First of all lovely people, if today is a tough one for you, feel free to skip this - 100% ! There are days I can't cope with the 'sensitives' and I leave them for another time. Self preservation is key in this horrible 'game'. And Christmas is a very tough time 💜I wanted to post an update as I've been pretty quiet here since our last (4th) cycle of IVF failed in a massively disappointing fizzle-out in early August, with our last little embryo failing to thaw. Being in the unlucky minority once again, where the 'this rarely happens' kept happening was hard.
Well, I was busying myself looking at clinics in Europe with DE packages and trying to claw together yet more loans. Then in October, my period failed to arrive, which never happens. By some miracle of God, we're pregnant 💕First time I've ever seen those 2 lines 🤯Not a hint during 4 cycles and 4 transfers and a couple of years of TTC naturally. It's safe to say I've been a nervous wreck since, but we are just over 12 weeks now and touch wood all seems OK 🥰
It's still early of course, and we have barely told a soul 😂 I know the 'natural BFP after failed IVF' stories are really hard for some here, as we're all here for slightly different reasons and sometimes (e.g for single ladies, couples without a male partner, ladies who have had surgical procedures etc) I know the surprise pregnancy isnt an option. So I truly hope this doesn't upset anyone 😢 I just know for me, where there wasn’t really a clear-cut reason (besides age!) that we hadn't had any success, and I knew infinite self-funded IVF wasn't an option, these stories helped me a bit to keep the faith (even though I honestly never expected we'd be in that situation).
This time last year a FET had just failed and I was pretty much broken. Things really can change so much 💕 Very conscious we're not out of the woods yet but we're hoping and praying this will be our time 🙏 and for now, we're just trying to be grateful for each day.
Love to all xx
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best not to think about the money although difficult not too. Indeed after being told I had around 1% chance of conception either naturally or via IVF I think my clinic were stunned when I called them to ask for advice. About 6 weeks to go!! Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy xx
Am so happy for you and I love to hear about a happy surprise after everything else we have been through. Congratulations and for me it took quite a while to start believing it had happened and was reluctant to tell people. Take it all at your own pace and wish you a healthy and happy pregnancy xxx
I'm still in a bit of a haze, to be honest. Daft as it is, I even worried about posting on here until I'd passed 12 weeks 🤷♀️😂 If it had been an IVF BFP I'd have been straight on 🥰 but I've honestly been so paranoid. Thank you for your lovely words xx
You are so blessed! Somebody loves you so much there ⬆️ ... Congratulations and please enjoy the pregnancy, live the moment as it is so unique ♥️. I would love to be pregnant again (even though I was pregnant with twins) but to not give birth myself 🤣, that is a damn hard job 🥴🙄😬...Take care and Merry Christmas ♥️
I really am blessed 🙌 I'm trying to get my head around it more now and enjoy pregnancy, instead of just stressing all the time about whether out little one will stay with us! Yep, I do NOT envy you carrying twins 😂 but what a gift now they're here huh? xx
Thank you Solly! And congratulations again on your own wonderful surprise! I hope you're feeling a bit better now and the nausea is passing somewhat 💗 xx
Thank you so much, Merry Christmas to you too 😘 I hope things are going OK for you xx
Wow what a real miracle 🙏😍❤️ my husband and I are praying for such a one too. Just about to go into our 4th cycle with only 2 transfers 😢 but your story shows that miracles do def happen!! What a powerful story of His goodness.
I hope SO much that the same happens for you 💗 Fingers crossed for your 4th cycle, meanwhile I hope you can treat yourself a bit this Christmas 🎄. So much can change from one year to the next xx
I was so angry with God when our 4th cycle failed, and I spent time with our lovely vicar and we talked about infertility together. We prayed together and the next month... BFP 🙏How amazing is that? I just hope and pray things continue to go well and we get to meet our precious little one next year. Thank you for your kind wishes xx
Bless you, it's so lovely of you to post this! I hope this is it for us 🙏 Are things any better for you at the moment? You've had a rotten time of it too, you deserve some luck Lovely xx
Bless you sweetheart , your post made ME tear up in return 😂😘 Thank you for your kind wishes. I know you're looking into more testing and hope so dearly that you get some good news next year xx
Ha! Feel free to message me any time! Honestly if you are worried about something I will have been worried about it too, been a nervous wreck the whole way through so far! xx
Thank you Lovely 😍 Bless you for such a nice post when I know you're going through so much. I hope and pray next year will see your luck change, you deserve it xx
Aww this is such wonderful, heart warming news, I am so so pleased for you! a true real life miracle ❤️. I think sharing your story brings hope to some of us who dare to dream of the impossible. after so much struggles, failed rounds, emotional, financial stress, you definitely deserve this happiness.
