cancelled transfer

[Kmb1985]

I wonder if anyone has any advise or experience? , so I had the devastating call today (day of 3 day transfer ) I had 2 fertilised eggs which I today was told couldn’t be transferred as they where grade 3 and 4 which made them to poor to transfer , however she will call me back Monday to see if there is any progress , I know that would literally be a miracle for poor embryos to make a blastocyst , I guess I’m just clinging on to a little hope that this can happen , this is our 4th cycle and our last so all hope is on this cycle , I’ve been told to keep taking my pessaries until told different , I’m so lost right now , should I remain onto the last bit of hope and be hurt all over again on Monday or would you think there’s no hope ? Appreciate any feedback

[Beingamum23]

You have come so far - you would have to be made of stone not to cling onto hope.

This is not the same but my daughter (4th and last attempt) had scan last Monday and only 2 of her 6 follicles had responded. She had egg collection yesterday and got 6 eggs!!! Total shock that those unresponsive follicles had progressed in the 48hrs since the scan and 4 of 6 have fertilised. Still low odds and more hurdles to get over but she remains cautiously optimistic. Its not over til its over. Sending love and positive thoughts to you x

[Kmb1985 in reply to Beingamum23]

Thankyou so much , wow that’s so good everything crossed for your daughter , it’s hope that keeps us going I suppose just fear of facing the reality makes you want to be made of stone ,I was so happy I had 2 fertilised I just wish they had still transfered them today but I will pray for a miracle on Monday thanku for your reply x

[Beingamum23 in reply to Kmb1985]

If they are strong enough to make it til day 5 then they have a chance 💛

[Kmb1985 in reply to Beingamum23]

Thankyou I pray they are x

[Hidden]

Hi Kmb. I just had something very similar, I had 3 normal fertilised eggs but got told on day 3 that they weren’t suitable to transfer because ‘they weren’t behaving as they should for day 3’ ( I didn’t get given a grade). I was absolutely devastated for two days but got the call on day 5 to say all had survived and I had 2 good blasts. The embryologist said that day 3 isn’t always a good indicator and embryos can correct themselves. It’s tough but hang onto that hope. Xx

[Kmb1985 in reply to Hidden]

Omg Thankyou so much for this I obvs know exactly how you felt I pray I get a good outcome like you did ,this has really made me feel better I really appreciate your reply and hope your luck continues x

[Glaedy in reply to Kmb1985]

Hi, I had similar situation, 2 of my embryos on day 3 were not looking so great and I was told they might not developer further but on day 5 they made to blastocyst and graded as "ok" (not used them yet) fingers crossed for you!

[Kmb1985 in reply to Glaedy]

Are this really gives me hope , fingers crossed for you too x

[GemRim]

fingers crossed for you x

[Meeandembryos]

I know different clinics have different gradings so I don't know if it is compatible but I had 2 failed embryo transfers with grade 5 embryos and 1 success with a 4BC embryo who is now 6 years old

[Kmb1985 in reply to Meeandembryos]

So she said day 3 they are graded 1-4 , 1 been the best she said I had a g3 g4 so was unable to do the 3 days transfer as they was poorly graded , but will leave them till day 5 to see if they progress to be able to transfer Monday , I’m just keeping everything crossed that any of them will be ok to transfer , cos then there is a chance rather than none at all , Thankyou so much for your reply and that’s encouraging so happy for you that you had a healthy baby who’s now 6 ….today is gunna be the longest day x

[Meeandembryos in reply to Kmb1985]

It sounds like they do grade differently. The fact they are leaving till day 5 would give me hope. Its not over yet x

[BabyDust23]

Hi Kmb1985, just messaging to say I have my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼. The clinic we are with will never give day 3 updates, only day 5 morning before transfer (unless none made it before this day) because they say so much can change in that time. So I think you are right to still hold out some hope xxx

[Kmb1985 in reply to BabyDust23]

Thankyou so much everything crossed at least it’s only today to get through to find out 🤞🏼xx

[BenjitheG]

Hi, Kmb1985 all my fingers crossed 🤞 that you get a good call on Monday. Similar to BabyDust23 my new clinic will only do a day 5 transfer as they say so much can change over that time and they want to transfer one that has a good chance of success. Wishing you all the very best.xx

[EjHack]

Hang on in there. I had a poor response to stims, Upon ER and fertilisation, I had 2 at Day3 then one on day 5. It was graded one of the lowest blasts…. But guess what? BFP yesterday! Don’t give up, this isn’t the end!

[Kmb1985 in reply to EjHack]

Are wow congratulations!, well under few hours for me to find out …I’m keeping hope , Thankyou x

[EjHack]

got everything crossed for you!!! X