I had a FET 5 days ago and cannot think about anything. I'm not feeling any symptoms so also nervous it hasn't worked. The thought of doing this all again is driving me mad and making me depressed. Any recommendations for trying to relax and think positively?
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Heyy. I had mine on Monday so similar timings. I've have lots of mild cramping and flutter on and off but other than that ... nothing! Xx
Hello, it's really so hard. Did you have a day 3 or day 5 embryo? What do you mean by flutter? 
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It's hard to describe but feels likes small waves in my tummy ... god knows if it's even related !!! Its so hard not to over think any slight symptom isn't it !? Mine was day 5. You ?? Xx
I get what you mean, I also analyse every little thing I feel. Mine was also a day 5. Last time I started bleeding heavily on day 5 so feeling extra nervous. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Are you going to do any early testing? xx
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Hi all, I’m on d5 of FET (5dt) and feeling random sharp cramps on left side, does anyone know if that’s a symptom of Lubion or possible pregnancy? I’m being really struck with myself and trying not to test early. My test day is on Monday a day before my bday 🤦🏻♀️ this is one crazy rollercoaster!
HMCW22• in reply to
Hey! I've had really bad cramps since the day after transfer I'm now 8dp5dt and still getting them every now and then. I spoke with my clinic as I was worried when the cramps woke me up at night but apparantly it's normal x
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I wake up around 5ish every morning feeling hot, I don’t know if these symptoms are due to the meds (didn’t really have many before FET) or is it me about to come in or it it????? I’m scared to say it, praying so hard. How is everyone?
Hey I had mine on Monday so I am 6dp and also don't feel any such symptoms and it is super difficult not to think about it. When do you guys test?
I'm the same as you and I was told to test Friday the 2nd !
I did mine on Wednesday but felt very different. Didn't feel like they actually got a good look at the uterus (not sure how to explain). I'm meant to test on the 7th Dec. But I think I'm going to test next week. Not sure I can hold it. But if its negative I'll be devastated. When is your OTD?
Mine is on the 5th,really long time for the otd I think I might also test sooner.
Which day you are thinking to test?
Day 10 maybe, I'm not sure. I've actually started to bleed everything during the 2 ww
hi. I can totally relate..I had my transfer on Wednesday and really struggling today. OTD is the 4th which feels a lifetime away. I do think weekends are always worse as generally more time to think and reflect and Google!
I struggle to relax as when I’m left alone with my thoughts my mind goes into overdrive! Keeping busy for me tends to work better.
Good luck to you x
Hello, same day as me! Did you have a 3 or 5 day embryo? Today has been really hard for me as well, I think it's like you said the weekend is just a tad harder as you have more time to think. It's just the stress of having to do this again that just breaks me. Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx
5 day x
Hi! I had mine on Wednesday, OTD Friday 2nd. No symptoms at all. This is my 3rd FET. My 1st one I had cramps from 1dpt and sore breasts from 5dpt and at 6dpt got a BFP but unfortunately at 4w6d started bleeding, it was a chemical.
My 2nd one had cramps from 1dpt constantly and at 7dpt my breats started hurting, my nose bleed and was stuffy and at 10dpt had a BFP. Everything went fine. At 7weeks saw the heartbeat but unfortunately at 11 weeks found out baby died.
And now at my 3rd everything is silent, no cramps, no shortness in breath, no sore breasts. Even my gut tells me it didn't work. I want these days to go faster so I can test and see that awful BFN.
Good luck to all of you girls!!!
Mcher• in reply to
Hi KittyLuna, I'm so sorry to hear this. This really is such a emotional and tough journey and I don't think anyone can really understand until you've lived it. The disappointment and the heartache. I had mine done on Wednesday as well but my OTD is on the 7th. So 14 days after, I really want to test early but not sure which day to go for. Keeping my fingers crossed for you x
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Ohh thank you so much! I have a little hope but not too much. I don't have many hopes after my 3rd egg collection, my body didn't respond well to stims and from 8 eggs we were left with only this one.All my FETs were natural with trigger shot. And with my first I did a test at 6dpt. But I knew that the trigger left my system with all the symptoms. That's a lot of waiting until the 7th. My clinic says you can confirm pregnancy between 9 and 11dpt. You could test at 8 or 9 to be sure you don't have a late implanter.
