Hello ladies, I’m heartbroken and need some comforting words from women who are on similar journey as me….
Been trying to conceive with no luck for 4 years, and recently in June we decided for IVF- only one egg got fertilized… I was so happy after a successful transfer. However, 2 weeks later pregnancy test came back NEGATIVE, since then I have been shattered and can’t seem to get over that.
I need your advise I can’t think right!!!
Oh love, you are grieving after you loss. It's natural. It took me month to stop crying after my loss and I still think about it sometimes, 3 years later. I highly recommend counseling, talking to others about your feelings, understanding them, will help in the healing process.
And there is still hope for you. Did you have a follow up appointment with the clinic? Have you discussed next steps?
Look after yourself x
I was in total bits after our 1st failed transfer. I think I was numb for a month....Take time to recover xxx
Unfortunately is normal to feel that way, I been there also. What kept me going was planning ahead, I was always looking forward to start again with more information and even more ambitious. Don't lose your hopes, stay strong...you will succeed, just give yourself some time for healing...take care and I am really for the negative result.
I’m so sorry. This process is just crap. Lots of us have been there and it’s not fair at all. Our clinic have a free counsellor, you could ask for this? I have felt better about 4-6 weeks later. Distraction techniques are always good or I find making a what’s next plan helps.
Sending a massive hug. X
I’m so sorry, this is such a rough process and sadly as others have said it often involves lots of set backs and heartbreak. It’s important to let yourself feel what you’re feeling and process your grief. Don’t feel any pressure to make any decisions or be rushed into anything you’re not ready for. Take time to heal, try to connect with your other half and know that you’re not alone and there’s a lovely community of people here to support you. I found counselling helpful at my lowest points and did a mixture of solo counselling and used the clinic’s counsellor with my husband too to process failed cycles and a miscarriage. I promise it won’t always feel like this. Sending love xx
It's so hard! I also had only one egg on my first transfer I really hope they can make some improvements now they know a bit more. If you do decide to try again. 💜 It's ok to feel disappointed and sad after a negative result. Take the time you need and validate what you have been through.
It’s so such a tough time. I was broken after my first two week wait ended in a BFN. I cried for days and it took a long time before I felt like myself again. It gets easier with time I promise you. Look after yourself in the meanwhile and take the time to grieve. X
I was so excited for my first cycle, had all the thoughts it would work first time. We got 13 eggs and zero fertilisation! I mean… what the heck! Second cycle… different medication to help with quality of eggs, 12 eggs and zero fertilisation!!
By this point I’m thinking what on Earth is the point because I can’t take this news again.
Third cycle - 12 eggs, 3 fertilised! 1x day 5 transfer, BFN.
Fourth cycle - 14 eggs, 8 fertilised…(should get call today about how many I have going strong).
My point is, I feel your pain, I understand how hard it is to get such devastating news. Have time to grieve and be angry at the world. Then pick yourself up and look to the future. I had 2 days off work, I cried all day, I wrote the biggest list of junk food and sent my partner to the shop. I then picked myself up and looked to the next cycle.
You do it whichever way is best for you, but do not think that you don’t have a right to be devastated, you do.
Huge good luck to you ❤️💫
I have been trying 4 years now - 3 miscarriages, ( 2 because of my sickeness - kidney disease and last IVF baby lost because of corona 2021 - was my only lucky transfer) + 5 chemical pregnancies.Have had 6 full IVF rounds but only 3 transfers.
I understand you so well!
1st round - 2 eggs ony, 1 fertilised
2nd round 3 eggs, 2 fertilised. Pregnancy - miscarriage because of corona. Cried so much - uhhh.
3nd round 3 eggs - nothing
4th round - cancelled because of only one follicle
5th round cancelled because of big cyst.
6th round 3 eggs, 2 fertilised but still no success.
I'm 41 now and can't have financial support anymore from state.
Talked to my doctor and we have decided that i take one more round paying myself.
Have waited know new cycle and then have to call to my doctor.
But can you imagine - my morning pregnancy test was positive today!!!!!
I daren' to my happy yet ..... i have seen so many times and then still new cycle starts. Afraid to go toilet... but inside still hope, there is still hope i believe.
But i'm glad that i can stay pregnant, no matter that i'm 41 already now.
Don't lose hope! It can happen one day!
I'm so sorry 💔 the pain and upset is awful. Please don't give up though. Take some time to process this and keep going if you are able to. I never thought I'd get there. ❤️💫 lots of hugs for you xxx
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