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I can’t help reading into the there’s a ‘slim chance it may progress’. With levels of 19 13days post fet. My nurses head tells me it’s over. My desperate head is tricking me into having faith and that somehow there’s going to be this miracle.

Still positive on the digital clear blue this morning. Heartbreak to see because you visibly see the word pregnant In front of you written in black and white. processing this is just hideous 😭

If still positive tomorrow I’ll be having another bhcg test done.

Am I ludicrous for even trying to hope right now. I’ve been on my knees crying each time we’ve had bad news so I’m scared that because my brain is tricking me into more hopeless positivity that I’m going to be the same again either tomorrow or Friday.

I just need to know now so this can be done with

Well done if you got this far 😭💔😭

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Hi beautiful!

I really think your positivity it's a good thing. I know that those clear blue test have a sensitivity of 25 miu...not like first response that can detect from 6 miu. You can read the pamflet and see how sensitive it is and have one more reason to be hopeful.

Thinking of you and praying for little bean to stick even further!

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MakingbabyNM in reply to

Thanks so much for replying. These detect 10. So still not sure! 😭🙏🏼🙏🏼 Xx

in reply to MakingbabyNM

Ohh here they detect from 25 miu. With my chemical I did a test on Saturday came back positive and when I went in 2 days for beta it came back 3,4 from 130 in a matter of days soo the numbers will rise or fall very quickly.

You haven't had any bleeding until now so let's hope for the best but be prepared for any outcome!

You're not alone!🥰🥰🥰 My heart goes out to you!

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Millbanks

Hi lovely, I really hate clear blue digital for that very reason. They play tricks on the mind. If you have an FRER then I would try one of those to tomorrow as I think they are more sensitive.

You have every right to hope ❤️

It’s a brutal process and without hope we don’t have much xxx

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MakingbabyNM in reply to Millbanks

Hi thank u! The reason I’m using the digital is that the is there a line isn’t there is killing me over and over again! I have one more digital if it’s positive then I’m getting a beta xx

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Millbanks in reply to MakingbabyNM

Aw I know what you mean!I actually couldn’t bring myself to test at all at home on my last transfer. Couldn’t bear the thought of another negative.

Everything crossed for you my lovely xx

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MakingbabyNM in reply to Millbanks

Yes exactly That’s why I’m doing one more and then that is literally it! Will have betas. It’s just too much to bear isn’t it xx

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Sunflower35

Hey! I know exactly what you mean about your brain tricking you, I found myself thinking that a few times as I try to protect myself from feeling crushed if negative but you can’t help to have hope! I do remind myself that if it is positive, then I would have made myself worried for nothing. Just go with the facts right now and push everything else out of your mind. 1)You need to keep testing, 2) you didn’t start bleeding, 3) there is a chance it will still work, hence the recommendations from your nurse. You don’t have to be confident on the positive but can be hopeful that not all is lost until those 3 points change.

If it helps, I had a BFP changed into BFN before, and I made myself feel better by thinking that at least had implanted initially, but it may not have a healthy one this time hence the body dealt with it in its own way.

Good luck with everything and treat yourself to some me-time!

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MakingbabyNM in reply to Sunflower35

Thank you for being so lovely. Yes that’s all so true. I’m just picking parts out of what I want to hear though. The part where my consultant said he’s expecting numbers to fall is also what I should be considering. Isn’t it just so cruel! I think because everything went so swimmingly with Ivy I was silly enough to think it would go fine this time even if we got given a negative result. But it shows even with only no make factor it is a crazy ride xx

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Redsequin

I'm so sorry this has been such a rollercoaster for you! As if IVF wasn't hard enough...I think it's normal to hope, and it doesn't make you ludicrous at all.

I also think it's important to remind yourself that if it is bad news, you will get through that too. I just mention that because I have a tendency to panic and think "I don't know what I'd do if xyz didn't work out!" but actually I do know what I'd do: I'd feel really sad, take time to grieve and look after myself, and then eventually start feeling more positive again.

Anyway, thinking of you and wishing you so much luck! xx

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MakingbabyNM in reply to Redsequin

Such a lovely kind reply thank you. Yes that’s it as soon as I know for 💯 then I’ll be able to stop the meds and move forwards. Or in the back of mind I’m praying the beta will just miraculously jump! 😭😭 xx

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MakingbabyNM

Hi girls so the test is still ‘pregnant’ today. I’ve read you test positive for a while afterwards so I’m not getting hopes up even though it’s hard not too. Will call clinic and arrange bloods for today x

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Woow! I'll be thinking of you my dear and keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

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Littlepeax in reply to MakingbabyNM

Best of luck for today ❤💫❤ thinking of you Makingbaby xxxx 🙏

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Redsequin in reply to MakingbabyNM

Wow, that's crazy. Wishing you so much luck today xxx

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Cinderella5 in reply to MakingbabyNM

Good luck.xx

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MakingbabyNM

Hey Had bloods done. Consultant said he’d be looking for a beta of 500. Seems very unrealistic. I think we’re out xx

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KiboXX in reply to MakingbabyNM

That’s ridiculous! Surely they are just looking for it to double? 500 is completely unrealistic if it was 19 a few days ago 🤷🏼‍♀️

I had a low beta with my current pregnancy on OTD, I know it’s not as low as yours (mine was 86) but my clinic were only looking for it to double. I had it repeated 3 days later and it was 310 and they were ecstatic with that xx

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I agree with you Kibo!! If we are looking for doubling then surely anything over 40 is good news!! Don’t give to MakingbabyNM xx

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MakingbabyNM

Not sure if I’ve lost him off In translation! he’s such a lovely man but if I’ve got any Concern will go to pregnancy assessment x

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KiboXX in reply to MakingbabyNM

Yeah maybe he meant 50? Really hope it’s good news for you. Did he say if you’ll get the results today or will you have to wait until tomorrow?x

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MakingbabyNM in reply to KiboXX

He defo said 500. Cos he said even 100 he wouldn’t be happy with, No will be tomorrow now 😭 xx

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AuroraXen in reply to MakingbabyNM

I'm so sorry for all the stress but am hoping you are very much still in with a good chance Lovely xx

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KiboXX in reply to MakingbabyNM

Really hope you get good news today lovely xxx

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