Worse than the 2ww (sensitive)

[Missl73]

Anyone else find the wait for the first scan much harder than the 2ww? I’ve had a baby through IVF but I’ve also had a MMC before him and I find myself feeling like I’m just waiting for a scan to be told the pregnancy isn’t viable. I have absolutely no evidence for this, my tests are strongly positive and I have some symptoms and no spotting or bleeding. It just blows my mind that there must be people out there in the world who see a positive test and assume that means they’ll have a baby! I’ve still got another week to wait and the time is dragging by so slowly. Even though rationally I know the odds are hugely in our favour - in fact more than they have been at any other stage in this process - yet emotionally I’m so scared I’m going to have to go through it again. It feels like stories of loss are everywhere.

[Doglover7866]

I feel your pain. I’m in the same boat but there is nothing more you can do. Stay busy and try to take your mind off the negativity 😃😃😃😃 good luck 🤞🏻

[Missl73 in reply to Doglover7866]

I know, so hard to get head to rule instead of heart! What day is your scan? Xx

[Sunnydays1111]

I also had a child through ivf and am 15 weeks pregnant now, I feel the exact same the wait to the scan was hell and honestly after I had that scan the wait to the nt scan was just as bad haha, I feel like we are always waiting. I did book in for a private scan at 14 weeks to find out the gender which was lovely. I now finally feel like everything is going quite quick now that we can start buying things. That’s definitely taking my mind if it. Good look with your scan next week and keep thinking positive ❤️❤️

[Missl73 in reply to Sunnydays1111]

Congratulations!! So happy to hear your pregnancy is going well. I hope we can be where you are soon. In the meantime I’ll keep cuddling my son tight and reminding myself at least I am so fortunate to have him. He was our 🌈

[Sunnydays1111 in reply to Missl73]

Thank you so much, I feel extremely lucky right now, the anxiety is definitely the worst part about this journey no matter what stage your in. Aww snuggle him extra tight 💙💙 I really hope everything is perfect at your scan and you can begin to enjoy your pregnancy ❤️

[Rollercoastersmiles]

I’m also right there with you. Currently 6w ish and have my first scan next week. Completely freaking out and nervous that we’ll get there and they’ll tell us that it’s not viable or that something’s gone wrong!🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽for positive news for all of us next week.

[Missl73 in reply to Rollercoastersmiles]

Good luck lovely. What day is your scan? I have my fingers crossed for you xx

[Rollercoastersmiles in reply to Missl73]

Scans on Tuesday afternoon so I’ve just made a gap in the middle of the day. When’s yours?

[Missl73 in reply to Rollercoastersmiles]

I’ll be thinking of you! Mine is first thing Thursday morning.

[Savvy_teapot]

Good that you can talk about your worries here as it is a lot to shoulder alone

[Missl73 in reply to Savvy_teapot]

It definitely helps me feel less crazy and less alone!

[HollyT7]

I only read half your post before shouting YES YES YES!!!! The aniexty doesn't seem to end does it! I kept telling myself we've had one guy worked and he's here now, so it can work again, helped a little!! Your scan will be here in no time, take it day by day.... just like the tww... not that that advise helps!! All the best and looking forward to see how well your little bean is getting on ❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxxx

[Missl73 in reply to HollyT7]

Thank you for your kind reply! With my son I managed to calm down after the first scan showed a baby with a strong HB and the right size for dates. My MMC was always measuring behind at the 2 scans before we found out she died so there were warning signs. Fingers crossed it’s good news next week 🤞🤞

[Medes]

Same here. Our scan is booked for Monday and I am so scared. The thing is that I don't have any symptoms and don't feel pregnant at all so this makes me feel soo nervous. At the same time my last test was very strong positive and there is no spotting or bleeding.

Definitely these two weeks are much more harder than the 2ww.Fingers crossed for all of us🤞

[Missl73 in reply to Medes]

Good luck hun I really hope all goes well at your scan - I’m sure it will!! It’s so hard isn’t it when it’s something you want so much xx

[Medes in reply to Missl73]

Thank you very much ❤️ It is indeed!

Unfortunately it is beyond our control so what we can do is to try stay positive and believe that these little ones will be our miracles 🥰Wishing you all of the luck in the world 😘

[Zoomm]

MY First scan is in 2 weeks I have been feeling sick so i took the COVID test yesterday i was negative.. I also can't wait for the scan it not Easy at all fingers crossed

[McQueeny]

Awww it’s so tough….. ignorance really is bliss in some cases, all the women who never experienced difficulty and don’t know how common it is so they just sail through without a worry 🥴 Thinking of you , you’ll get there soon enough!! 💪💫🤗

[Redsequin]

Uff it's hard and honestly, I think everyone who has experienced infertility, infertility treatment, or loss is bound to experience these fears and anxieties to various extents.

I find it helps if you can give yourself permission to enjoy being pregnant while there's no reason to believe otherwise rather than worrying about "jinxing it". What will be will be, so you might as well assume the best—it won't do any harm and you'll have a much nicer time! Sending hugs xxxx

[Missl73 in reply to Redsequin]

Thanks lovely. I know and I know preparing for the worst doesn’t make it any better if it happens so might as well stay positive. I think what I find hard with IVF is you’re so used to be in that small percent - you’re in the minority that have fertility issues, then your in the minority for who IVF was successful, then you just wait to be in the minority who miscarry. You expect rare things to happen to you because a lot of rare things often have! It distorts your world view I think!

[Fenin]

OMG i feel the same i have 2 years baby via ivf yesterday I found out my BFP but anxiety never gets easier about visibility scan and go on for sure

[Hidden]

Also in the same situation. The furthest I have got is 6 weeks so I’m hoping this will be the one that gets past that hurdle. My husband is also finding the wait really difficult and asks me every two mins if I’m ok which is caring and annoying in equal measure. Good luck & hopefully the next few weeks will go quicker than we think.xxx