Mcher• in reply to
I've only tried the FET with medication, but I can imagine e natural would be more gentle on the body. My clinic told me that due to my endomitrios it would be better with medication. But it is really tough and draining on the body. Not sure why clinics have such different guidelines 😅.
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Hi KittyLuna, I know it’s hard to do, believe me, but hold on to that little bit of hope, it’s more powerful than you think. Test day is 5th for me, one dat before my bday, I’m panicking a bit, this is our last chance. I have a whole week to get through; I don’t know what this week will bring.. Hopefully, lots of sticky action, staying implanted and Al good for at least 38wks!
Got everything crossed for you.. x
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Thank you so so much for your kind words. It's a hard journey. The 29th of October was my baby's due date. So here I am after a 3rd retrieval and a 3rd FET, with no high hopes and very sad. My grandma died a day ago without any warning. I cried so much so I'm waiting for OTD to see that negative to cry a little bit more.
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I’m so sorry to hear that, I really am. I know it’s really hard, especially after what you’ve been through and now this massive loss, but please know that there’s still some magic out there and I’m really hoping you’ll see it through a BFP.. Xx
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Thank you! I really hope we all see our BFP and go on having healthy pregnancies. No one deserves to go through infertility! Good luck to you sweetie!
I feel for you, what a journey you have been on. A friend of mine at a positive with absolutely no symptoms at all so it really must depend on indivuals. I wish you all the best xx
hi Mcher, I know how you feel, I’m 4p5dt and it’s super hard. My FET was on Thursday, I felt some twinges for the first two days then nothing, like absolutely nothing. This is our last embryo and I’m 40 so our last go. I’m back at work today and I’m already dreading it knowing all I’ll be thinking of is, has it worked, why am I feeling normal, have my dreams shattered??? It’s mad. Sorry, you came here for some helpful advice, sorry, I have nothing. I have been getting tired loads but I was getting like that before so I know that’s the Lubion injections. When are you testing? I’ve been tempted to test early but fighting the urge! Ahhh man, I really am praying for a BFP for you and more than that, a healthy baby:babies and mummy! 🙏🏽
Mcher• in reply to
Hello Fitty4Life, Thank you so much, this is my 3rd FET and my last one was a disaster with heavy bleeding from day 5 (lasted around 11 days). I'm so nervous I'll start bleeding early. The clinic said my OTD is the 7th. When is your test daybed? But I might test early so day 10 or 11. I'm on Prolutex injections this round and they make me very tired as well. At least we are not alone in this. So nice to speak with other ladies going through similar things. This journey is definitely very hard.
I don't think it's possible to not think about it, I analyse every little feeling. But twinges feel hopeful. Wishing you get that BFP as well with a healthy little baby x
I test on Monday 5th, last time I had a CP, broke my heart. I remained very positive the last time but I was over testing and over thinking every little thing, I wasn’t relaxed at all, but you’re right, how can you not think about it? I am tempted to test early too. Technically I am 9 days in today, but I’ve given my tests to my husband to hide until test day, I know I can go out and buy another but honestly the thought of what I went through last time puts me off. Sometimes I feel like there’s something but then I think no, that’s the Lubion or Cyclogest. Other times I think it’s all normal, it’s not worked. As you said, at least we are not alone.
Sandtiui, I hope you’re feeling okay today, probably not though.. I am really hoping this is the one for you.
Sending lots of positivity and luck your way ladies. 🙏🏽✨
SANDTIUI• in reply to
I'm feeling good today so lots of tummy cramps. But defo feeling that pull to test. Staying strong though!!! Love that yiur husband has hidden the test ... that will defo do the trick xx
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That sounds good, I know what you mean.. I read something really interesting yesterday about how blastocyst cells attach and develop day-today after transfer and that is making me stop testing early. I’ll post it in here if I can.. Hang in there, keep the faith (well as much as you can) and try to distract yourself. Xx
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SANDTIUI• in reply to
Funnily enough I have this exact screen shot saved on my phone !!!
