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waiting patiently for my viability scan! God this is worse than the 2WW. The closer we are getting to it the more anxious I’m getting.

Xx

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Ltry profile image
Ltry

It's so hard isn't it?! Mine is still 1 week away and I want it to come quicker but also don't want it to! We had a MMC last time so I am so worried that there will be no heartbeat. I've had some bleeding and hardly any symptoms which is making me worried. I'm just trying to keep busy. When is your scan?

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Fairytale22 in reply to Ltry

I’m sorry for your previous loss. mine is on Friday afternoon. It’s soooo hard not to think of anything else. And I’m scared too. I’ve got symptoms still but super anxious. How have you been feeling? Xx

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Ltry in reply to Fairytale22

Yep it's really hard to focus. I'm probably getting about half as much work done as usual. I've felt a bit nauseous but it seems to be getting better. I couldn't eat any dinner at all on Saturday evening but since then not been too bad which is just making me worried! Other than that I've not got any symptoms. So worried as I didn't have any symptoms last time either. It's all so backwards that we want to feel awful!

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Fairytale22 in reply to Ltry

I know give me the symptoms!! 🤪 I started feeling nauseous a week before OTD and it’s eased off now just aches and tiredness. I just want to know everything is okay. 😩 xx

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ButtercupGarden

Yep yep. I hear you! I'm in almost exactly the same position as Ltry and I feel the same, I'm dying to get to scan day but also terrified that we might have the same awful result of no heartbeat. It's an absolute head f***! How does anyone do any work with all this waiting?!

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Fairytale22 in reply to ButtercupGarden

sooo long! I can’t concentrate at work either. When is your scan? X

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Fairytale22

Friday afternoon. I'll be 6+5 so I'm really worried that it will be a bit too early to see the heartbeat and then I'll go into a spiral of despair! Will you be 7w on Friday?

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Fairytale22 in reply to ButtercupGarden

I think they will see it by then hun. I will be 6+2 on Friday but this is the same as I was with my son and see a heartbeat so fingers crossed it’s the same this time. Xx

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Fairytale22

Fingers crossed! 🤞🙏🤞🙏

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Ltry in reply to ButtercupGarden

Good luck on Friday both of you. I'll be 7+5 by the time of my scan 😫 I have asked for it to be brought forward several times but my clinic says that's the earliest they will do it. I see so many on here with scans so much earlier so it's very frustrating!

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Fairytale22 in reply to Ltry

Thank you & you lovey. mine originally gave me a date middle of December I would of been 8w but questioned it and a new list of appointments appeared and they bought it forward. Do you know if we need a full bladder or empty for this scan? Xx

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Ltry in reply to Fairytale22

Ahh that's good, otherwise that would be a horrible wait! I think empty bladder? My clinic does internal scan so that is usually empty. Full bladder for transfer was awful!

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Fairytale22 in reply to Ltry

yes it horrible and staff kept coming out to the waiting room to fill their water bottles up at the water machine! That was torture 😂🙈 x

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Ltry

Mine was supposed to be 7+5 too, but after my bleeds they offered me a week earlier. It feels like a blessing and a curse because if they can't see a heartbeat I'll be back into an even worse limbo.

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Ltry in reply to ButtercupGarden

Hopefully it's late enough for a heartbeat 🤞 how are you feeling otherwise? Do you have many symptoms?

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Ltry

I have waves of nausea every now and again, slightly sore boobs and a bit tired, but I feel like all of those symptoms could be caused by the drugs and the worry! How about you? And Fairytale22 , I think it is an empty bladder scan thank god! I had a mare with the transfer, my bladder was actually too full and I had to go for half a wee before they could do it!

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Fairytale22 in reply to ButtercupGarden

I think we’ve got the same sort of symptoms and the worry! Oh no that sounds difficult I wouldn’t be able to do a half wee! 🙈 x

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Ltry in reply to ButtercupGarden

I've had nausea, quite bad at the weekend but seems to be getting better now which is stressing me out. Otherwise not really feeling anything! It's all so stressful. Oh god how do you manage half a wee? 😂 I definitely would have just let it all out.

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Ltry

I was so worried about doing that! It was so difficult, had to wee into a cup and be so controlled! Sorry, TMI!! 😂Symptom spotting is a nightmare, I'm trying not to dwell on it but it's so hard.

