I’ve got a call with my clinic tomorrow to discuss my recent failed FET. I have one more frostie left but finding it hard to be optimistic as it’s a day 6 4CC embryo.
I’m very lucky to have a nearly 3 year old boy it’s just so sad that it’s unlikely I’ll be be able to give him a sibling. At least I’ll have done everything I can. It’s just so horrible to go for transfer with such little hope. Please share your experiences good and bad/any advice you were given if you had a similarly graded embryo.
Hope everyone is doing okay and sending baby dust and good wishes to you all xxx
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Oh. It’s just my grades are either B+B+, B+B-, B-B- or B-C. They never give just a A or B. It’s different for C. They only give C. Did you PGS test? I was 40 when I did egg retrieval and didn’t PGS test as didn’t expect to get many blastocysts due to previous mfi.
Hi, the clinic I'm at doesn't tell you the embryo grading, so I just assumed they all have an equal chance. Maybe that one is the one that's been waiting for you. Xx
Just going to chime in and say of course you will be sad and you have every right to be. A failed cycle is dreadful and difficult to deal with and you haven’t been insensitive at all 💜 My little boy was a day 6, 4BB frostie if that helps. Wishing you all the luck, I know how hard it is going into a transfer low on hope but you’ve got this lovely xx
TTC failed IVF losses having child already doesn't ease the pain. We had losses before our youngest daughter arrived safely. I remember a consultant in EPU for my last MC saying to me "why are you crying?! You have 2 children!" ( I had a son from a previous relationship and we had only 1 daughter at that point after a 7 year struggle I might) At that point they were not allowing partners to scans coz of Covid. It was an unkind but also irrelevant comment it had only been 3 months since we lost our daughter at 20 weeks pregnant and there we were losing a second pregnancy after losing her which the consultant knew. . You are allowed to feel just as sad of course you want a sibling for your son we wanted our daughter to have sibling ( and actually we are 4 weeks 3 days early days but hoping for the best for baby no 3 ) Anyway im so sorry the transfer wasn't successful but wishing you luck on the next one and hope you get BFP Xx
Thanks Jess, I’m so sorry for your losses. What a heartless comment from your consultant. My scans were during covid too, such a shame having to go alone. I was in hospital with preeclampsia and when I found out my boy was measuring small I was just crying on my own too sad to ring my husband. Luckily all was okay but it’s so scary having no support. It will be so lovely to have your partner with you for your next scans and at all the milestones ☺️. Huge congratulations to you with your pregnancy and thanks for your kind words xx
it could definitely work - and if it does it’s more likely to be a girl! (Day 6 lower graded embryos are much more likely to be girls 😊).
It’s less about the grading and whether it’s chromosomally ‘normal’ etc. I’ve known loads of people have their top graded ones fail and the ones that have stuck are the worst graded ones.
My day 6 embryo has got me the furthest so far (currently 18 weeks and all going well 🤞). I was hesitant about day 6s as well (my last one was a 10 week MMC) but neither of my day 5s (5AA and 5AB) have worked 🤷🏻♀️ so day 6 obviously works better for my body! Good luck with your transfer! 🤞🍀
My 3 month old boy was a day 6 4BC. I was given a 25% chance by the consultant. However he said once it implanted it had as good a shot as any of being healthy. Interesting I had also read that Day 6 low grades were more likely to be girls, but his 2 year old sister was a Day 5 3BB (I think) transferred fresh, and then he was the Day 6 frozen from that same cycle! Best of luck xx
Oh that’s lovely! 25% chance is still so good, even if mine is less being CC it’s definitely encouraging. Really useful info from your consultant thanks so much xx
Hello, I just transferred my last embryo which is a day 6 4cb, so I know where you're coming from. I know the stats aren't good, but like others have said, it might be the lucky one. My 2 worst graded embryos implanted, while the best didn't (no successful pregnancies, though). All you can do is try and see how it goes.
I feel exactly the same. I did IVF IMSI due to mfi for my son who will be 3 on 2nd December. I’m 42 now and tried to do more egg retrievals at 40 when egg quality was better but due to not being told sooner to update passport and not being offered more chances in 2021 I only have one good cycle to rely on from November 2021. Ironically, I had a higher amount of blastocysts at 40 than 38 but that was because my husband took all the supplements from It Starts with the egg plus ate better and lycopene. Because I didn’t expect many blastocysts, I decided against PGS testing. So I transferred 2 good graded blastocysts which were 6B+B+ and 6B+B- and one stuck but I had a missed miscarriage at 8w 1d.
We have one more 6B+B- but most left are 6B-B- and one 6B-C. My husband has had enough of IVF but my family is small so really wanted to give my son a sibling. I am preparing for another transfer in December but still waiting for period.
So sorry to hear about your missed miscarriage. We did ICSI too due to male factor. I feel exactly the same about wanting my son to have a sibling because we have a small family. My mum died young and I always worry about him being alone if anything were to happen to me and my husband. Wishing you all the best for December!
Just spoke to my consultant who said there’s a 10-15% chance of live birth. So definitely not nothing and as mentioned above if it implants then it has a good a chance as any. So here’s hoping!
Hey, i was also going to ask if u went for it! So happy to hear this, please keep us updated, really hope it implants! I have one frozen one left too day 6 3bc but doc said it might not survive the thaw. I had a day 5 4bb fail so thinking of going through the whole stims etc again but I'm not sure now!xx
Hi both, wish I had better news but I tested this morning and it was negative for me. It did survive the thaw with no issues however. Wishing you better luck xx
Also age has a lot to do with it. If you are under 40, you have a better chance. When I was 38 nearly 39, I only had two blastocysts left due to mfi but both were transferred fresh and one stuck.
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