worried we will have nothing to transfer 😬😢

[Twiglet2]

we got the day 3 call yesterday only 2 of our embryos are still in the running but ‘have a big hurdle to climb’ for day 5 was the embryologist words. They recommended keeping them to day 5 to see if they would make it rather than transferring early, although for the first time ever they asked if I wanted to keep them to day 5. I was numb and just said yeah but wish I’d just put them back yesterday now on day 3!

We got 9 eggs collected, 7 mature, 6 fertilised normally. Similar numbers to previous 2 cycles but usually by now we have at least 4 or 5 still going with better cell division and less fragmentation so I’m really worried 😟

I know some ladies would be delighted to still have 2 going at day 3 so I’m really sorry if this seems ungrateful I’ve just never felt so deflated on this journey before 😢 feels like my eggs are telling me to ‘give up’ as I’m ‘too old’ and all the meds and missing Christmas nights out etc. will have been for nothing 😭😢

Sorry for the moan 😂 my wife keeps telling me to ‘be positive’ so I feel bad being negative around her and no one else knows we are trying so thought this might be a good safe place to share my worries 💜🤗

[HedgehogMad]

All my fingers crossed for you Twiglet2 - I guess you have to trust the embryologists, if they thought the embryos were unlikely to make it I guess they would have suggested to put them in on Day 3. Really hope they are late developers and look good in 2 days time!

[Twiglet2 in reply to HedgehogMad]

thank you I hope so! Xx

[GraceFace]

Keeping everything crossed for you x

[Twiglet2 in reply to GraceFace]

that’s so kind thank you 😊

[HMCW22]

Don't apologise for moaning! We all need to, it's so hard to stay positive all of the time on this journey. I'm keeping everything crossed for you and those embryos ♥️ xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to HMCW22]

thank you so much! I actually feel a bit better for the Ian and gave myself a shake 😊 xx

[Hidden]

Crossing everything for you Twiglet xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Hidden]

thanks lovely 😘

[Tnthketnf]

I hope you get better news tomorrow! Sending all the positive energy your way! xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Tnthketnf]

thank you soooo much!! 💜

[TeddyBear5]

I’m sorry you are going through this it’s so hard. My clinic also made me feel quite pessimistic about my 3 on day 3 - they said the drop off rate increases and they weren’t sure any would get there.

I ended up with one day 5 blast for transfer and 1 day 6 blast to freeze so keeping all crossed for you xxxxx

[Twiglet2 in reply to TeddyBear5]

thank you that’s really gave me some hope 🤞🏽 hoping you’ve got a sticky one there xx

[TeddyBear5 in reply to Twiglet2]

I hope so!! I’ve got everything crossed for your embryos - I think the day 3-5 wait is harder than the 2ww!!

[Nenad]

there’s still time for them to make it to day 5 or 6 so don’t give up! I know the drop is scary but at the end of the day you want to transfer the strongest embryos for the best possible chance. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Nenad]

thank you! Your are right 🤞🏽 xx

[Solly-44]

I’m sorry you’re stressed out! It’s impossible to not compare to previous rounds. My clinic doesn’t give any update between fertilisation and day 5 and sometimes it’s nice to not know. You’re almost there now, wishing you all the luck. Come on 2! 🙏💪🤞

Also, moan away, if we can’t here to the only people who truly get it, where can we moan?! Xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Solly-44]

thank you lovely ☺️ it honestly stressed me more than I expected I kinda wish I didn’t know tbh it was an optional day 3 update they do and I usually take it to hell manage my expectations but I clearly didn’t prepare my wee mind for it enough 🤪🙈🤣 we will see what tomorrow brings xx

[Solly-44 in reply to Twiglet2]

will keep everything crossed that they’re both good uns! 🤞🤞

[Skittles11]

Wishing you good luck for your Day 5 update. I know it's totally shitty when the updates are not as good as you'd hoped for/ expected. Try and remain as calm as possible as there's (unfortunately) absolutely nothing you can do to change the outcome, fingers crossed for you xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Skittles11]

thank you!! I’m a control freak I know 🤣🙈 I will have no nails left by tomorrow and I swear a new grey hair just appeared! 😂 xx

[Skittles11 in reply to Twiglet2]

You do make me laugh, I'm glad you've not lost your humour through all the worry 🙂

[Lou9]

Sending loads of positive vibes for your embryos to keep dividing. Waiting is so stressful. Deep breaths… take care xx

[Gerti2020]

wish you lots and lots of luck that you get to transfer and they implant 🤞 this is a very stressful journey x

[Rainbowdreams82]

hey 👋🏼 definitely don’t feel bad for moaning. It’s such a rollercoaster of emotions and often feels like blow after blow. I remember it was a constant worry waiting for the updates from the embryologist.

I’m again in a similar position to you. We have our 18 month old son and back trying again but not telling anyone. Had failed first transfer so waiting for our next shot. It’s a tough old journey and being over 40, I’m not getting any younger.

Will have everything crossed for you that your 2 wee embryos continue to thrive until day 5. You got this and will be sending all the positive vibes 🥰xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Rainbowdreams82]

thank you so much, wishing you lots of luck too on your sibling journey! It feels even harder now when it’s a failed round when you know for sure it can work for some reason xx 💜