3rd time lucky maybe?! 🤷‍♀️

[Alwaysfullofhope]

Hi all, I haven't posted on here in quite some time, i am starting my 3rd round of IVF at the end of the month, this will be a fresh cycle is anyone else starting?

New clinic, different meds and positive outlook (batting the bad thoughts away... Well trying anyway)

This time im taking coq10 and a cocktail of other supplements also which i haven't done on the other two cycles, more active (walking) as to be honest theres not much else to do and completely stopped drinking since the new year.. Im also really stupid as i decorated the bedroom which would be the nursery during lockdown and convinced myself i was doing it to become an office but i found myself decorating it in thr colours i have chosen for the nursey 🤷‍♀️ why ive done that to myself i have no idea!!

Anywho suppose i have treat this post more of a diary than anything else.

Did anyone eat chocolate and sweets and still go on to a successful pregnancy... I have the worst sweet tooth and really struggle with not having sweet stuff but I know refined sugar is a big no no, i have one decaff coffee a day but i know chocolate has caffeine in 🤷‍♀️ Ihave no willpower when it comes to chocolate! I feel like IVF takes all lifes little treats away i can manage to give up the majority just not chocolate and it makes me think am will this have a really negative effect on the outcome 🤦‍♀️

Good luck to all of you and hope your keeping well in these uncertain times x

[Wishingforabump]

Hey there ! Best of luck .. hope this one will be the one for you.. i am also on my 3rd cycle . Honestly i have tried lifestyle changes .. the previous 2 cycles i completely cut down coffee , sweets , increased water intake .. so indecided this one i will not take things so strictly as before . I am eating like always , my doctor said 2 cups of coffee are acceptable ( well since i am a nurse and i need coffee to stay awake all night ) and i dont go wild on sweets but if i want i will eat in moderation , i guess from my point of view you can have anything in moderation , don’t deprive urself especially that ur someone who loves sweets just continue ue normal lifestyle and have everything in moderation i think is enough .. i only have the thing with cigarettes , i am trying so so hard to quit but i only have max 2 cigaretttes per day ... of course during transfer i will cut off completely . Good luck for you hope you get so see ur little miracle soon💕

[Alwaysfullofhope in reply to Wishingforabump]

Thanks for sharing 😊.. Yes the other two times i cut things out but still had the odd drink - i dont smoke so chocolate is my addiction 🤦‍♀️ at least smoking has no calories 😂!! Yes i see so many mixed reviews people go all out with certain products and dont have plastic in the house etc and others just continue there life style as normal and both lead on to a successful pregnancy.. I think we all in some ways look for reassurance on things well i definitely do anyway 🤦‍♀️... Part of me believes that its all down to the medication but.. Its also the fact that through this whole process we have zero control all we can control is what we put in our bodies which then i think i obsess over because its the only thing I can do..

Wishing you all the best with your next round 🤍 xx

[KLADY123]

Hi Lornajade

I must say I am in a similar predicament myself. My first FET will be in April under the NHS. I have been following the advice in 'it starts with the egg' relating to vitamins and started in Jan so I am pretty hopeful they will have had a good time to kick in.

My issue is around food/drink etc. I wanted to start the year with no alcohol at all, however a couple of weekends I have had a glass or two of red wine with dinner or after work on a Friday. I felt so guilty after and really causes me anxiety thinking have I messed it all up. I am the same with coffee here I may have 3/4 cups a week cos I love it! Food wise I have tried to be healthy as much as poss but with this lockdown the only treats we have is a takeaway on a Saturday night so again I eat and feel bad. I am trying to think it's all about moderation but I cant help but feel bad if I enjoy a bit of takeaway/coffee/glass of red wine! I'm 8 weeks away now so started March thinking that's it cutting out the takeaways and red wine... coffee I think as a treat is fine.

I really do wonder how much these things have to do with success or if it really is down to the medication. Prob will never know!

All the best for your cycle x

[Alwaysfullofhope in reply to KLADY123]

You sound just like me, convincing yourself it doesn't have an impact then the second you do it you make your self feel like the worst human being in the world its such a mental battle isnt it... I am constantly researching and googling the best supplements to take, the foods to avoid, the chemicals to avoid... I tried reading that it starts with an egg and i felt like it was near enough impossible to live my life like that and felt my mental health was more important than trying to avoid a chemical in plastic etc... I always tell myself well if woman who are hooked on drugs etc can get pregnant then why cant i because i have a cake at the weekend and a hot chocolate every night 🤷‍♀️ but i think the bottom line is you can only do what you can do and if your escape is a glass of red then there is definitely alot worse of things you could be doing... We are all trying to cope on this journey and surely a treat every now and again should not determine whether we have a successful pregnancy or not?

I really hope you get the best outcome... Good luck xx

[Scarlett13]

Good luck!!! A bit of chocolate won’t hurt xxx I was successful on my 3rd round and now have a 1 year old son 🥰 so I hope it’s third time lucky for you! Keep the faith xxx

[Alwaysfullofhope in reply to Scarlett13]

Ahh thank you for the uplift scarlett i love reading messages on here where its ended with a little baby 🤍... I really am hoping third time lucky not sure how much more heartache I can go through... But positive thoughts and all that 😁!!xxx

[minnesota_girl]

I'm on my third cycle too, I don't know if it will be successful but I'm going in for transfer today and I've never made it to that stage before. I added supplements also and changed clinics, swapped to ICSI.

Best of luck to you xx

[Alwaysfullofhope in reply to minnesota_girl]

Good luck today!! Hopefully 3 is your lucky number 🤍 xx

[minnesota_girl in reply to Alwaysfullofhope]

You too!!! 💕

[Purple276]

Hi Lornajade,

It sounds like you have been amazing at getting your body and mind prepared. The vitamins and being healthy will go a long way I'm sure and part of this is being able to control some part of this process.

We could all live like nuns and still not get pregnant so personally I think it's about balance!

I'm still not pregnant but round 1 we were so strict and it felt rubbish! Round 2 loads of water, coq10, no booze but allowed myself a biscuit and pudding and got more eggs so I think remove the most toxic things but allow yourself a treat or two. You deserve it!

Good luck when you start Xx