Hi, my wife had her transfer on Wednesday too and OTD is 4/12
This is our 4th transfer. First was our Evie who was still born 😔, second has trisomy 13 and third didn’t stick. I think my wife is sick of me asking every day how she’s feeling and if she’s had any feelings or pain. Her nan also died the day of our transfer so she’s been sobbing pretty much all the days since. We really need this one to stick 🤞🏻
Good luck to everyone in this thread with your tests. Let’s get a full house of BFPs!!
Xxx
I really pray all the ladies in this post and all other who is struggling with this awful journey gets to hold the healthy little one soonest🧡🧡🧡🧡
I strongly believe that if all of us puts out there in universe that let me the mother and let the whole process work/stick it will be granted to us.
I might sound stupid but what is the harm in doing it as it is we are all dreading the wait.
"I am pregnant 🤰 and I will stay pregnant 🤰 until I get to hold my healthy,happy baby in my arms/lives".
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
hello! Lovely to read about other ladies in the same situation - I want to talk to my friends but no one would really get it.
We had our transfer on Saturday (fresh and our first cycle). First 24 hours were an emotional nightmare as I got myself so upset about the grading of the embryo - now a bit more calm after lovely lady from the lab called me yesterday.
Our test day is Tuesday 6th. I’ll test before 🤦♀️🤪 can’t help it…
Im a bit worried about the vaginal pessaries leaking out - and I’m on the older end of the scale (39) so don’t have great confidence in my body doing the right thing and producing the hormones it should itself... Some of you are talking about checking your progesterone levels - how do you do that??
Ive had absolutely no symptoms (but I guess it’s only morning of day 2(? Transfer Day doesn’t count right?), and I’m one of those women that has no symptoms with menstruation and had nothing during stims or EC. So 🤷♀️
Lovely to read all your stories. Fingers crossed for everyone x
Gerti2020• in reply to
hi, thanks for sharing your story. It is an emotional rollercoaster and you just need to take one day at a time, I think some clinics test for progesterone, mine only just started. It’s worth asking as I was low for my last transfer and started to bleed early, as for your pessaries leaving - that’s normal! You will have absorbed some.
Good luck to you too x
As for relaxing and positivity - it’s so hard!!! Ive tried to use some YouTube mindfulness guided meditations - just to lie down and relax but keeping my mind on the meditation and not letting it wander is tough. But it did help bring the tension in my body down.
Mcher• in reply to
I also do that before I go to sleep. But you're right the hardest part is really trying to stay as focused as you can and not wonder off. This thread has definitely brought me some positivity, feeling less alone in this crazy journey. Friends and family do not really understand all the emotions of this.
How is everyone feeling? I'm 7dp5dt today and had to call in sick to work. Feel nauseous, exhausted and just really not myself and definitely not able to put on a show at work. Hope you are all coping OK and fingers crossed for us all x
I'm 6dp5dt (if you count transfer day, not sure how it works). I'm like you I can't think of anything else. Decided yo work from home this week. Not sure if it's good or bad. I've decided to listen to Christmas music all day today as it makes me happy. Its the little things. Keeping fingers crossed for everyone.
I'm watching christmas films! I'm not sure if you count transfer day? If so I'm 8dp5dt x
The day you have the transfer is not counted so the very next day it starts getting post days.
I think the reason behind this is how the clinical(doctors and nurses) would count because it takes the implantation to take time so I guess may be that's how they would calculate the otd....🤔
Hi I am 9 days post embryo transfer I think im out I took a test this morning and I couldn't see a line first round of ivf to my otd is Saturday but my hope is gone only symptoms iv had was cramping but apart from that nothing
Hey! It's still early to test if your OTD is Saturday so there is hope. What kind of test did you use? Also don't worry about no symptoms, so many people have symptoms but get a negative and so many people have no symptoms and get a positive and visa versa. Everyone is different x
Thank you I will still test during the week to see what happends I used a first response but I did see such a very very faint line I took it as a evap line when it dried earlier in the day it became darker so im not sure mabey there's still a small bit of hope but at the mintue I have none its such a hard process to go through aswel to get to the end and there to be nothing but I do have 2 thats frozen mabey that's the light I can take from this if its negative
hello all.
