think after sleeping on it I know it’s probably just delaying the inevitable. Even if I might hope for a miracle, I trust that the hospital have the experience and if they say it’s very unlikely then that’s what I’ll go with. Just need to go back with a decision on how best to manage the miscarriage. Do you mind me asking which option you went with x

[Twiglet2 in reply to Crazycatlady007]

It’s really rough but we do manage to move on somehow! I chose to go the natural route and gave it a week or so off the meds to see what happened and luckily on about day 10 it all passed naturally at home and no retained tissue etc. I just wanted to move forward with next cycle etc and I hate hospitals so this option suited me but it’s very personal as it does involve a lot of waiting and unknown and you might need to opt for one of the other routes eventually if nothing happens is the risk but I just felt it was right for me! Happy to answer any questions you have over the coming days and weeks 💜 as I know I had no one but the ladies on here that had any experience of this! Xx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you so much - so kind of you. I haven’t told a soul that we’re doing ivf - which is my choice because I know people asking and being nice won’t help me but I do feel quite isolated so having you all to speak to is really helpful x

[nat55zt]

I just wanted to say that you are not silly for hoping. Miracles do happen. This whole IVF process is brutal and very emotional so don’t beat yourself up for having feelings all over the place. Keeping my fingers crossed for happy outcome.

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to nat55zt]

Thanks so much! Feels like such unchartered territory! I guess we just pick ourselves up and try again but I’m so tired x

[joanne2024]

It's very tough to go through this and wouldn't wish it in anyone. I went thru exactly the same in June. They need to do the second scan to confirm it's not viable. Mine showed exactly the same the following week. I miscarriage 2 days after my meds stopped.

I don't want to give you false hope so I'm just going to wish you well and pray you're is the miracle we all pray for.

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to joanne2024]

So so sorry to hear this happened to you too. I understand they need to confirm but it seems so cruel to have to keep taking the medication etc. I had to go to the hospital pharmacy to get more medication and was sat next to two couples who had also been to the clinic who were both pregnant and it hurt my heart so much. Obviously so happy for them but sad of what is happening to me.

Do you mind me asking what you are going to do next? X

[joanne2024 in reply to Crazycatlady007]

I honestly feel you. The week between the scan was the woesr week of my life. I've never grieved for something so bad. It's so cruel to us. I remember seeing happy couples and I just wanted to run out the building 😔 I've actually just had another transfer but it's failed wondering if I did it to soon. X

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to joanne2024]

Oh I’m so sorry lovely. It’s so cruel. Do you have more frozen to go again? X

[Crazycatlady007]

just a little update after my scan yesterday - confirmed to be a miscarriage as we thought. I’ve decided to go for the surgery but they can’t fit me in until next Friday so I think it’s likely to happen naturally before then. I am so apprehensive about how it’s going to feel but stocked up on painkillers and hoping for the best.

Just wanted to say thank you for all the support xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Crazycatlady007]

Sending so much love. I know it's hard now, but you will be okay. I took was worried that my mmc would pass before my hospital appointment for medical management but it didn't. Take good care and thinking of you xxx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Minniemouse88]

Thank you lovely ♥️ hope you’re doing okay too xxxx

[Lelo3479]

Oh so sorry to hear this. Hope you made it to your surgery OK xx

[Crazycatlady007 in reply to Lelo3479]

Thanks lelo. It’s been a bit of a whirlwind week as they couldn’t consent me for the surgery when I went on Monday as they couldn’t be sure it wasn’t an ectopic. Feel like I’ve had a million blood tests and scans since then but I now think it’s all happened naturally during the wait. Should be confirmed with my last bloods today. Not really what I wanted but hopefully it’s all done now and we can move forward x