2nd Transfer wait time

hi ladies

I am just starting a new post, not to confuse it with the other ones as this is a different topic.

Today is my day 14 since my embryo transfer and my test was negative, this was no surprise to me as I knew. I lost this pregnancy since Friday.

I just spoke to the nurse at the clinic who explained the next steps for my 2nd transfer. She mentioned it can take up to four weeks for me to see the doctor and discuss and this would be a virtual appointment. She then said that my next transfer most likely won’t be until July which was upsetting to me as I was hoping for about mid June. I was under the impression that they just need to wait for one full period cycle to end which I should get at the start of June and then they could look at starting treatment around mid June. I feel a let down and I want to call the nurse back, but I don’t want to be annoying either. I understand there’s obviously wait times and these things can take a bit longer.

The reason why I am stressing is because I turned 40 on Saturday this past weekend, and although I have a frozen embryo, I still wanted to get this done within 4 to 6 weeks time at least. Age doesn’t help us either does it as women. if anyone has had another transfer done and can explain to me about the timescales and if this is normal to wait this long, or am I just being silly and panicking? Xx

Thanks in advance xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hope you get some replies from your post It is ideal to wait till you have had at least one full menstrual cycle before restarting treatment Wishing you good luck when you restart your treatment Might be an idea to look at our website ww.fertilitynetworkuk.org for support

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[Hidden in reply to JA-fnuk]

Hi

Thank you so much. I will definitely check out the website. I got many, many replies on my other posts which may be why I haven’t gotten much here. I have a call with the doctor tomorrow to discuss my failed FET and planning the next one. I hope everything goes well also. It’s been so so difficult mentally. Xx

[fdafda]

Hi, I totally get your frustration - any delay even a month feels stressful and upsetting. I've been in the same boat a few times. I think the problem usually is whether the doctor's appointment you get comes before your next cycle starts. As for my FETs I've had to start medication on day 1 of cycle, so you need time to have your consultation, then order the medication before the first day of cycle - so if you're waiting 4 weeks for an appointment, you likely won't get that done in time. I suggest mentioning to the clinic to let you know if they have earlier cancelled appointments that you might be able to take up, but otherwise it's frustrating and annoying and in my experience my clinic weren't remotely sympathetic to the fact that I was saddened by the delay. I hope your second transfer is a success though!

[Hidden in reply to fdafda]

Hi thanks for the reply

Luckily enough, my clinic was very empathetic and offered me an appointment for tomorrow! So don’t need to wait up to 4 weeks now. I expressed my concerns and they fit me in. Fortunate for me I am grateful to God x I will see how it goes now when I speak to the doctor - I hope it means they will get me started on next transfer sooner now that the appointment with doctor is tomorrow xx

[fdafda in reply to Hidden]

Amazing news! Always nice to read about a clinic that are empathic and understanding - sometimes it seems like it's quite rare.

Fingers crossed this means you can get started next month. x