Good to read so many of us in this together. I had my transfer on Saturday. I was gutted that after 12 eggs and 8 fertilised, only one made it to day 5 blastocyst. Apparently of medium quality, not great but not the worst. They said 2 were just behind and the rest of them hadn’t grown enough but other than the one they transferred, they have discarded the rest so I guess they weren’t good enough to have a bit more time/be frozen which I am feeling gutted about as it means starting from scratch.
This is my first ever IVF cycle. OTD will be 7th December. I haven’t really noticed much in the way of symptoms apart from sore breasts. My friend said she had no symptoms on both successful transfers so I guess everyone is different.
Good luck all x
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Good luck for your first FET. I hope little one decides to stick. I'm on my 3rd FET. Previously ones have been positive but ended a few weeks after. With both I had many symptoms, cramps, sore breasts, shortness in breath and very vivid dreams but now nothing. My little embryo was too the only one from 8 eggs retrieved but the quality wasn't pretty good so I don't have many high hopes. I plan at testing in a day or two to end this waiting because my gut tells me it didn't work, I can feel it.
Good luck with your test! I’m in the exact same boat as you FET last Sat with my only medium quality blast and OTD on the 7th Dec. Trying to resist the urge to test early. Dreading to know if this doesn’t succeed I need to start over again.
I felt cramping during the first 3 days (day of FET included) 4dpt not much and a slight cramp this morning 5dpt. This could also be due to the progesterone injections I took. Will follow your friends words and try not to fixate on not feeling much.
Sending all the baby dust to everyone ✨
thank you much! Good vibes your way. One week today eeek x
hi I’m 5 days post transfer. It’s so hard to not constantly think about it every second of the day! Wishing all of you the best of luck x
Hope everyone is hanging in there. Sending you all positive thoughts and lots and lots of baby dust xxxx
hi I’m the same I had et on Saturday had some pains and twinges first couple of days and some discharge but not feeling anything anymore …convinced myself it hasn’t worked !! 😞
sorry what does OTS stand for ? I’m still getting used to all the lingo as this is my first time
ah ok not until the 10th of December !
Mine is 7th Dec, but feels over already. No symtoms and had a negative test this morning. But might be to early to test not sure if I should try keep some hope.
I’m really trying to keep positive but If I tell myself it’s over now I feel I’m protecting myself if that makes sense , maybe you have just tested to early ? I keep thinking to myself in natural pregnancies you probably wouldn’t know at this stage if you were pregnant or not
same to you !! Xx
Do not worry about symptoms. Symptoms or lack of don't mean absolutely nothing at this stage. It takes a long time for lcg levels to go high enough to cause noticeable symptoms.
In the beginning of my pregnancy I would go for 2 weeks without feeling absolutely nothing. Then I would get a mild nausea for about 5 seconds and then nothing again for another week. It's nerve wracking I know it too well.
Just from personal experience, give it time. By month 3 the nausea may hit you like a ton of bricks or it may not. Both are normal.
Stay strong and don't symptom spot, you'll drive yourself crazy lol.🥰
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I’m 7dp5dt today and have brown spotting and period like cramping, I’m gutted, is this my AF? It feels like it. It was on the tissue, long brown thread like brown discharge, sorry tmi, I’m stressing! Has anyone experienced this and still got a BFP? 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
HMCW22• in reply to
Hey! My last BFP I got spotting 7dp5dt which I think was implantation bleeding. Mine was bright red but can also be brown too x
Mcher• in reply to
Hey sorry I'm pretty new to the IVF lingo, what does AF stand for?
I’m so panicked, rang clinic to ask if I should up my Cyclogest. Still waiting to hear back.. 😞
Marcy13• in reply to
I am so sorry you are going through this. Please try to be strong whatever turn this may take.Implantation bleeding is usually very light.
Blood without cramping or cramping without blood is normal.
Both cramping and bleeding at the same time usually mean AF.
Stay strong 💪. I wish you all the best and I pray that 🙏 everything is OK.
