How do you manage the terror of early pregnancy?

[LuxFleur]

I am waiting on the results of my second beta test, and I am so scared. I did a good job, finally, of ignoring all of the twinges and such during the TWW, writing them off as just symptoms of all the hormones that I am taking. But now I am feeling all of them and worrying! I will turn over and feel a twinge or a cramp and worry. I get a cramp and worry. I feel eczema come back on my hand and worry it means I'm having inflammation. I eat a piece of bread and irrationally (I guess??) worry that it will cause a miscarriage, because I had cut down on bread.

So many stories of HCG levels that don't rise enough, or bad news at viability scans. How do you even manage it???

[ToughCOOKIE78]

The short answer is you don’t I’m afraid hun, those fears will never go....maybe maybe when you’ll be 30 weeks pregnant...but for us IVF warriors those anxiety is impossible to shift or manage. The only advice I can give you (and give myself too) is to breathe and take it day by day, miscarriages are unfortunately a possibility and they have NOTHING TO DO with how we behave what we eat or drink...celebrate milestones as you reach them...second beta...viability scan...12 weeks scan...20 weeks scan and so on....and hope for the best. Sorry if I’m not an explosion of positivity but think being realistic is the only option we’ve got.Ps: having said that, your beta was GREAT so it will be fine ❤️🤞🏻🍀💋💋💋💋xxx

[LuxFleur in reply to ToughCOOKIE78]

I appreciate the realism xo

[Rainbowbaby92]

Ahhh It is the hardest thing ever! The anxiety I feel never leaves... I’ve had 2 early miscarriages in the past and am now 20 weeks pregnant but the anxiety still hasn’t left. I agree with tough cookie, you have to take it day by day and try not to let the anxiety overwhelm and all consume you but it is so hard. Try and do things you enjoy like reading a book or a good series or going for little walks just to take your mind off it... remember today you are pregnant and celebrate that win! Wishing you al the luck and positivity in the world! Xx

[Twiglet2]

Honestly mine has carried on throughout pregnancy to the point I can’t even bring myself to buy things or pick names at 30 weeks! I have calmed down a lot though though by taking things one week at a time, remembering what will be will be and it’s largely not down to what I do, finding a good series on Netflix that’s light hearted and filling my time with work and distractions. There were also are also podcasts and meditations I listened to in the early weeks like mindful IVF 🤗 lots of luck mrs xx