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which wait is the hardest?🤪

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This ‘journey’ sure does try my patience and nerves sometimes! 🤪

Had egg collection yday (4th one, 3rd one trying for a sibling) got 8 eggs (not bad for a 41 year old I am telling myself…) 7 were mature and 5 have fertilised.

I find the next few days excruciating waiting to see if any make it blast and driving myself bonkers already! it feels like as soon as we get past one worry we are on to the next! And right at the time when we can’t have a wine as well 😂

Hoping to get to the 2WW which is just as bad if not worse at times!

wishing everyone no matter what ‘wait’ they are in strength and patience 💕🤗💜💪🏼

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Bonaire12 profile image
Bonaire12

Hey

8 eggs is great well done 👏🏻

I’m totally with you on the what’s worse wait… I found the waiting for the embryos to do their thing just as bad as they 2WW! I have my fingers crossed for you 🙏

Can I ask did you do anything different this time round or do you generally get a good number of eggs xx

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Twiglet2 in reply toBonaire12

thank you! Similar number of eggs to last round (got 9) but more were mature this time, the only thing I did differently was take royal jelly to get some help from the queen 🐝‘a but not sure if that’s what’s helped get some more mature this time 🤔 There was only 5 follicles on the scan at the right size so I was surprised with 8 tbh… just need to wait and see how these 5 do now 🤞🏽 xx

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Rainbowdreams82

8 eggs is brilliant 👏🏼 and 5 fertilised! Sounds very positive. What day will they phone ? Is it day 3? Trying to remember? Or do they phone the next day?

All the waiting is torturous! I’ve told myself in this 2ww torture I’m not retesting until Saturday but sitting trying to stop myself wanting to jump in the car to go to shop to buy another test for tomorrow 🤣 I’ve purposely ordered more to arrive later tomorrow so I’ll test Saturday am.

Try to keep busy and do nice things. No wine but you can have a wee treat of chocolate or popcorn or something yummy in front of the tv.

Got my fingers crossed for you and sending all the positive vibes your way for 5 x cracking 5 day blastocysts xx🥰🤞

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Twiglet2 in reply toRainbowdreams82

if you are like me as soon as the postman arrives you will run upstairs for a pee with them 🤣🙈🤪 I’m really hoping this is it for you though ☺️💜

Our clinic don’t phone you until day 5 now unless they want to change to a day 3 transfer (ie only one in the running or ahead of the rest) but I asked them for a day 3 update on Saturday if possible as I defo cannot wait that long to know on the morning of meant to be transfer! In fact they have already given me a time for day 5 transfer so don’t even think they were planning on phoning at all now and just telling me when I got there but they obviously don’t know how impatient I am even after all these years of being at the clinic 🤣😂

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Rainbowdreams82 in reply toTwiglet2

I totally agree on the 3 day update. Waiting until the day of is torture. Now you’ve said that it’s reminded me that when I transferred the embryo that is now my boy, on my own due to COVID in 2020, they phoned me when I was in the car park to say they were ready for me and that I had a 4AA and told me about my 4 other embryos. So must’ve been the same. Nuts!!! I can’t wait at all now! Just like you, after all these years the waiting just gets harder and harder!

I’ll 100% probs be running to the toilet to test when it arrives 😂 already wishing I had one for tomorrow morning! What a silly plan to just have none in the house 🤣xx

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Twiglet2 in reply toRainbowdreams82

yeah in 2020 with our wee boy I had to go in myself but luckily was a frozen one so I agreed to have it out the freezer that morning and asked them to tell me it thawed it okay before I left. I’m the same as you I’ve probably got more impatient rather than better at it all 🤣

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Rainbowdreams82 in reply toTwiglet2

morning 👋how are you? Impatient is definitely the word after all these years. I can’t get through the night right now. Keep waking up and can’t help but think. It’s being 40 with the fear this will never happen! The waiting is torturous! Can’t believe I’ve to wait until tomorrow! 🤣 I’m sure you’re feeling similar this morning xx

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Twiglet2 in reply toRainbowdreams82

I’m feeling a bit calmer just now but as the day goes on and next call gets closer I am sure I will be a bag of nerves. How is your cramps now? It’s good for you to have a wee day off of testing if you can but don’t put yourself under too much pressure there’s no prizes for waiting if you do feel like it would help you when they arrive 🤗💜 xxx

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Rainbowdreams82 in reply toTwiglet2

that’s good you’re feeling calmer. One more day and you’ll hear how your wee embryos are doing. So exciting!

