3rd round in November after a chemical in October...

[ArishaC]

Hey ladies, I think I would love to see if anyone has been in the Same situation. We've had a transfer a year ago, this was unsuccessful.. We were moving and I was building my business, so we didn't do another transfer till October this year. Which just ended in chemical.. I have to say I'm still struggling to get over everything emotionally. Seeing the lines getting darker and then lighter was heartbreaking.. But we talked with my other half and decided to go for it on my next natural cycle. I've just finished my bleed and will probably get it 20th November or so...

Has anyone done a cycle post chemical straight away and got BFP. How did you cope emotionally? I'm petrified having to go through all this experience and the 2WW again..

We are lucky with quality and quantity of embryos. We had 12 in total and all 5 days blasts. We now have 9 left. We transferred 2 the last time.. I'm also worrying about the quality of the embryos 'inside' as obviously 5db are judged by their outside growth.. My embryos are over a year old. So they are done at 36. I am now 37. This was my 4th pregnancy.. I had natural pregnancys before and have a 9yo from a previous relationship...

Is anyone in the same situation now? Xx

[AuroraXen]

Sorry you're having a hard time and are so nervous about your FET. It's very hard... but try to stay positive, that's a fabulous number of frosties! 😍 The reality is they might not all be chromosomal normal but with 9, you have excellent chances. Nonetheless, it's completely natural to be apprehensive about doing it again xx

[Fruitandflowers]

Just on the FET after a chemical, yes, we did. We had a chemical after a fresh round on the NHS earlier this year. There were still long delays even for a FET so we went private and straight into another round and transfer (maybe a couple of months in between transfers) - sadly another chemical. We were told it was just numbers and getting as far as implantation and a few weeks after ruled out a number of potential problems. My way to cope was to immediately go for the FET as it was something to work towards and hope for - I only had to have the bleed from coming off the meds from the chemical, then started FET meds from my next natural period, so maybe not much time to process (or dwell, depending on how you think about it).

Emotionally? The two chemicals were quite crushing - I'd never seen the two lines on a test before and they got darker, and everything looked ok. I just assumed we'd been lucky first time. The second I was more prepared but then worried there was a pattern. Watching the lines go and having blood tests so that your HCG drops to zero is hard. *But* I was very positive about the FET for some reason and despite being advised to cancel for various reasons we just went ahead - I got an early BFP and everything just felt different to the other times - possibly all my imagination and looking back with rose tinted glasses, but right now the sadness of what happened before is not gone but so much duller (doesn't stop me being terrified every day of it still ending, and not sure anyone who's gone through fertility problems or IVF can shake that worry).

Best of luck 🍀