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Tink1989

I have my scan at the clinic today I’m 7+4 I already had a scan at 5+6 and seen a heartbeat I had a scan early because I had a massive bleed which was terrifying I also had severe cramping the said it was a subchorionic hematoma I had bad cramping but no more blood until 3 days ago but the cramping has stopped. I’m terrified of MMC and I have no symptoms my boobs were really sore and now they are just tender no other symptoms 😞

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Tink1989

Ahh you are so lucky to have seen a heartbeat so early. My early scan (also due to bleeding) was 5+5 and no heartbeat 😔. I'm still just hoping it was too early, maybe a day makes all the difference? So. Bloody. Anxious.

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Tink1989 in reply to ButtercupGarden

when I went into the scan they made it very clear they weren’t expecting to see a heartbeat and not to panic if it wasn’t there yet they just wanted to see that the gestation sac and yolk Sac were there they said sometimes that early they can’t even see the fetal pole. My scan is in 30 minutes and I feel sick with nerves

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Tink1989

Thank you, that makes me feel better! Good luck with the scan 🤞🤞🤞🤞

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Fairytale22 in reply to Tink1989

glad your scan went well! And wow you must of been scared any sign of blood and you just panic don’t you! Such an anxious time. Xx

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liftinglady

hey guys, I’m absolutely right there with you!

It’s debilitating right!? My scan is Tuesday that’s 7+3 I think but the closer I get to the date the more worried I become. I too had a MMC and so I’m comparing myself to the past.

I’ve felt very slight nausea more like indigestion really had that most days. I was super super tired but now perhaps used to that. And my boobs are huge and they twinge now and then but for all I know I’ve just gained weight and maybe my boobs always twinge and indigestion is due to stress? 😣

I’m terrified

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Fairytale22 in reply to liftinglady

I hope the days go super fast for you. And I am like you analysing and overthinking everything all the twinges and aches and sore boobs! 🙈 the closer I’m getting the scared I am 😩

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Lilygray

aaaah I’m in the same boat, scan next Wednesday at 7 weeks exactly. Absolutely terrified. I have mild symptoms but they come and go and I keep worrying I’m not pregnant anymore … finding work tough, especially as I feel completely exhausted! Send you all strength and hoping everyone’s scans will be good news xx

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Fairytale22 in reply to Lilygray

thank you! And good luck next Wednesday hope it comes around quick for you. I’m counting down the sleeps lol 😂 xx

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pinky30

i have my viability scan at 7 weeks exactly on Monday. I did have an early scan because of cramping at 6w on Monday and they dsauf they saw the faintest flicker of a heartbeat but that s not enough to reassure me. Why wasn't it umstrobger, why did they refuse to measure the heartrate? 🧐 So much worry and stress. They've said i should be taking it easy this week and not doing too much mainly resting g because of the cramps. But we are moving house! So i've been trying to take it easier but relatively active and scared i've messed it up 😩

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Fairytale22 in reply to pinky30

oh god moving house! Good luck with that and do try and take it easy I know it’s easier said than done. All the best for Monday xx

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pinky30 in reply to Fairytale22

thank you 😘

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Lovemusic1

I agree, that wait is far harder than the 2ww!

Try your best to keep distracted - easier said than done I know. Wishing you lots of luck xx

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Fairytale22 in reply to Lovemusic1

thank you! Trying to distract myself but it’s all I can think about! 🙈 and even with work I can’t concentrate 😂 lucky I work from home so can go chill on the sofa if I need to x

hey Fairytale I know exactly what you mean. Each stage takes longer so every time you think oh god this is worse than the last! But you’ll be fine 🤞 all is well and I’m sure it will be ❤️

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Fairytale22 in reply to Positivechangeplease

it’s torture! I usually take it an appointment at a time cut it down into sections or I will go crazy 😜 x

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Haf05

Hi Fairytale, I also found it worse than the TWW. In fact, I had a complete meltdown about half-way through the wait, started getting heart palpitations (on reflection, I think it was because of anxiety), and ended up in A&E (overcautious doctor wanted to rule out a PE). All good in the end, but what a roller coaster!

I just had my 8-week scan (all looking good), and now for the 4 week wait till the 12 week scan. EEK!

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Fairytale22 in reply to Haf05

ah wow you take it easy! It’s so hard isn’t it! You would of thought we would be used to all this waiting but we aren’t!

