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[herewego89]

Now on day 5 of Gonal F, day 1 I was wracked with nerves but once the first jab was done I realised the stress around the jabs was nothing and all in my head…. Now however I have my first scan since starting the Gonal F tomorrow at 11:15 😅 and errr the nerves have RETURNED with a vengeance.

What ifs are flooding my mind, scrolling through people’s experiences has become a new hobby 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 as we are keeping this experience largely between Hubby and myself it’s not like we can chat to friends.

Work have been ok in supporting me (I guess…) they have said I can have unpaid leave to attend appointments. Not sure what I think about the process… what has been other peoples experience with IVF and work been like?

[Queg]

Hi herewegoI work for one of those old established companies, lowest paid manual shift work. I get one shift off with pay if my IVF appointment falls on the shift day. I work nights, but I will get the night off paid. The rest is unpaid leave. The tricky bit is I can't always predict when I will need the time off as it depends on the scans etc. I have organised with my manager to call in as soon as I know, and just say I'm taking the night off and he is aware of why, so the whole branch doesn't know my business. Work, in this regard has been excellent. Aside from him none of my colleagues know what I'm going through. I am also a student (undergrad). The uni has been ok I can resit exams at the end of the year with no penalty, have alternative assignments or have exceptional circumstances considered.

My hubby's job has been similarly supportive. Sometimes his manager approves his absences with one day notice. My hubby's colleagues are similar age, all have kids and they did ask him at some point in the past why we didn't have any children. So I think on eventually hearing we were going to go through IVF they were feeling a bit guilty and doing everything to help.

I hear you with keeping it to yourselves. It is hard with no one to talk to about it but I want to keep it that way. If I do have a pregnancy I will tell my two closest friends at work in confidence what I was going through with the IVF, but I dont want to burden them with my worries and I can't take the pity/sympathy.

Wishing you the best.