Is there any hope? 4dp5dt and sensing another failure on the horizon.😢

[Minniemouse88]

I know that technically it's far too early for symptoms but I feel just as I did for my last transfer, which ended in BFN and convinced this one will be the same.Yesterday I had a tight bloated feeling in my stomach and pulling sensations low down but pretty sure this was my bowels due to constipation (sorry, TMI).

I'm really lost and feeling pretty hopeless. I had to walk out of the office today overhearing colleagues moaning that they wish they didn't have kids. Some of them are aware of my situation and I felt pretty angry about it so went for a walk and had a cry.

I really feel for those of you going through this too so please don't feel you have to reply if you need more positive vibes. I just needed to get it down in writing somewhere where I know people will understand me.

Take good care and sending love xx

[Klndmr]

We've all been there, going through positive and negative thoughts, symptom spotting etc. No symptoms doesn't mean it's a failure, lots of symptoms aren't a sign for a success. Most time in early days people get pregnancy like symptoms but is all due to the hormones we take. I've had 5 positive transfers with all "symptoms" and yet I have no living children soooo do not get discouraged from now Hun. Try and stay as positive as possible, avoid people who make you feel sad and stress you out, eat well, have regular walks with lots of fresh air and just think of the best! You are not out yet, and don't make the mistake of testing early too cause it will drive you mad.

All the best of luck and lots and lots of baby dust! Hope you get a positive result at the end of the dreaded 2ww 🤗🙏💞❤️

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Klndmr]

Thank you so much for taking time to respond - all really sound and thoughtful advice. Think today has just been a wobble day and the progesterone is definitely working it's magic on my mood. I'm usually quite reserved and quiet but could have happily given a piece of my mind to everyone today who crossed my path😆! Thanks for sharing and sorry to hear you have been through so much. Sending lots of good wishes and luck your way too 💕 Take care x

[Klndmr in reply to Minniemouse88]

Thank you ever so much! Progesterone is a monster ahhahahaha mixed with oestrogen and it's a ticking bomb 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[HollyT7]

hell yeah there’s hope. All you need is a little bit of luck. I was completely different with each of my bfps! xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to HollyT7]

Good to hear, thank you. Positivity from you lovely ladies means more than from others! Xxx

[rainbowbaby8320]

Hi

I was just wondering was it fresh or frozen? Have you had any cramps?

If frozen it may me way too early x they can take 5-7 days to implant! X

[Minniemouse88 in reply to rainbowbaby8320]

Sorry for the delay in responding and thank you for the encouragement. It was a frozen 5 day blastocyst this time. On day 6 now and feeling a familiar low pulling sensation that often comes before my period. Will keep hoping though. Thank you xx

[Cricril]

hi, also 4dp with 5db, my first FET and also not feeling any symptoms, unfortunately it’s all out of our control and all we can do is think positive and hope. Just wanted to drop you a note to say, you’re not alone and I wish you all the best, you’ve got this 💪 x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Cricril]

Of course you are absolutely right. Wishing you every success and thank you xx so have you 😊💪

[Hopecontinues]

Hi,

If it helps, I had the same symptoms when I had a BFP to all the previous BFNs. The bloating cramping etc.. I tested on 7dpt5dt and had a really strong result. By day 8 implantation bleeding which was different to the BFNs and am now 13 weeks. I was convinced it hadn't worked until the test and after that I started feeling different.

I know it's so difficult when you have had previous disappointments. You dont want to get your hopes up, but I really hope this is your time. ❤️

X

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Hopecontinues]

Thank you for your lovely words of encouragement. It really helps xx

[minnesota_girl]

there is absolutely nothing more exhausting and hard than waiting for a positive or negative test when you've already been through so much. Your mind is halfway to negative already when you've had negatives in the past - it's just so easy to do!

I don't think that honestly anything helps at this stage other than to just put one foot in front of the other and get through the days. There's no guessing on it - people have and don't have symptoms, and anything can either be a good sign or a not good sign! But in reality it's still all guesswork - and also we can't do anything to change the outcome. Being happy or negative doesn't change the outcome. So any way you're feeling is absolutely fine and understandable.

I honestly started taking holidays during my 2wws because I just couldn't tolerate sitting at home and it started giving me some better memories regardless of outcome - but if you're working or not able to do that, just give yourself grace to be a bit less productive and protect yourself - watch a bit of TV, random easy shows to rewatch. I was a zombie most of the time during these stages and I found accepting this a bit easier for me personally.

There is still hope, always - 4dp5dt is early but one of the HARDEST days in the 2ww I think!

xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to minnesota_girl]

Hi Minnesota girl. Firstly, thank you for a lovely message - it 100% sums up everything and reassured me I'm not alone in the torment. I can definitely relate to feeling like a zombie! I like the idea of getting away during the TWW. Unfortunately I am working but even this is better than doing nothing. Really appreciate your response. Take care and thank you again xx❤️

[Woody87]

sending so much love and keeping everything crossed for you. Did you go for a part medicated cycle? Just remmeber you’re not alone and you must look after yourself. Remove yourself from upsetting situations whenever possible!! I’m hoping to start my second round of FET very soon when the clinic has availability, and thinking of part medicated cycle so was just wondering how you found it in comparison if so? ❤️

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Woody87]

Hi Woody87, Thank you for getting back in touch and for your kind words ❤️

I went for natural with progesterone for a bit of reassurance. My lining thickened nicely with my body's own oestrogen so in that respect it was better because the oestrogen made me feel really queasy first time round. The peril came when ovulation nearly landed on Tuesday, which would have meant cancelling the cycle as my clinic isn't open in Sunday for blastocyst transfers. Other than that, it was a bit more hassle having to go to clinic more frequently for ovulation monitoring but overall I would do it again as it felt kinder for my body.

I wish you all the best whatever you decide. Take care and lots of luck xxx

[minnesota_girl]

How are you holding up? is it now 8dpt??

[Minniemouse88 in reply to minnesota_girl]

Hi, how sweet of you to check in with me, thank you. It's test day tomorrow and I'm almost certain this time won't be our time. I've had night sweats every night just like last time and AF twinges. Just trying to put a brave face on and keep going at work today. If nothing else, it will be nice not to have progesterone side effects next week. Thank you for your kindness, really appreciated ❤️xx

[Minniemouse88]

Thank you everyone for all the our kind words. Sadly today we have had the news that our second FET has failed. Your support has really helped though. Sending you all lots of love and good wishes xx

[McQueeny in reply to Minniemouse88]

I’m so sorry…. 😔 sending strength and hope for the next one 💪💫🍀 x