Sensitive - Positive Anxiety

[Keggles36]

I've been lucky enough to get a positive on 11dp5dt, I am in shock. I just can't be happy because I am SO anxious. I am so sure it won't stick, and I'm actually cooing quite badly with the anxiety.

I've also stopped sleeping well! I wake up with heart burn and stomach pain around 3/4 every night and don't go back to sleep, and i often find not sleeping is linked to anxiety for me.

Any tips on managing the anxiety? I'm a midwife, so in many ways if i can just get to a gestation i know i think I'll feel better about it all.

[Backagain987]

Bless you, it's so so hard.

I can only tell you everything you probably tell your pregnant Mums! Speaking from the other side (I have a nearly one year old), I had 6 miscarriages before I had my daughter. Every pregnancy I worried myself sick. My successful one I almost lost the plot with worry and only let myself even buy a babygro after my MW told me I had to at my 28 week check!! We started the nursery when I was 34 weeks. Earlier on in my pregnancy I spent a lot of time fearing the worst, and making myself sick with anxiety. I didn't sleep, I had panic attacks.. the works.

Now I have my daughter (and I won't be able to have another) I wish I had enjoyed the pregnancy. I also didn't do anything different in the successful pregnancy to the six unsuccessful, to make it work I mean.. And thats the point.. aside from drinking/drugs/smoking etc you can't influence the outcome of this pregnancy so all you can do is try and enjoy it and think positive. You literally need to limp through every day and every week until the next scan... and you will fool yourself a scan will make you feel better but it might only last 24 hours! But just remember millions of people have successful pregnancies so there is no reason why you can't too! Congratulations! xx

[Keggles36 in reply to Backagain987]

Thank you so much for this lovely response - it's just what I needed to hear; i am so sorry for your six lisses but also congratulations on your gorgeous baby xx

[MotherhoodDream]

CONGRATULATIONS Keggles 😁 Yaaaay. I know you're nervous/ anxious/scared. But you got a BFP. It's real! Please try not to think about the what ifs and relax into the what is. Take a deep breath and chill, you guys did it❤️

[Keggles36 in reply to MotherhoodDream]

Thank you so much xxx

[Glenda4]

I’m with you, yesterday I got an 11 day positive 5dpt. I’ve had two negatives before this it’s my third transfer, so I’m trying to be happy and hopeful…. But the anxiety is always there. I’ve been listening on Spotify to an amazing meditation / affirmation, which I appreciate isn’t for everyone - but it’s really helped me. Hypnosis for IVF open.spotify.com/album/1VuB...

Sending love x

[Keggles36 in reply to Glenda4]

I love things like this, so thank you so much. I'll have a listen this evening. Congratulations! I hope everything goes well for you xxx

[HealthTBD]

Waking up in the early morning / disturbed sleep is something I had both during my last pregnancy in the first trimester and currently (I’m 6.5 weeks pregnant) and I think it’s linked to the hormone changes not just stress. Don’t know if that’s helpful?

[Keggles36 in reply to HealthTBD]

Thank you! I just feel like all of my symptoms have just stopped, except sore boobs, i think I'm probably just over thinking and what will be will be... But the not sleeping is unusual for me so fingers crossed! I'm tempted to wee on another stick to reassure myself. Congratulations on your second pregnancy!

[Kitkat10]

Congratulations 💕 I know how you feel, I felt exactly the same. I worried about every little thing and I just willed the time to pass. I focused on one day at a time and marked each day on a little calendar and soon the weeks mounted up and after what seemed like a very long time, my little boy arrived.

During my pregnancy, I researched every possible complication and it was during covid so that added to my anxiety. It is an anxious time but it will get easier as the time passes. Wishing you a smooth and speedy few months xx

[Keggles36 in reply to Kitkat10]

Everyone has been so kind, I feel less alone. I wish I'd just have morning sickness or something to show me it's all ok! X

[Kitkat10 in reply to Keggles36]

Don’t worry, that will soon come. I never had any symptoms at all until 6 weeks, then I had all day nausea until 12 weeks 😅

You are very much not alone, good luck xx

[Keggles36 in reply to Kitkat10]

Oh bless you!! I'll be careful what i wish for!

[Babyluck95]

Hi keggles firstly congratulations! I am also in the same boat. I got my first faint line 7dpt and today is my official test date and its still positive! My only advice and sometimes makes me feel better is the fact that as much as we want this jelly bean to stick at least we can get pregnant through this and even if it isn't in God's plan this time, there's always another time, it's very hard to feel excited and sometimes I have to force a smile when telling family so i completely get it! So hope everything works out for you! Xx

[Keggles36 in reply to Babyluck95]

Congratulations! I hope everything works out for you too. What a rollercoaster it is!

[Keggles36]

I caved and did another test - 5+2, or 17dp5dt Still positive. Test line is a little lighter then the control line, but still quite a solid positive so feeling more hopeful today. Can't compare to 11dp5dt as i used one with an electronic screen that just said "pregnant".

Now just need to try and stop worrying!! Thanks for all the lovely supportive messages. The nurse has said i can start gentle swimming so looking forward to that 😊

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