Feeling deflated about our final round

[Solly-44]

So… appointment had, meds ordered, and we’re gearing up for what will be out final attempt. It will be our 7th transfer and we’ll be putting embryos 10 & 11 back in.

I’m a bit all over the place about it. Glad to be putting a fertility journey that’s lasted the best part of a decade to bed, and terrified at how I’ll cope when we’re out of options.

I have been looking into embryo adoption overseas but my partner has said he is officially done and I have to respect that. I feel so deflated about the whole thing. I’m struggling to get out of the mind set that it’s inevitable this round will fail and that it’s just a hoop we have to jump through to finally be done. It’s going to be an emotional ride this one! 🙈🤪😬 xx

[Noah1981]

don’t put yourself out of the race if this transfer working before it’s happened .Believe in yourselves.Miracles happen it’s happened before xxxx wishing you every luck in the world for a double whammy result xxx

[Lola33]

Hi Solly, I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're in this position and feeling so deflated. It's completely understandable. I wish you tons of luck and strength for your transfer xxx ✨

[zytajones]

Wish you best of luck Solly and that at least one will stuck for good! You know that I was in the exactly same position 6 months ago so totally feel you. Whatever will happen - I'm sure you will be fine at the end, I'm a living proof of that xxx

[Solly-44 in reply to zytajones]

Ah thank you lovely! I know I will be fine, it’s good to know you’re doing well xx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hoping that all goes well, and this is your time - just take it a day at a time and know you are doing all things possible to help achieve your dream

Sending good luck wishes

Janet

[Redsequin]

Sorry you are feeling deflated, lovely. It’s not surprising when you’ve been through so much already. I feel like it can help to just keep on putting one foot in front of the other and taking the pressure off to feel any certain way. You're doing so well persevering and should be proud of yourself no matter what! xxx

[Kaylee1]

Hi Solly, I'm in exactly the same position but a bit further along! I had my last embryo transfer 9 days ago and we find out tomorrow what direction our lives will be going in...will I be pregnant & my husband & I will be starting a very exciting journey? Or will we be utterly devastated ? I'm struggling to feel hopeful...expecting the worst and have already made a plan with the nurses to just leave me a voicemail with the blood test result...I just can't bear the thought of having to talk to them if I hear bad news...we've been going through this for over a decade and, as everyone on this forum would know, it's a rollercoaster on all levels...I'm up to my eyeballs in vitamins & hormones and bruised from the Clexane etc...but I'm completely fine to do it all for the hope of the little one...but we never know if it's going to turn out positively...it's gonna be a tough night's sleep tonight and then even tougher while we wait for the results...I have so much hope and so much hopelessness...just like you said, it's terrifying to think about the future if things don't work out...anyway, just wanted to let you know, I'm totally there with you...💕🧚🏽‍♀🌈

[Solly-44 in reply to Kaylee1]

Ooof, it just feels like so much doesn’t it? Like lots of us I tend to feel better by throwing myself into planning the next cycle, so when you know it’s the last it’s just so much pressure.

Sending you SO MUCH luck and love for tomorrow, thank you for your lovely reply xx

[Kaylee1 in reply to Solly-44]

Thanks so much Solly ❤It's 6.45am where I live - only a few hours to go before blood test...

Yes it does feel like too much sometimes, there's a lot to worry about for our poor little brains!

It's great to have a place to share our journeys...all the very best with yours too 🐣🥰🌈

[Hidden]

Only just seen this and wanted to send love and lots of good luck. As you well know it's totally inevitable that you feel like you do, and there is an element of self protection in there. The only things I would say is you will be ok whatever happens, you have proven how strong you are up to now! But also to say I wish I had not thought so negatively all the way through my cycles, because I was sort of writing myself off and being upset and grieving before I even needed to, so almost doubling the time I was feeling down... so try and channel any positivity you have left, and I am cheerleading you every step of the way xx

[HollyT7]

I wish you all the best!!! 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡 you've come the distance and can take whatever is thrown next, good or bad, you'll find your way around it. now let's get those two babies comfy in there!!!!! 🖤🖤🖤