Hi all,
My husband (41m) and I (36f) have been trying to conceive for 16 months since we got married with no luck, zero, zilch. We're currently going through NHS tests to see what the issue(s) might be.
None of my friends had fertility struggles that I know of, and I'm feeling lonely some days and like I don't even know how to describe this kind of grief. Tell me I'm not alone in this?
Thanks x
you are so not alone! I also feel like all my friends fell pregnant super easily too. I’m 36 and we’ve been trying for two years now. Absolutely zilch until a very early misacarriage (5 weeks) after an embryo transfer a couple of weeks ago. It’s a tough old road but there are plenty of people on here to answer questions and give support as you need it. Sending you lots of luck and a big hug x
Thank you, really appreciate that! All the best for you too x
Absolutely you are not alone and grief is the right word. Hopefully being on here will help you feel less alone. Infertility is so common but it is like this thing in society that you don't see it is there until you know what to look for...
Thank you. You're so right - I knew it happened, but to other people, and that's very different to going through it yourself!
You are not alone. My husband and I have been trying since we got married 6 years ago. I am about to turn 36. No luck yet unfortunately. A couple of months after we got married I found out that I have severe endometriosis, most likely this is causing the issue. That news sent me into a spiral of depression and binge eating. Ended up putting on A LOT of weight. Now hoping to go down the IVF route in the new year. In preparation have lost a lot of weight (10 stone so far!), healthy eating and also doing accupunture to make sure I am as healthy as possible. It is very hard hearing about other girls who get pregnant very easily or by mistake. When I heard that a relative was pregnant or a colleague in work was expecting I would break down. To cope with it, I have had to change my mindset... it would drive you mad otherwise! Switching to a more positive outlook has helped my mental health and general health overall. My baby is coming... just have to wait a bit longer. Perhaps try this?
Thank you for sharing, and I'm sorry to hear about the endo - that's a really hard thing to have to bear. Wishing you all the best for IVF - you're right that mindset must be so important, thank you for the advice!
You’re not alone. My partner and I (34 and 36) have been trying for almost two years and just had our first transfer recently, which hasn’t worked 💔
I’m the last in a friendship group to have a baby and it’s always ‘oooh your turn next’ or ‘there’s no right time to have one, you should start trying at least!’ And it makes me feel violent… not really, that’s a bit dramatic but it does make me feel really down. In the last two years there have been a few pregnancies close to home, a couple of ‘happy accidents’ and a couple of ‘we were trying but didn’t think it would happen so fast’ situations but Behind_Hazel_Eyes is right, you just have to find positive ways to deal with it. I think now I just feel happy for them that they don’t have to go through what we are and am trying to think that this is just a messed up way of the universe testing us to see how badly we really want it 😂
I wish you all the best with your IVF. We’ve chosen not to share our story with anyone but our parents so this forum has become a real crutch for me and everyone here is so great.
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry about your first transfer.
I guess people who haven't had fertility struggles are well-meaning, but they just don't think! (Funnily enough they're much more pushy with my husband than me and he finds that hard!) I never want to be a person who begrudges others' happiness, but I wish people would sometimes engage brain before they open their mouths 😂
Really appreciate you and others here reaching out as it's made a difficult day feel a bit easier x
You are not alone. Been doing ICIS and talking about infertility since I was 30. I am now 37 and had our 4th transfer of a frozen embryo (3 separate cycles) last week. We have had 1 successful pregnancy in all those years throughout our IVF/ICIS journey.
This is a long and hard journey but we are not alone, there are many many in your shoes and one thing you'll find in this forum is abundance of support and kind words.
I pray the journey is very short for you and you have a happy ending with a baby in your arms.
Thank you, and best wishes to you x
You are not alone! It's so scary at first when you don't have answers and like you all my friends seemed to get pregnant with a click of their fingers. But as you talk about it a bit more and find out a bit more you realise that isn't the case.
I've chatted to lots of people since that have been through Fertility treatments, some people got their happy ending and some like us are still working to get there.
Once you've had your investigations, gotten some answers and hopefully a path moving forward you'll feel more like you've got this.
Nobody wants to be in this infertility club but the members are unbelievably strong and amazing.
If you're somebody that doesn't like opening up to people around them, come on here there is always other women that are going through or have been through something similar to give encouragement and advice.
Lots of love. ❤️xxx
Thank you! Xx
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