Should be feeling excited, but feeling terrified!

[TeddyBear5]

My Dr signed off the transfer of our 9 donor embryos to us today from our known donor. I thought I’d be elated but I surprised myself by feeling absolutely terrified! It’s taken so long getting all the tests done, I don’t think I ever thought it would happen.

I’ve not felt great today, just a virus or something, I think feeling low anyway I just can’t help thinking of all that can go wrong. The thought of actually having a successful pregnancy seems so unlikely, I’m so scared of having another miscarriage or TMFR. Hopefully a good nights sleep will help me with a bit of positivity! I think I just need to gear myself up for this next journey. FET will be mid Jan 😬

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi TeddyBear. Oh I’m sure you are terrified, but I feel sure one of the little ones you have there, will nestle down and provide you with the family you so deserve. I truly wish you every success.Diane

[TeddyBear5 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you x

[Twiglet2]

good luck lovely 🥰 lots of chances for you that’s amazing! Absolutely terrifying too of course I’m afraid at all to get my hopes up at this point to have them dashed, especially chance of a miscarriage again, I think that’s where the fear comes from mostly! But it’s also very exciting each transfer brings us closer to having a healthy baby. AND you having donor embryos should increase that chance 💜

Treat yourself and relax over Christmas as Ive a feeling next year will be a busy and exciting one for you ✨ xx

[WillowPark]

It is exciting but don't ever feel like you "should" be feeling anything in particular. It is also terrifying. And worrying. And completely overwhelming. However you feel is completely acceptable. Just give yourself time to feel all the feelings and don't feel bad about any of it x

[GraceFace]

It’s a big deal, what you’re doing, and it can take a while to process it all. Bear in mind most clinics have a Fertility Counsellor or two on staff, in case you need to talk it through x