Feeling defeated

[Rookery17]

Went for my 2nd round of IVF changed clinic as my first round due to a cancer scare onli took eggs from 1 overy 3 good eggs collected one made it to transfer got bpf then miss carried at 6 weeks so ready to try again after an awful experience the 1st time. I went for viability scans to see if there was any point I got the go ahead so yestaday was day 7 of stims only to find out that due to Endo and endometriomas the follices are above and cannot be accessible and that it wud be dangerous now on both sides so advised to stop. I jus knew it was too good to be true I'm now left feeling even more heartbroken and don't know where to turn I'm awaiting for another consultation but feel left high n dry I'm been advised the surgery would be complicated and bowel reconstruction and will reduce egg quality and numbers she did mention donor eggs which is a mind field but surly with what's goin on it would be too toxic environment so do I risk the surgery first just Soo many questions anyone been in a similar boat sorry for my ramble

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry lovely 😢 I do t have any specific advice on your situation except perhaps to think of what’s best for your overall health as well as IVF chances when it comes to the surgery as whether tou use own eggs or donor your health will be the number one priority in all this 🤗 thinking of you and hope you have people around you to help you/you can vent at as that must be a frustarting/hurtful time to hear that you can’t go for collection 💜

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. My feelings are, that you need to get yourself as well as you can begin trying for a baby again. Your surgery would be to improve your health. Should your fertility suffer, then you would hopefully have the wonderful option of having your baby via egg donation. I do realise that you want your own genetic baby, but if this can’t happen, being a well mum using a donor would be amazing. Get better first and see what is to be. Thinking of you. Diane