Oh glad your latest scan was good. Il probably get a scan booked in before my 12w I’m so impatient 🙈 xx

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CharlieJ1988

hey fairytale22,

I wish you all the very best for Friday, I’m sure everything will be fine lovely…. I know exactly what you mean though my first scan isn’t untill the 19th dec (hubbys bday too) & I’ll be 8weeks 2 days then trying to just keep distracting myself to get by, I’ve still had cramps on and off & fatigue, hunger has also gone through the roof but part of that could well be the fact I’ve gave up my efag! Lol 😂 xxx

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Fairytale22 in reply to CharlieJ1988

thank you lovey! I hate waiting 😩😩😩 keep telling myself 2 more sleeps! I hope your scan comes around quick for you xx

Purple276 profile image
Purple276

Hey, know exactly how you feel! As it geta closer I felt more nervous - mine was at 8wk +1 which felt like torture.I've got my 12 week one on Friday so now feeling exactly the same! Wish I'd had a 10 week in the middle just to reassure. Lets hope Friday comes quick for us both - only 2 more sleeps 🤞

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Fairytale22 in reply to Purple276

Ek exciting! Think I would go nuts if I don’t get a private scan in between. You’ve got more will power than me. Now it’s 1 more sleep. Good luck xx

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Purple276 in reply to Fairytale22

You too! 1 more sleep - I got up early today so that I'll fall asleep early tonight! 😂

Hopeful99 profile image
Hopeful99

Reading these comments automatically made me feel some bit of normality as I now know I’m not on my own and it’s a common concern. My scan is next Thursday and I’ll be 7 +3 then. Not many symptoms at all apart from the fatigue and crazy bloating which I’ve been putting down to the progesterone. I’ve literally been counting down the days to the viability scan thinking it surely gets easier!!

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Fairytale22 in reply to Hopeful99

omg the bloat is unreal! Currently the only thing that fits are leggings ! 🙈 it’s reassuring to know that we aren’t on our own. Try and take your mind off it just one more weekend to get through and then the countdown is on xx

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ButtercupGarden

Omg so anxious for tomorrow, it's killing me. I woke up last night with horrible cramping pains so I'm super worried. I was expecting more bleeding but so far nothing has materialised thank god... Just hoping and praying for the best but I swear my body hates me. 😭

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Ltry in reply to ButtercupGarden

I keep getting cramping at night! Always get up expecting blood but most of the time there is nothing. I get way less cramping in the day so not sure what is going on. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Ltry

Glad I'm not alone, it was scary last night as it was bad enough to wake me up which reminded me of my MC. It only lasted for about half an hour and now seems normal again today. Who knows what is going on!?

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Fairytale22 in reply to ButtercupGarden

oh no have they cramps stopped now? I hope so. One more bloody sleep!! Xx

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ButtercupGarden in reply to Fairytale22

Yes thankfully they didn't last long! Just long enough to wake me up and then leave me in a huge panic. I do still have some spotting though and my nausea has totally vanished today which is also stressing me out. One more sleep. Today is dragging so badly.

Ltry profile image
Ltry in reply to ButtercupGarden

Good luck today!

ButtercupGarden profile image
ButtercupGarden in reply to Ltry

Thank you. Got to wait till the afternoon... MORE WAITING.

dimiC profile image
dimiC

It’s very hard isn’t it ? I am 5+3 and my scan is on the 20th of December . I will be around 8 weeks by then . I have called the clinic to request an earlier appointment and they are saying not possible . I’m not sure I can wait that long … I have been looking into having an early reassurance scan privately just not sure if this is a good idea . Anyone done this before ? Would you recommend ? I have hardly any symptoms apart from being bloated but that’s probably down to the meds ….

wishing you luck with your pregnancy xx

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Fairytale22 in reply to dimiC

it’s sooo hard. I don’t think I could of mentally handled wait another 2 weeks. Maybe ask your clinic what they suggest. I’m probably going to get a private scan before my 12 week one. Xx

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dimiC in reply to Fairytale22

how soon after your OTD did you get your scan ?? I have asked they have said 20th is the earliest 😔might try again xx

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Fairytale22 in reply to dimiC

my OTD was 18th November so 2 weeks. They gave me the date of 13th Dec but questioned it and they gave me an earlier date. No harm in asking xx

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HMCW22

Good luck today sending lots of love x

CharlieJ1988 profile image
CharlieJ1988

good luck for today hunni, sending lots of hugs x

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DianeArnoldPartner

Hi Fairytale. Hope all is well with the scan. Time to move over to the Pregnancy Support Forum now. You will meet all your old forum friends who have been successful too. Diane

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