Sensitive post miscarriage

[HMCW22]

hey all

I wanted to post mainly just to get it all off my chest tbh but also incase anyone else finds themselves in the same situation and trawling forums/google like me for answers.

We finally got our BFP after a couple of years of trying and all was going great, we were so excited and shared the long awaited good news with close people who knew we were going through IVF. We were on cloud nine, reading daily what was happening in the pregnancy.

Just over 6 weeks pregnant and I got a terrible headache I put it down to hormones but when it got so bad that I couldnt work and I felt dizzy every time I moved I called the clinic who reassured me and said I could take paracetamol. On the Friday I took some and lay down with a cooling migraine strip on my head feeling worse and worse. I couldnt sleep through how ill I felt and then went to the toilet. Thats when I saw blood when I wiped, light at first and then heavy, red and passed a few clots honestly as big as tennis balls. I was understandably scared and upset and called my clinic again, with it being Friday they couldnt see me and told me that the EPUs would be closed and to go to A and E if I got worse or had any pains. I had absolutely no pain in my stomach only the dizziness and bad migraine so I didn't go to the hospital.

I woke up on the Saturday and I hadn't bled overnight but I felt worse, my eyes were heavy and the migraine was making me feel so sick, rang the clinic again and they advised i go to the hospital.

The hospital did blood tests and an examination but due to having no staff couldnt scan me. They said my cervix was closed and my HCG levels were very good for 6 weeks, they identified a cervix ectropian and said that could be where the bleeding had come from. 5 hours later they sent me home and promised to scan me on the Sunday. The waiting was torture and I couldnt do anything else but felt at least on the Sunday i would find out for sure what was happening. They called me up on the Sunday morning and said they couldnt fit me in for a scan and the doctor shouldnt have promised it. I literally begged them to fit me in as i didnt feel i could wait yet another sleepless night to know for sure, she said absolutely not. My clinic managed to fit me in on the Monday and confirmed I had had a miscarriage on the Friday.

I wish as soon as Id got that migraine id have gone in to be checked, i know they couldnt have stopped the miscarriage but I could have avoided the agonising weekend holding on to a shred of hope that we hadn't lost our already much loved baby. 😔

[MomaJoni]

Oh, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. The waiting and the unknown is the absolute worst. I really hope you have a fast recovery after such a tough time xx All my love

[HMCW22 in reply to MomaJoni]

Thank you so much xxx

[Skittles11]

So sorry to see what you've been through. What a terrible time. Please look after yourself xx

[HMCW22 in reply to Skittles11]

♥️

[ZiggyandBC]

I’m so sorry lovely that sounds so traumatic. I hope you have all the support you need and are recovering as well as can be expected. Sending my love ❤️

[HMCW22 in reply to ZiggyandBC]

♥️

[Caranne]

I’m so sorry for your loss, I know it can’t always be helped but it’s so cruel when they don’t fit you in for a scan and you’ve been feeling unwell and bleeding etc. I know I just needed to know as soon as possible what was happening so I could start processing it and start grieving and it must have feel torturous waiting so long. Sending you lots of love x

[HMCW22 in reply to Caranne]

Thank you, thats exactly how I felt. So sorry youve experienced a loss too ♥️ Although I totally understand how busy the NHS are and I appreciate them so much I just felt so upset that they couldn't scan me, they said it wasnt an emergency as I wasnt bleeding anymore but emotionally it was an emergency for me and I feel that could have been taken into consideration especially when Id been there 5 hours feeling so unwell. I just feel so drained now both physically and emotionally and not sure what to do about going back to work. Ive only had 2 days off and feel I should go back as I know they will be struggling without me but my job involves lots of calls with clients and colleagues every day and Im constantly on the verge of tears 😢 x

[ki50 in reply to HMCW22]

Hmw you've just been through aan incredibly traumatic time, im so sorry for your loss. Please don't feel guilty about taking time off work to recover and come to terms with what you have been through emotionally and physically. If it would help you can maybe try and get a doctor to sign you off sick for a while but most places allow 5 days without a note. Take care of yourself x

[HMCW22 in reply to ki50]

thank you ♥️

[Mudra85]

I'm sorry to read this and I cannot believe you had to wait until Monday to be seen by a Doctor! I'm so sorry for your loss and what you've been through. Sending you love and strength at this incredibly difficult time Xx