Aged 44 single want baby

[Bluelady-sing]

Hi guys what should I do

[leah30]

My best friend 37 has a little girl 5 months old . She’s single went with donor sperm x

[Bluelady-sing in reply to leah30]

I see

[Emmaxxx]

Find a clinic and go for sperm donation x

[ToughCOOKIE78]

Embryo donation is your best option at your age! Good luck x

[BBHH1]

I think best is to run some tests to check on your fertility prognosis then discuss with a fertility doctor chances/cost/your conditions to decide between using your eggs + donated sperm vs embryo adoption. Good luck

[Bluelady-sing]

Embryo adoption?

[Ell493 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Many people have left over embryos that they give up for adoption. They are frozen and transferred to your uterus. You would carry that baby like your own but it wouldn't be genetically related to you.

[ToughCOOKIE78 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Yes success rates are high and if you go abroad there’s no waiting list...clinics have specific programmes for women up to 50 years of age and you can choose the egg donor and the sperm donor and then do a frozen embryo transfer.

[Ell493]

At your age you'll most likely have to use an egg donor. Or you can adopt an embryo. Good luck to you!

[Hidden]

You should go to a fertility doctor and get their opinion after having blood work and a transvaginal ultrasound to look at your follicles. I don’t think anyone on here is in the position to tell you specifically what you should do unless they’re a fertility doctor or specialist, no offense intended.

[Goldie24]

Hi Bluelady, I looked at your previous posts just for a bit of background as to what you may have already tried and noticed you’ve been asking this same question and been desperate for a baby for a while now. I know it can be scary taking that first step and its hard to admit that things don’t look like they will happen naturally but maybe it’s time to take the bull by the horns and start the process? A fertility consultant will be best placed to advise what is best in your circumstances - the fact you don’t have a partner makes it even more cut and dried that there is no point in waiting as you won’t even be trying naturally in the meantime and hoping something will happen. You basically have two options at this stage as I see it, go for a consultation and start the ball rolling or if you don’t want fertility treatment (which I’m getting the impression perhaps you don’t, which is fine because it’s really not a nice thing to go through) there are lots of resources out there to help you maybe see things differently and start to accept that maybe your life isn’t going to go down the path you wanted it to. It now comes down to whether you are planning to have a baby or not rather than whether you want one or not. My friend is single and currently 32 weeks pregnant (she had IUI with donor sperm which was successful on her first attempt) but she is only 30. She has known for years that this is the route she will go down and has spent the last 2-3 years researching and deciding on clinics and donors etc and when the time in her life was right has gone for it. I think it’s a really brave and strong thing to do but not a decision to be taken lightly. Good luck with whichever you decide x

[Sa777ra]

Is it possible to adopt a child? It will be easy and quick, good luck

[cmbxm in reply to Sa777ra]

Adoption isn’t quick or easy unfortunately, I definitely wouldn’t say this is the case ever. Adoption can often take years, multiple checks, be expensive, you have to declare everything from health history to finances and then go through selection and placement with no guarantee a child let alone a baby will be placed with you, it’s far from a quick fix x

[CAS2 in reply to cmbxm]

Couldn’t agree more. Adoption, certainly in the U.K. is really a tough process and adopting children who have had troubled starts in life can be hugely rewarding but extremely challenging too.

[josephnsn]

I would go for donor sperm. It will be hard being a single mum but worth it

[Tinker2020]

I don’t know if you’ve got any fertility issues but a friend of mine gave birth this year at 46. Natural conception, although her partner is 12 years younger. Good luck!

[Bluelady-sing in reply to Tinker2020]

What she take? Eat

[Becs1980]

I had a baby with sperm donation using my own eggs I was almost 39 at that time

[MLeigh]

There is a Natural Fertility Coach named Iva Keene, I think you should look into her program. Here website is: fertility-coach.com/?inf_co... She has helped lots of women conceive naturally. I know being single you would be using donor sperm, but perhaps you could go through her program and then proceed with IUI.

[Bluelady-sing]

Thanks guys

[daisydoole]

Hi blue lady I am 48 years old and although I would love to use my own eggs they are not viable. I went to a clinic in Athens in Greece called embyroland. I was assisted by the doctor in choosing a sperm donor and an egg donor. I had two embyros implanted and became pregnant with one although I miscarried at 5 weeks. I will definitely be trying again. The altogether cost was 7,000.00 euros. I had to pay for the flights and accomadation which I got cheap enough. I stayed in the president hotel in Athens as this was two minutes walk from the clinic. The drs name is dr Kanakas and he is Available all the time for support. Hope this helps. Dont bother with tests at home as they will do them all at the clinic and are all included in the price. Daisy