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This is so tough and weird to type but I had my first miscarriage as a first time mom (was). I found out that I'm pregnant after first medicated trial on 30th March, started having backpain on 4th April. I thought this could be due to constipation, but saw blood when I wiped. Stayed very light, pink in color for 2 days. 3rd day it started getting brighter red but still like spotting and didn't stain the pad. After 6 days of spotting and no cramps, bleeding got heavy on 9th April with bad cramps. 10 April, passed a clot that looked like my perfect little baby of 6 weeks gestation.11 April had the scan, confirmed miscarriage. Thankfully uterus was emptied through the bleeding. Decided a burial for my angel baby.

I still can't believe I'm typing these. I am numb sometimes, and other times just breaking down. Love seems to have stopped.

Hope I get over this with courage and motivation.

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Cinderella5

Awww massive hugs lovely, its truly devastating to have to go through this. I had a similar experience and it's quite traumatic. Hopefully your memorial will help to give you some closure mentally but the heart does take a lot longer to heal. I'm so sorry for your loss, I do wish you better days ahead.xxx

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CardiGrey

I’m very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. As Cinderella said below, it is a very traumatic experience and you need to take your time with your healing process. Everything is still very raw. My miscarriage was in September and I still think about the baby every day. I had some very good advice from Miscarriage Association. If you Google them, they have chat facilities on their website. They can also give you details for miscarriage support groups. I also found it helped to tell some friends and family. Thinking of you ❤️ xx

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Endofitall

I am so sorry. Please don’t pressure yourself to “get over it”. We don’t get over losses but we will eventually move forward and there’ll always be a place in our hearts for our lost babies.

I would really recommend “the worst girl gang ever” to you. There’s a book (I listened to the audiobook and really found it helpful) as well as support group via website and also a podcast with lots of people sharing their similar experiences. It made me feel less alone and was validating to know I wasn’t the only one who felt certain feelings.

Lots of love

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Freeway24

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. 😓 I know how utterly devastating it can be. My heart goes out to you. I am sending you love and hugs. Plenty of self care at this difficult time. Xxx 🩷

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Aquaharmony

My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry and hope you are surrounded by love and support at this difficult time. ❤️ xxx

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Tir-26

I’m sincerely sorry, it’s heartbreaking x

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Minniemouse88

So sorry you are going through this and just letting you know you are not alone. The same happened to me a month ago and it was devastating, especially as it was the first time I had been pregnant after a long fertility journey. Take good care and know you are not alone xx

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Hope_1996

Thank you all for your valuable comments

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