Do I need another scan to check lining before FET?

[Rosie123456]

Hi ladies

I hope you can help. I’m due to have frozen embryo transfer on Friday. I had two scans last week - Tuesday was only at 6mm, but by Friday I’d reached 7mm, so they booked me in for the transfer a week later. This still seemed low compared to my baseline last month (without any medication) of 11mm

This is my first time going through a cycle like this and I’m not sure if/ how my body is responding to the medication. So I asked if they’d scan again before the transfer and they said they’d check when they did it on Friday. But this seems too late as by then one/both of my two precious embies will have been defrosted and it will be too late to do anything about it.

I’m sure they know what they’re doing. But I wanted to check this is normal or if I should push for another scan?

Thanks so much x

[Cazzab2020]

Hi Rosie It’s my first time through this as well.... what I’ve learnt is that it’s all nerve wracking and that no matter what I read it’s still confusing!

I had doubts about my process too in regards to dates and all sorts but the reality is that they know exactly what they are doing and I have to trust! Not sure who you are with - I’m NHS. They monitored me and will only do things when your body is right. Think I had 3 scans in a week before my egg transfer to make sure it’s all doing what it needs to. The dates are so fluid and changeable for these reasons for example based on the response of my eggs and to meds my program changed from a 3 day to a 5 day transfer so dates constantly move as they are almost predictor dates.

They won’t be thawing out those eggs until they are certain it’s taking place (I think it happens on the day not sure as I had a fresh egg transfer).

If you’re uncertain call them and talk it through - they deal with this all the time - it can make you feel like you’re over reacting but it’s important for you to know and sometimes these forums can be helpful.

I think going through this experience heightens absolutely everything in us - we are super in touch with our emotions and feel every twinge in your body. Most people come to this with hope, trauma, hurt and vulnerability and therefore everything adds to that.

Everything feels like a hurdle and a tick box to get to the next stage. I’m trying to see it as a science to help me through this process (hard but not impossible!) I’m in the 2ww (2 week wait) so had my eggs transferred Saturday and now have to wait 2 weeks to have a pregnancy test. Based on my results, unless there is a unknown issue, the only reason this won’t work is if the egg is chromosomally abnormal which means that the body will naturally reject it which is the natural thing for my body to do!

We put ourselves and our bodies under a lot of pressure!

I ask a lot of questions in my appointments to see how I’m responding and fairing for someone of my age etc so that I feel I have things answered. If you weren’t responding I’m sure they would tell you - I know they would as your treatment would change/stop (I asked lol)

Be gentle with yourself and if you can try to relax.... there’s a whole journey ahead of us that we have very little control over. For example, I felt like I did hurdle after hurdle - did the meds, responded, had eggs retrieved, had excellent graded eggs, successful transfer without a hitch and now it’s the 2ww. After the 2ww if it’s positive, I have to wait for a scan to see if there’s a heartbeat or to make sure it’s not a chemical and it seems to be a bit easier after 12 weeks as miscarriages decline. And even then I know I’ll be stressing!! I’m not sure on your situation, all I’m trying to do is illustrate the path we are on ..... but there are 1000s of other women on this same journey. We can share but ultimately it is a very personal experience that you have to do in your own way .... I think there is a lot of guilt, shame and anger that can come from this and my take is to do what is right for you so that you have no regrets or avoid some of those unnecessary feelings - if that means calling them up and speaking about it then do it! I struggle with my hospital as they never call back lol and one time I called the fertility network - my local one was closed but got through to a lovely person called Anya who really put my mind at rest and didn’t make me feel stupid! It’s another Avenue! Wishing you all the best!

[Rosie123456 in reply to Cazzab2020]

Hi Cazza, thanks so much for the super helpful and thoughtful response. I’ll try not to stress out! Very best of luck with your TWW. x