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Hi everyone,

I am doing an FET in a fortnight and i can't snap out of being convinced its not going to work :( i'm in much worse shape now than last transfer (i have a 10 month baby with no family in this country therefore no time to work out, eating convenience foods) and I'm much more tired than last time as up twice a night to feed her (and stressed with a baby!). I cant help but think all these factors will work against me :(

I have been pregnant twice before (one was a miscarriage trisomy 15) and its a tested embryo from the same round as my daughter.

Anyone been in the same position where general health isnt as good as it was first FET and had success? I must remain positive, but its hard to when so much has changed :(

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TeddyBear5

hey lovely, I feel the same! My last pregnancy was from the same round as my son but was TFMR for trisomy 13. It’s 2 years since I was last pregnant with that, and 7 years since I had my son. Im Fatter, older and wiser which is not a good thing. I know all the bad stuff that can happen and I’m so realistic, I can’t see it working - but I so want it to :/

I’m 43 - this embie is my last from a round in November when I was 42. I had a chemical after a fresh transfer. This is my remaining embryo from that cycle. My embryo is untested.

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to TeddyBear5

Sounds like we're in a similar boat :( i'm 40 now and this embryo is from a round in 2021 when i was 39.

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TeddyBear5 in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

let’s think positive! My transfer is in 2 weeks also 🤞🤞🤞🤞

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Hope you get some positive replies from your post .Also to wish you good luck when you restart your treatment

Look after yourself

Janet

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Sw1234

Yes! 100% me! I had my EC and transfer when my baby was 9 months. Like you, I was more tired than before baby and I hadn't been eating as healthily as with my LB. To get my LB I was obsessed with eating the right food etc and it took me 5 transfers to get him. I'm now 19 weeks pregnant with my first embryo of my second cycle, it was a huge shock but I think I being kept busy was definitely a plus and I didn't have time to over think this time. All the best to you xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to Sw1234

congratulations, your children will be so close in age which is awesome! thank you for the reassurance and all the best with the remainder of your pregnancy. take care xxxxc

Ovulated a week early and 11mm lining, FETuesday 11th with a tested embryo, pleeeaaaassse worrrrkkk 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

That sounds really positive and your body is ready for this! I have my FET booked on Wednesday, will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed that you will see those longed for two lines on the test. I am so looking forward to the transfer but like you I'm thinking I could be fitter, weigh less and sleep more. Life is what it is, we can only try our utmost best in the conditions we find ourselves in. Your lining sounds brilliant, you will be doing amazingly! xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to DreamingOfTwo79

i love your user name! we can get through the 2WW together, as usual i'll be scared to go to the toilet each time 🤦🏼‍♀️ will be thinking of u Wednesday 🙏🏻🙏🏻 xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to DreamingOfTwo79

p.s when is your test date?(mine is Saturday 22nd April (if i make it) x

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

Thank you! Yes, let's keep each other sane in the next two weeks! My OTD is 26 April (14dp5dt) but my clinic offer a beta hCG test on 12dp5dt which I will gladly be making use of and I have to admit that I am someone who will be testing out the trigger so daily testing for me. I know it doesn't work for everyone but from experience I know that it will help me to manage my anxiety and impatience! Best of luck for Tuesday, let's all hope for the absolute best news! xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to DreamingOfTwo79

i did that last time and messed it up - i was SURE the line was getting lighter from trigger then Dr called with BFP. i was SO confused and wouldn't believe her! 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 safe to say i wont be doing it again but i will test the night before beta, just to prepare myself and give myself a heads up.

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

Oh my, what a shock that must have been! That shows how tense we all are in those dreaded two weeks! Yours is a good plan, I don’t think I could bear the suspense of having to wait for a phone call either to tell me if I’m pregnant. Not long now, Tuesday is only two sleeps away! So exciting! X

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TeddyBear5 in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

just saw this! Good luck 🤞 xxxx

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McQueeny

good luck! I totally understand, I’m the same, we are trying for a sibling for my son and both hubby and I are older, fatter, not sleeping enough and not eating as well as we should 🤦‍♀️ we try, but between stressful jobs and a 3yr old it’s so hard. We’ve had a few failures and trying again - transfer Monday 🤞💫🍀

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to McQueeny

oh i hear ya, it IS difficult. I don't get to workout in the gym either any more, i could for an hour when she's having a nap but I'm so tired with still getting up twice a night at 10 months that I just don't have the energy honestly :( Monday transfer - so close!!!! got everything crossed for u, let me know how u go. my test date is Saturday 22nd april (if i get that far) - whens yours? xx

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McQueeny in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

yup 😔

Thank you! I’m not sure yet but I think it will be 23rd or 24th…. Everything crossed for you 🤞🍀 xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to McQueeny

good luck today McQueeny - thinking of u xx 😘

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McQueeny in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

aww thank you so much!! 🤗 and yours tomorrow! ☺️ xx

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McQueeny in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

good luck today!! 🤞💫 my test day is the 24th 🍀🙏 xx

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to McQueeny

i'm 22nd (day 6 blastie) - feels like forever away doesnt it! :(

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McQueeny in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

it really does… hope all went well 🙏🤞💫 x

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Solly-44 in reply to McQueeny

ooh just saw this! Wishing you all the luck 🍀 🤞 xx

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McQueeny in reply to Solly-44

thank you so much 🤗🤞💫

Ugh, 8dp6dt and i feel heavy as if my period is coming. Cant test as had 6 clicks ovidrel booster for luteal support on Sunday. this whole process sucks, im so impatient 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Icsi_Wincy_Spider in reply to Icsi_Wincy_Spider

Turns out it wasnt - got my BFP today, hcg 429. absolutely zero symptoms in the 2ww so if u don't have any dont panic xx

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