My cramps have eased and were hardly there yesterday. I feel slight cramps after I do pessaries but know that’s normal. Who knows! Just have to keep everything crossed and wait.

A fun day with my boy will distract me. I won’t be clambering all over things though at his Kindergym class 😆xx

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MammaMia86

Sounds like great numbers to me!!! On my first cycle i've got 8 eggs...4 fertilised and 2 arrived to blasto.....in the cycle I got pregnant on the first transfer.... so I see it as you have good odds.

Good luck🤞🤞

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Twiglet2 in reply toMammaMia86

aww amazing thanks for that really helps to remember it can work with those odds 🤞🏽💜 xx

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McQueeny

Ha! I totally sympathise…. There’s the wait for the embryos. Then , this time, we also did PGT-A , so there was the wait for the results. Agony.

Then the 2WW - which for me was still worse than the first two! Then if you get a BFP, there’s the wait for the viability scan….

It’s never ending. 😆💫🤞

Good luck!

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Twiglet2 in reply toMcQueeny

oh gosh of course the testing wait must be even harder!!! Thanks lovely 🥰 🤞🏽 xx

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minnesota_girl

I always say whichever wait you have next is the hardest one 🙈😂

Wishing you all the best ❣️🙏

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Twiglet2 in reply tominnesota_girl

this is absolutely the truth right here 🤣💜 thanks lovely xx

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TeddyBear5

it’s less of a journey and more of a war against all the shit that happens along the way. Sort of a fertility tough mudder - uphill with your legs tied together, one arm behind your back and a blindfold! I hate all of it!

Good luck twiglet - the wait to see if the embryos are ok is the most emotional I think. Great number of eggies!!

I think the 2ww is worse of you don’t have any frozen back up - but it’s still bloody awful.

I just had my last FET and it’s BFN. I’m 43 and feeling old and sorry for myself. At least I am able to have wine!!!

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Twiglet2 in reply toTeddyBear5

fertility tough mudder made me laugh 😆 that’s exactly it! We should defo get sponsorship for it!!

Aww damn it I’m so sorry I was hoping this would be the one for you 😢 well deserved glass (bottle) of wine for you this weekend and spoil yourself as much as you can 💜 ate you planning on another cycle? Xx

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Crie1983

Wow, 8 is great and the conversion rate to blastocyst is brilliant too. I’m just waiting to go in for my 4th and final egg collection today…assuming they collect any, the next 5 days will feel like a long time! Then I go for PGTA testing so a long road ahead…

I’m with you on the worry, it certainly is an up and down journey.

Good luck and all the best for you and your family. X

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Twiglet2 in reply toCrie1983

good luck today 🤗 not sure if we will get any blasts yet still in the waiting game for that one but 5 were fertilised yday so here’s hoping we get at least one. Xx

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Crie1983 in reply toTwiglet2

Sorry, I completely misread that. Good luck, have everything crossed for you. X

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Nenad

the entire process is awful, from start to finish. The things we do to try to complete our family! Hope you get a good number of blastocysts, looks promising so far xxx

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Twiglet2 in reply toNenad

thanks lovely 🥰 hopefully all worth it in the end xx

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Daughterofaking

Here is wishing you all the.best in your journey. I think everyt6that has to do with IVF is a hard process but we shall all conquer. xx

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Twiglet2 in reply toDaughterofaking

thank you xx

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Tir-26

really pleased for you! I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, good luck x

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Twiglet2 in reply toTir-26

thank you 🤗💜

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