Day 3 Carnage

[TheFoxes]

Hi all. I am feeling so blue and teary. I just got the day 3 call from the embryologist and out of 15 eggs collected, 9 fertilised there are now only 3 that are “looking good” and I didn’t even ask what looking good means! 4 stopped growing altogether and 2 are not doing well. This happened in my last round- it all fell apart on day 3. It seems like we will end up with 1 embryo if we’re lucky. It’s just so devastating. Has anyone any similar stories but with a happy ending? Or anything really?

[Ariel24]

I only had my egg collection yesterday so am a couple of days behind you I think but I would say although it drives you mad waiting for the updates, I’m trying to be as calm and collected about it as I can as ultimately it only takes one 😬 but it is sooo hard to think logically about it because you just want them all to be perfect don’t u! We had 3 embryos last time by day 3 and ended up with one being transferred on day 5 which didn’t stick unfortunately but was told at the follow up appointment the embryo was good so it was just bad luck really. Keeping my fingers crossed for u!

[TheFoxes in reply to Ariel24]

Thanks Ariel. Very very best of luck to you. Xxx

[BBHH1]

You should do day 3 transfer instead of waiting day 5. Your little embryos like you body more than the lab!

[TheFoxes in reply to BBHH1]

They didn’t offer this and today is day 3. Do you think I should call and ask?

[BBHH1 in reply to TheFoxes]

Absolutely

[soccerkt6]

Hi lovely, I'm sorry that this news has got you feeling low. It's so nerve-wracking, isn't it?! You're not out yet though and 3 embryos at this point is still good news!

After your last cycle did your clinic mention the possibility of a male factor issue? Day 3 is when the sperm dna comes into play, so if you have a large drop-off around that point it can point to sperm issues. If this round doesn't work (though I have all my fingers and toes crossed that it does!), you may want to consider having your partner do a sperm dna fragmentation test. Like I said though, remember that you still have 3 good embryos and I'm hoping for you that they all make it to blast and you have a successful transfer this round ❤️ xx

[TheFoxes in reply to soccerkt6]

Thanks Soccer- we are a gay couple so using donor sperm which is supposedly great quality. Fingers crossed our donor sperm will speed our little embies through the next 48 hours! X

[soccerkt6 in reply to TheFoxes]

Ah, good luck! I'll be thinking of you and the little embies!xx

[Zebedee1971]

We always had ours deteriorate after day 3. Would go from 18, to 15 to 7 or 8 on day 3, then on day 5 would get 2 average or poor. We did get pregnant, naturally, last September. So annoying getting so many eggs and ending up with little hope at the end, but it's true what they say, you do only need one x

[Hidden]

Hi TheFoxes ,

I had 18 eggs retrieved, 16 mature. We had to use ICSI because my DH has severe Male factor fertility. We lost 8 on the first day and we’re told on day 3 it was likely we would get 2 day 5 blastocysts. By day 5 we got 2 but then they kept another 2 growing for an extra day and they ended up improving and turned into a 5bb & 5bc.

Apparently it’s posible for eggs to help repair sperm damage if you have good quality eggs. There’s still hope that things could improve right up until the last moment. 🤞

[HelenJudi1]

Hello!

The day three call is the worst. Sometimes I think I’d have preferred not to have been updated. I’m also in a same sex relationship and used donor sperm. My story is;

I had 18 eggs retrieved in August 2019

From those 18;

7 fertilised

Out of those 7;

3 went to day 5 blastocysts

But .... I was told on day 3 that we would be lucky to get one as one was ahead of the others but none looked great. It was a really upsetting stressful couple of days and Then on day 5 the phone call came that two had ‘caught up’ and we had 3 to freeze (I was a freeze all cycle.

I had 1 transferred back in the October and my baby girl arrived the following July (2020). . . Sometimes they do catch up and are healthy !

Good luck!

[TheFoxes in reply to HelenJudi1]

Aw yay! Congratulations and thank you for sharing this incredibly uplifting story! It’s really made my day. Xxxx