Sorry for asking but I’m just looking for your thoughts , I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks , my mother in law called to say how sorry she was and invited us over for dinner this was 3 weeks ago ? , she did cook a lovely meal and went to a lot of bother .. I’ve seen her since but she hasn’t asked how I am of my husband is since , it’s kind of annoyed me ? Do you think it bad form or am I just been over sensitive?
This is a difficult one. My sister didn’t ask me once how I was since my last miscarriage. It really hurts. It sounds like she did a nice thing by making you dinner but doesn’t want to bring it up. I don’t think people know what to say/do…but just a simple “how are you” goes such a long way doesn’t it? I’m really sorry for your loss- was it your first? Xx
Yes it is so painful, and I’m very sorry for your loss also , yes this was my first miscarriage we have been trying for 3 year 2 Nd ivf cycle.. I’m 38 it’s so difficult 😞
Hi lovely, I think often people don't know how to talk about loss (any kind).
They don't like to ask or bring it up for fear of upsetting you or perhaps struggle to talk about it themselves.
I think once you've experienced this type of thing you understand how people probably do want to talk about it - and also shared experience helps too.
I lost my dad last year and prior to that I would never have brought it up with someone else who'd lost a loved one, just because I felt like I wouldn't want to bring it all to the surface again.
Having been through it myself now, I understand that the opportunity to talk about it / him is relished - even though it was traumatic and heartbreaking - but I really appreciate it when someone asks how I'm doing etc.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not being over sensitive at all, but I think we expect a lot from people who don't necessarily have the understanding that we need to talk about these things.
I'm sorry for your loss xx
Sorry to hear about the loss of your dad ❤️Thanks so much for the reply what you are saying makes perfect sense .. I really appreciate your input 🥰
Thank you ❤️I hope you are doing ok - it is really hard.
If you do want to talk about it - I would tell them that. You could say that it's still very much affecting you and open up the conversation for them?
Much love to you xxx
Hi Betty, I’m very sorry for your loss. I know every day must feel like a struggle right now. I also had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, so I understand the heartbreak. I too felt like people around me were insensitive to the situation. In my case my SIL spoke about her child birth experiences with other family members a few weeks after my loss - I couldn’t believe it but I’ve learnt she will never understand what I’ve been through. But like others have said, only people who experience such a loss will understand. If you do want to talk about your loss, I think you will have to bring it up. The more you talk and explain your feelings to others, the more they will understand and hopefully be more sensitive to the situation. Please look after yourself during this very difficult time. And remember all the feelings and emotions you are experiencing are completely valid. Take care now and thinking of you x
Sorry for your loss. I’ve suffered an mc in the past so I know how it can feel. I found if you want to talk about it you have to bring it up because it’s a sensitive subject and lots of people wouldn’t want to mention it, for fear of saying the wrong thing or upsetting you. Mc is not talked about enough and I spoke to a lot of people about it in time but the MIL was not one of them.
I'm so sorry for your loss 😢I just had my failed FET. I'm am grateful nobody is asking how I am. It is not something I want to talk about, with anybody.
I think it was very nice if your mother in law to invite you, she expressed her sorrow. If that was me I wouldn't even go for that.
People deal with bereavement differently. Sometimes we need to tell others what we want so that understand us better.
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