Failed IVf

[SKNS0704]

How to deal with negative pregnancy results?

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. If you’re certain you have tested on the right say, remember you are both involved, so talk to each other and look after yourselves. Once you are more settled, prthaps you can start to plan when you mihjt try again. Try and keep busy. So sorry it has happened, I shall be thinking of you. Diane

[Anxiousintrovert]

try and plan out the next steps, this always kept me going. But first- allow yourself a couple of days for grieving. And treat yourself to something.

[Eloquentia]

Allow yourself the time and space to grieve. If you can, take a holiday and get away from it all. Recharge, rejuvenate and come back with fresh energy and the will to carry on. Big hugs, this is the most horrible part of the journey!

[M1673402]

No easy answers here I’m afraid!! I would say give yourself time to feel whatever you’re feeling and don’t rush into any next steps. A lot of advice on here is about planning to do it again and again, take your time and decide what’s best for you, whatever that may be. Try and talk to someone, cry and wallow if you need to or distract yourself if you think it would help. Sorry you have went through this x

[Endofitall]

Give yourself permission to grieve. A lot of people don’t understand the level of loss. Sometimes even partners don’t get it.

I’ve had numerous failed cycles, an early miscarriage, and an ectopic pregnancy loss and they’ve all felt absolutely gut wrenchingly awful. However in terms of understanding, while many “get” my ectopic pregnancy loss, perhaps because it was later in the pregnancy and I was pregnant in their eyes, there are many who are hugely dismissive of how distressing a failed IVF round can be. You see those embryos going in and you hope and dream for the potential. So it is a loss. Be kind and gentle to yourself and I hope you have good support around you.

I found after a day or two, diving into planning the next cycle and questions I would ask at review etc, the best way to manage my grief and move forward.

[Christianbaby]

First thing is to allow yourself to grieve. Take the time you need to acknowledge your emotions .

Then, plan what you want to do next. Talk to your specialist and see if there's anything they can adjust, change or add for your next cycle.

Sending you love and light. x

[Always_hope_andpray]

Sorry about your negative results, I also didn't get the result I was expecting last week. I felt numb and deflated as it has been years and nothing seems to be working, and I'm sick of constantly thinking where it went wrong and how it can be fixed and dont feel ready to plan when to try again.

My advise would be to focus on your mental health, I went out for a meal with my hubby and we spoke about booking a summer holiday, I've treated myself to some new items, dresses and pjs a new book, booked myself at the hairdresser's, I'm going to book in for a massage too.

Hope you get through this dark time, Wish you all the best.x