weak heartbeat

[Orangemoon123]

Hi all,

This forum has been such a help in one way but I do find myself on it for hours reading your relatable stories.

So the ivf calculator says I’m 6w6d from a fresh DE cycle.

last weekend I started bleeding heavily with large clots. I had a scan last Sunday in which they found a yolk sac and another scan last Tuesday which they found (to all of our surprise) a developing embryo (fetal pole) with a flickering heartbeat. They also found the area of bleed.

My clinic increased my progesterone from 800mg to 1000mg a day.

Today my scan showed a weak heartbeat and they said they have concerns.

I’m absolutely willing the little life on and trying to think positively as I am still pregnant but this is so hard. The nurse did say the progesterone is slowing down the bleed.

I’ve been resting today and reading everyone’s stories on here. I’ve just gone to the toilet and wiped dark red/ brown blood. I have very faint cramps with slight discomfort in my left leg. But nothing that’s made me double over or be worried. I don’t know if I’m underplaying the twinges.

I’ve taken the week off work because I know I’ll just burst into tears and also if it’s going to happen I don’t want in to be whilst I’m at work. Equally I’m not sure if rest will help.

I’m tempted to get a private scan in on Thursday of Friday as next Tuesday seems like forever!

This is heartbreaking 💔

[Elmo13]

Hi Orangemoon,

I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I know what a worrying time this must be.

Try and stay as positive as you can, although this is difficult, I know. I personally think you’ve done the best thing by taking the week off work in such a stressful time.

I had a spontaneous miscarriage at work a few wks ago and being at the workplace and being unable to leave made it far more traumatic. Use this time to watch some tv programmes that make you laugh.

Keeping everything crossed for you. Xx

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Elmo13]

oh I’m so sorry to hear what you went through Elmo 💔 Thank you for taking the time to reply x

Thank you for your advice I’ll definitely check out Netflix to see if I can take my mind off it. The waiting is agonising!

Sending hugs to you too x

[Mlove12]

Hey, sorry to hear your having a stressful time! I dont really have any advice or similar experience however I know that 6-7 weeks is still super early to hear an accurate heart beat , its more of a little flutter at this stage so please don’t panic. The scan still showed everything which needed to be there which is the main thing right now. Take some time to destress and distract you. Fingers cross for positive news at your next appointment 🤞🏼x

[Positive20]

Hi Orangemoon

As already mentioned on here I definitely think resting up and taking time off work is the right thing to do. I did the exact same thing when I had low hormone levels (unfortunately it did result in a miscarriage) and I’m glad I never tried to continue in work whilst going through it. Keep us posted. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Positive20]

Hi Positive,

I’m so sorry you went through that. Thank you for your kind support xx

[Twiglet2]

sending you love and hoping it turns out okay for you. As you say there is hope as they saw the fetal pole etc defo the right thing to rest up especially if they can see the source of the bleed. I had an SCH and was told to only get up to pee for a week or so! Wishing and hoping for you xxx 💜

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Twiglet2]

thank you Twiglet2. I did go to work last week for 2 days as I wasn’t bleeding, my students have exams this week so I knew they’d be anxious not seeing me. But now yes just rest! Did your sch stop?

[Twiglet2 in reply to Orangemoon123]

that’s so nice of you to go in, yes I bled for about 5 weeks with 2 massive bleeds but it had resolved itself luckily by 10 weeks but they did have concerns especially on my first 2 scans xx

[rainbowbaby8320]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! I can't even imagine how painful it must be for you!

Maybe you should try and keep busy because I honestly believe the negative thoughts will not help! I know it's not easy and i'm the worst for this? I really hope everything turns out ok for you xx

[Orangemoon123 in reply to rainbowbaby8320]

thank you ❤️

[Woody2019]

I have everything crossed for you, as if ivf isn’t tough enough! Best of luck♥️

[Elmo13]

Hi Orangemoon,

Just thought I’d check in to say hope things are going ok. I remember you mentioning having a scan this week. Wishing you all the best. Xx

[Orangemoon123]

hi everyone,

Thank you Elmo for checking in 💜

I had my scan yesterday and there was no heartbeat 💔 I am very sad. I might be broken for a little while. But this is not the end of my journey.

This post, your comments gave me hope and I thank you all for that 🙏xx

[Elmo13 in reply to Orangemoon123]

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I have experienced this pain as I had a silent miscarriage last year. It was devastating and it felt dark for quite some time.

Hope you have support around you, I was offered some counselling which I didn’t take but I know it can be very beneficial for some ladies.

As you say, this is not the end of your journey at all. Take the time to replenish and get stronger. Hope you don’t have to go back to work any time soon and can just be in the comfort of your home. Wishing you the best. Big hugs. X

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Elmo13]

Thank you Elmo, I have a d&c tomorrow. Feels surreal. I waited a week to see progress then finalising things within 48 hours.

I’m off work for as long as I need. As you say I’m

Just going to try and rebuild my inner strength, the darkness is too quickly consuming.

I hope you are ok, did you try again after?

[Elmo13 in reply to Orangemoon123]

For me the d&c helped so I could at least start moving on physically afterwards. Mentally took longer. But it does get better. After the silent miscarriage I did a double FET which sadly ended in a spontaneous miscarriage a few wks ago. But doing pretty good all things considered!

Wishing you lots of love and strength for tomorrow. Xx

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Elmo13]

Thank you Elmo 💜 Sending you hugs and continued strength too xx

[Habibi87]

Just wanted to send you lots of strength. Be kind to yourself, this journey is a very hard x

[Orangemoon123 in reply to Habibi87]

thank you 💜 I take the strength you send in my heart over the next few days and weeks. ✨