Finding out your best friend is 13 weeks pregnant during the TWW is hard. She only found out a few weeks ago.
What makes it even more of a kick to the gut is they weren’t trying and she considered not going through with it.
Don’t get me wrong I’m happy for them and her but it still hurts when people fall without trying and here I am in my 6th IVF TWW!
*rant over*
Sending hugs, I know what you mean. It’s difficult to be happy for them when we are going through something so difficukt
I completely understand. Last year I was pregnant from our 5th IVF cycle, then we had our 3rd miscarriage, a few weeks later my sister in law told us she was pregnant. My world collapsed. There are just no words 💔😔 xx
It’s Very hard isn’t it , a feeling known only too well for many of us in our fertility struggles. After going through ivf & all it throws at us , it’s almost difficult to believe how others can fall pregnant so easily x
It definitely is. It’s a roller pasted of a journey that’s for sure xx
That’s an absolute nightmare. I’d be secretly fuming. Life isn’t fair at times. However, hopefully your time will come around xx
Thank you, crossing everything that I get our rainbow baby soon xx
Wishing you the best! Hopefully this is your time also! I know it’s easier said then done. Each announcement sometimes just feels like a direct personal attack, but I did read somewhere sometimes we manifest things - lots of pregnancy announcements, looking at babies on YouTube etc. sometimes brings it to life in our own world. Last week I heard of 5 pregnancies of close people around me, I was upset but have to remember - maybe it’s a good sign of what’s to come for me??
It’s totally understandable to feel this way. My sister in law announced her pregnancy just as we were were going through our first IVF cycle. It made me so upset. She only got married two months before trying. We had been trying for 2 years. She was totally unsympathetic which made it worse and wanted everyone to be over the top happy for her. I found it really hard and it probably didn’t help my mental state for the first cycle.
It is something I think we all have to learn to cope with to a degree but it never gets easier. Just remember your not alone in this situation. I think most people on here have been there and felt the same emotions. Your human! Big hugs keep positive vibes for yourself.
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You’d think it would get easier after a few years but I guess it is something that will always be there in our minds xx
Am so sorry this happened to me really recently too... it’s heart breaking! It just seems like anyone is getting pregnant around you constantly... I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you xx
Thank you lovely xx
I so understand how you feel.. im currently 6 weeks pregnant and I'm already having lots of complications, well my sister told me that she is pregnant AGAIN! She just has a baby and she is pregnant again! I really wanted to run away... sending you big hugs and lots of love xx
Exactly the same happened to me on my first cycle. My friend told me she was pregnant 4 days before my testing day, which of course was a BFN. She was 40 and had only been trying for 4 months!!! I'm two years younger and have been trying for 4 years... As much as I wanted to be happy for her I just couldn't, I felt like my baby had been given to her. I then had a miscarriage on our 3rd attempt, that same week she gave birth to her baby. I keep telling myself there isn't a limited number of miracles but sometimes is just so hard to feel happy for others when life is being so unfair with us.
I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and the tough time you have had. We will get our miracles! X
I’m so sorry to hear that. Pregnancy announcements are incredibly difficult for people in our situation.
In my first round of IVF, I had a close friend going through her second round for her second child at the same time as me. IVF worked first time for her and she has a beautiful 3 year old daughter. Low and behold, second time around also worked straight away for her and she is pregnant with a baby boy. My transfer day was the day after hers and I miscarried early. Having to subsequently see her pregnancy announcement, gender reveal and, soon, her birth has been unbearable. Every time I see an announcement it reminds me of the child I should have had.
Fast forward to my second IVF cycle; again, I have another close friend going through IVF at the same time (why?!!). My second cycle goes more smoothly and I get pregnant again but miscarry at 5 weeks. Even more heartbroken as I had a pregnancy scan booked in and everything seemed that bit more real. My friends transfer is one week after mine and, of course, is successful. She sends me photos of her positive pregnancy test and is bouncing off the walls with excitement, even though I miscarried (which she knew) only a couple of days before she received her good news. Her announcement hit me so hard. She now wants to still text me regularly (probably feels a sense of duty) but I have decided to be selfish and take much longer to reply as it’s not healthy for me to hear about her pregnancy at the moment. I’ve only just passed the date when my viability scan was meant to be and everything is just too raw.
My advice is to distance yourself from these people where possible. However, I know when they are close friends or family, this can’t necessarily be done. I was actually happy we were in a national lockdown recently - I couldn’t bear the thought of seeing people and pretending that everything was fine. This IVF journey is such a roller coaster - I find it hard to believe that anyone can conceive naturally! I also find it hard to believe that IVF can work first time with no complications!
Sending you very best wishes. Stay strong xxx
Aww Ajplus1 😢 it really is awful. Sending you big hugs xWe’ve been TTC now for 4 years but last year just before my wedding 3 of my bridesmaids announced they was pregnant- it knocked me for 6 for sure.
❤️ sending a hug. I know how you will be feeling xx
Thanking you ❤️
I can feel what you going through sweet. I came to know my friend was pregnant as well when they said they were not even trying. Here we are trying for 12 years and failed ivfs. It's still heart breaking although we feel happy for our friends.
Bleeding during tww/progesterone?
Video call pregnancy announcements 
Insensitive pregnancy announcement 
Swollen Lymph Nodes (during TWW)?
