I am new here. Last year my husband and I went through IVF for the first time. Unfortunately, we miscarried. It was hard for both of us and my husband was my rock and we became a lot closer rather than falling apart. But as time went on, the miscarriage effected him more and more. After the tests the doctors told us he was the one with the problem before we started IVF and we would never be able to conceive naturally. Because of this, he blames himself for our miscarriage and he constantly feels guilty. He said he can't go through another miscarriage and i said thats ok, if he can't go through IVF again. I kept telling him it was not his fault and most natural conceptions can end in a miscarriage. He can't stop feeling guilty. With many other things and upheavals over the year which has been quite stressful, he 2 weeks ago said he can't do this anymore and needs space, he said his head is all over the place and that he loves me, but he needs to miss me. he feels guilty all the time. We have not been arguing, we have been ok. I have noticed a change in his attitude, withdrawn and low. We are quite laid back and never really argue. I love him and this has come out of the blue. Did not see this coming. I am giving him the space he has asked for and although i just want to speak to him because i am missing him so much, I am holding back and respecting his wishes. I desperately want to save my marriage, but its hard when he does not seem to know what he wants, or if that is even me! I just do not know what to do?