Light Bleeding, BFN 11DP5DT. Two days till period due and OTD… Any hope?

[Saskiahope]

I’m such an idiot.

I’ve had a very rough few days and today I got some very light bleeding. From my research it could easily be implantation bleeding, but my mind went nuts and straight to the fear of period, and like some possessed zombie I grabbed my pregnancy test and did 1, it came up negative :-(.

Technically my period isn’t s due for two days, however, my last period did have a bit of a slow start with some spotting to begin with, so my dates could be easily two days off. I was not supposed to test until Sunday (I’d been so good up to now), two days away, and I did my test in the afternoon (not that I’m really sure it makes a difference). Obviously I understand that the test could be wrong because maybe my levels haven’t fully built up yet to show that I may be pregnant.

BUT

I should have just left it because now I’m in that annoying and very upsetting stage where I’ve now got somewhat confirmation in my imaginative and very sensitive mind of not being pregnant, but it’s not really confirmation because it could have just been too early to test and implantation bleeding . I have no idea where I’m at apart from that I’m miserable.

Has anyone got any stories of hope where they tested negative two days or so before their suggested dates for testing (and before their period was due) and then ended up being actually pregnant despite this. I just need some hope to get through the next few days and then if it all goes wrong after that well at least the uncertainty will be over and I will know for sure and I will take it from there. I did manage to freeze two embryo so there is still hope this transfer fails.

I hope everyone else out there is coping, it’s a tough old game this IVF business xxx

[HollyT7]

I tested early and for a bfn then later got a bfp. If it’s going to change, it can change any time up until your otd! X

[Saskiahope in reply to HollyT7]

Thanks for your message, really appreciate it! Let’s see what happens, I’m prepared for the worse but will hope for the best. And if it all goes to pot and finally I get a solid BFN I will buy some wine and hope that next time is my time x

[HollyT7 in reply to Saskiahope]

No reason why it won’t be your time this time or the next. Always one step closer xxx

[Eiradu1]

I tested 14dpo and had a line that was barely detectable and if I’d have don’t it 13dpo there’s no way I’d have been able to pick it up. It was only at 15dpo that I could be certain it was an actual line. I do believe when excitement turns to stress that’s where to focus. A happy home for a baby to grow gives us the best hope (although easier said than done, it’s just a reminder for us to work on that for them so it’s ready and waiting 😊). Let us know how it goes. Xx

[Glaedy]

It's so hard to tell, on Monday I will be in your shoes testing at 11dp5dt but it will be my OTD I don't have hope for myself but I will keep my fingers crossed for your late implanter 🤞

[Saskiahope in reply to Glaedy]

Good luck for Monday! The 2WW for me was quite a difficult time, I hope you’re not finding it too tough. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

I think I’m coming to terms for me that it’s not happened this time as I have more period vibes today, but regardless I will test tomorrow. As I said above, I now know that for me moving forward I won’t test early, as it’s sort of extended my upset and grief but left me so up in the air.

Will see what tomorrow brings and if it’s a PFN I will pull myself together and hope for next time, with lessons learned xxxx

Keep me posted with your progress x

[Glaedy in reply to Saskiahope]

Thank you I am preparing for the worst, got blinding BFN at 8dp5dt and after this there is not much hope left for me at least, yesterday mid day started getting bad period cramps so getting ready to start af soon. I will ask my clinic before I will stop my meds to do hormonal levels so see if everything there was ok. It's our first implantation failure. So now I can say I had it all. Not sure even when to do next transfer, OH suggest to get a break but I want to be over with all transfers this year and we have 3 frosties left. Maybe at least 1 will work.

[Saskiahope]

Thanks so much for your message. It’s very uplifting. What I know for sure now is that moving forward I will never test before my OTD again as it’s done me no favours whatsoever. I will keep you posted. Bit more beginning of period vibes today so I do feel that it didn’t work this time, but I will test tomorrow and will keep open minded.

Thanks again xx

[Doodlebug23 in reply to Saskiahope]

I’ve done a mixture of testing dates. First 2 I bled before OTD and hadn’t tested. 3rd I waited and BFN. The next 3 I tested early. 1 chemical and 2 BFN.

The worst for me was getting the BFN before OTD and then being in limbo, taking meds I was convinced I didn’t need to carry on with. So I totally can empathise with how you are feeling. This time I promised my PA at the clinic I wouldn’t test early. And she said maybe seeing the BFN before OTD causes a cortisol (stress) spike which isn’t healthy.

I hope you get a late implanter, but if not, focus on those little 🥶 🥶 waiting patiently for their turn 💖