Whatever happens keep looking forward❤🙏
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thank you x
Its more like twinges and lower back twinges and brown discharge, I’m praying it’s implantation bleeding!
I tested today is was positive but I’m worried as this happened last time with a fresh embryo, it was positive before my official test day but on the day after my test day I had a CP. I’m so confused right now!
I’m so sorry that any of have to go though this pain, I hope we all get BFP that sticks and we hold our healthy babies at the end..
Mcher• in reply to
Congratulations on your BFP, hoping things turns out well for you and you get to snuggle your little one soon.
Marcy13• in reply to
As long as color stays brown it will be ok, brown is old oxidated blood, not fresh blood. Try not to worry, unless it starts turning bright red with clots and pain becomes more and more severe.
Just my personal experience: all my miscarriages stared with pink blood that got darker and darker and cramping got worse and worse. The pink turned into heavy bleeding with clotting really fast, every time, in under 12 hours.
Keep us posted, we are all praying for you❤
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I’m sorry you went through that 😞 thank you for sharing that with me. Xx
LolWars83• in reply to
Sounds like it could be implantation bleeding then 🤞🏻 Congrats on the positive 🥳 When I fell pregnant with my son I had terrible implantation pain although no bleeding it was strong enough for me to go doctors. I thought I had a giant cyst or something.
I have everything crossed for you that you’ll be ok and little bean will stay stuck! 🤞🏻 Xx
thank you, I am praying hard mate! X
Hi everyone, I wasn’t sure whether to share, my wife got a positive this month ❤️ We’re praying this one stays around 🙏🏻🤞🏻 Xx
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Congrats to you and your wife! Are you doing reciprocal? I'm 4.5 weeks with my partners embryo ♥️ x
congratulations 🥳 you are the same as us more or less. Think my wife might just be 5 weeks now.
We didn’t do reciprocal as I already carried our son (my egg) and she really wanted to carry too. She’s younger so it made sense for her to use her own. We had a MMC in July and a stillbirth last Xmas day! So we’re freaking out a little bit but also relieved it’s worked as last month it didn’t.
Will you have a scan before Xmas do you think? We have to tell our clinic tomorrow about the positive so we’ll get a date for our scan then.
So pleased for you both xxx
I'm so sorry to hear about the MMC and SB ♥️ That must have been so difficult for you both. I'm so happy for you that you've got a BFP.We had a miscarriage at almost 7 wks in Sept and a few failed attempts before that so praying everything is OK this time 🤞
Yeah we had to tell the clinic the day of the test and they already booked the scan for 22nd of this month. Counting down the days! I hope you can get a scan soon too xx
Thank you, sorry to hear you’ve had losses too. It’s a hard journey isn’t it. Hopefully these are the ones!
When was your transfer? Ours was 23/11 so no idea really how far that makes us. Our OTD was today so will ring them in the morning and hopefully get a date. xx
Congratulations to you both, so happy for you. My test day was today, I got my BFP, best birthday gift ever, my birthday tomorrow. I feel like I don’t want to get excited as there’s such a long way to go and I’m constantly worried about it. This is our last attempt so really am praying hard it sticks until we hold our baby in our arms in around 36wks! Praying that for all of you too.. I have been taking Pregnacare since before FET and after, but only just realised it’s the wrong one, it’s the before conception one, I have switched it to the original today but worried I may have done some damage as the before conception contains other vitamins and minerals. Anyone else have any experience with that? I feel so silly, I should have just stuck to folic acid and vit.D. I’m just panicked about everything staying good.. Sorry, I sound a bit a of a mess, I am elated, of course I am and so unbelievably thankful, I guess I just need to focus on that..
Good luck for the next 8months ladies. Test day is usually 4ams pregnant for everyone after transfer.
Sending you all lots of positivity! ✨🙏🏽💕
Hope everyone is doing ok. Congratulations to all with positive news so far, lots of baby dust your way. My OTD is Wednesday. I started getting spotting yesterday which has carried on today and now feeling those tell tale period cramps so I think it’s unsuccessful for us this time round. Obviously will confirm on Wednesday but with no embryos we could freeze I guess we are back to square one. Onwards and upwards x
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