Feeling fed up

[Lilmisscheeky123]

Hi all, I am new to this platform but was hoping to reach out to people who might be in a similar position. I have gained a lot of weight and currently have a BMI of around 43 which I know is frighteningly high. I feel I have a really disordered relationship with food and eating and so am really struggling with the pressure and overwhelmingness of having to lose so much weight before getting any help with fertility. I havent had a period in over 6 months and feel completely disheartened and ashamed. Any words of wisdom would be very gratefully received!! TIA x

[Boo718]

hello I was in the exact same boat as you. My bmi was 43.1 I was just under 16 stone and barely 5 foot. I lost 5 stone but then found that I had lost it too fast and it had messed up all my hormones. The nhs wanted me to get under 11 stone and I got to 11 stone and stuck. They wouldn’t take me. So I went abroad for ivf and they said that it had been detrimental losing it so quickly … gutted. My advice would be to go to a group i did slimming world and take your time. 1-2lb a week. Smaller portions and cut out/down fizzy drinks and junk. I know it seems so hard there were days when I was just so fed up with it all. But you can do it xxx

[Lilmisscheeky123 in reply to Boo718]

Thank you so much for your reply, I feel the system is so flawed and judgemental. Some days I really dont like myself and feel so angry I have let myself get to this point! A group sounds like a good idea, thank you. How has your journey come along? Xx

[Boo718 in reply to Lilmisscheeky123]

I was exactly the same. Couldn’t even look in the mirror. It’s taken us a while and a number of transfers but we are currently 10 weeks and hoping everything is ok. You’ve got this. Positive thinking xxx

[Lilmisscheeky123]

Wow congratulations, fingers crossed everything goes well. Thank you so much for your kind message, keeping positive is half the battle!! Xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Fertility Network fertilitynetworkuk.org have a group that might be of help to you - Home page scroll to Events Calander and find Fertility Weight Loss Group next meeting 7th Dec

Take care

Janet

[Lilmisscheeky123]

Thanks so much Janet this is really helpful, Annie