I wish you all the very best in the months ahead and hope everything goes smoothly from here. xx
Thank you so much for your lovely message. I'm hoping so much that your frosties will bring your miracle 🙏 You deserve it so much, you've had such a tough road too. I read once that a quarter of couples go on to have a baby naturally after failed IVF - there's definitely hope 🥰 We've got a long way to go yet, baby not due until the end of June, but just trying to take it day by day and pray for the best ❤️ xx
Good! I conceived a month or two before turning 42 and touch wood things seem OK 😬 - though I'm a nervous wreck 😂 Hoping so much for the same for you sweetheart xx
Thank you so much darling. You're so lovely to send this, when I know you're also travelling a really tough road 😫 I hope with all my heart that whatever next steps you decide to take, it brings you you'd much-deserved miracle next year. The DE move isn't easy but I'd decided that was the right one for me, before this little surprise. I was so drained with IVF failings, and although we never tested pur embies I bet that none of them were euploid. I wanted to try a route with better odds. That doesn't mean it's necessarily the route for you of course, but whichever choices you DO make I REALLY hope you get the result you deserve xx
Hi AuroraXen, I'm thrilled to hear your news. You've always been so good responding to posts to help others. You deserve this luck 100% and I hope your pregnancy goes smoothly. Enjoy the holiday season😍
Oh thank you so much darling! You're so sweet to say that. This community really keeps me going a lot of the time 🥰 Such lovely people, encouraging each other, whilst going through so much themselves. I hope you have a lovely holiday time too xx
Aww bless you Millbanks! Ha ha totally holding my breath, seems such a long way still to my due date 😬🤦♀️ Praying after this amazing lucky break that we'll get the safely and meet our little girl next year 💜🙏🙏 But as you know it's still so tough mentally isn't it! I hope you guys are doing well, I think of you often. Enjoy your Christmas together xx
I loved reading your story and all the lovely messages, I'm sure everything will run smoothly. I'm 50 and just returned from Spain after 8th donor cycle (final), and eager to see my 4 year old, who came as a miracle on my 4th cycle. Wishing everyone Christmas and New Year miracles 🎄 xx
OMG!!! This is so amazing. Very happy for you. This happened to me....after I fully paid for that DE package, lol but whatever, I was just so happy it happened before the transfer. Congrats on the 12 weeks mark, and keep us updated on how things go.
I was blessed with a natural pregnancy only a month after my third miscarriage and IVF! I hope it gives hope to others, it can happen for everyone! Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy xxx
Oh wow! I'm a stress-head, honestly 😂 Somehow the fact this happened by itself, when I'd made my peace with never conceiving with my eggs, makes the pressure so huge! And not being under a clinic's care was weird, you're just kind of left to it 😂 A couple of private scans have helped but I've been lucky and had a pretty easy first trimester. So of course that then makes me stress that something is wrong 🤦♀️🤷♀️😂 3 days!! How exciting 😀 I honestly can't imagine getting to this stage , still doesn't quite feel real xx
Thank you! I hope your pregnancy is going well. Sorry about the sickness hitting you late though! I've found the start of my 2nd trimester gave me headaches, which weren't there before, and a bit of morning sickness returning (in fact the only time I've actually BEEN sick from it was in week 14!) xx
Congratulations 🎊 👏. I've not been on the forum in a long while so only just seen this. I followed your story and you supported me too in my journey. This is amazing news I'm just sat with my 5 month old miracle baby sleeping on me whilst reading this
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