positive affirmations/re sources to change mindset

hey all. I’m about to have my 10th FET, the last few I feel like I’ve walked in & known before it’s even started it was going to be a fail- whether that’s my brain protecting me I’m not sure. Just wondering if anyone has found any resources/books/podcasts etc to help get your head into a positive ‘can do’ place before ivf? We had our daughter after our 4th transfer (following a scratch) & im having a scratch before this one so there is a glimmer of hope there, but know my head is not where it should be in terms of ‘thinking positive’. Thank you xx

[neonpg]

Striking the balance between optimism and realism is so, so hard. I don't have any easy answers but just want to say that I'm going through it too. Even though I have been very fortunate to have 7 eggs fertilise after yesterday's EC, I've still got it fixed in my head that I won't have anything to transfer, because on all my previous rounds I've only had a 15% blastulation rate. And if I do have something to transfer, like you I'll then be at the "I bet it won't stick" stage.

I think the only thing that's helping me is reminding myself that IVF outcomes are unpredictable. Every cycle and every transfer is different. And so just because you haven't had success with your last few transfers doesn't mean number 10 won't be a success.

In terms of resources look up the IVF positivity planner. It was created by an ex-IVF patient and fertility coach who also shares practical advice on her instagram account.

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thank you, this is perfect. Really appreciate your reply, good luck xx

[Twiglet2]

the mindful IVF app helped me and also distraction as much as possible so I’m not thinking of the outcome either way! I ‘allow’ myself the day of transfer and next few days to be positive and happy (as I’ve gotten to transfer and embryo on board so I dont think of result at that point just the success of getting to that stage) then it’s distract distract distract for a few days until I test! I book my days jam packed 😂 hope that helps! Xx

[Doodlebug23]

There’s a book called The Secret. It’s not very wordy or long. It’s about the laws of attraction and the power of positive thinking. Basically if you put out negative thoughts, that is the energy you will attract.

It took me 7 transfers, 10 embryos and 1 chemical to get my BFP. No known issues, IVF due to age. I found it hard that there was nothing physically I could do to help and started to spiral into the depths of it will never work.

[beckystevens46]

yes brilliant positive change your mind set book I read and keep with me at all times by Marisa Peer How to get pregnant. marisapeer.com Famous hypnotherapist

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Thanks for this. I bought the book after you told me about it & I have to say it’s game changing. FET today so I hope my positive thinking makes a difference. I’m deffo ‘thinking pregnant’ this time and feel a bit excited/happy about it all

[Eloquentia]

Fertility reflexology helped me a lot. Perhaps not so much with positivity but definitely with relaxation. Very best of luck! I hope you get a sticky one