Parental Guilt of Embryos

[SJYoung]

Hi guys, I haven't posted for a while.

I have had 3 FET's two of which ended in early miscarriages and one just failed. After a lot of counselling and my husband and I went back to the IVF clinic on 12th March to get ready for our next transfer, like thousands of others our treatment was cancelled because of Covid which push me back mentally in a big way.

Once the clinics opened again I was told I needed the all clear from my heart consultant (congenital heart disease) so after finally getting an appointment for 2nd November and all was fine I finally have the letter that can continue treatment but now I have to lose some weight again (originally lost 4st to start treatment) don't get me wrong we are talking 1.5st so nothing outrageous but I am struggling to get my head back in the game. I am an emotional eater who has self sabotage tenancies and now I am starting to feel overwhelming parental guilt by struggling to get my big girl pants on and getting this done.

No-one in my life seems to understand why I would feel parental guilt over this because I am the only one to have had fertility issues. Please tell me I'm not alone on this?!?

[Emma672]

Oh love, you’ve nothing to feel guilty about, this journey really does funny things to us doesn’t it. I’ve struggled with my weight for the past 20 years on and off with emotional eating but it was knowing I needed to be as healthy as possible for IVF that has kept me on the straight and narrow this time, and I feel mentally there’s been a click and I think it’ll stick this time. I would definitely recommend Slimming World, it’s not like a diet, you can eat whenever you’re hungry, the plan fits into your life without too much fuss. My consultant has been so supportive throughout this as well (as I gained weight from the first meds which thankfully came off when I stopped). They’re doing meetings via zoom until real life meetings are allowed to open again, just waiting for news on that. And no I’m not on commission! It might just give you that extra bit of support you need. Good luck for your journey x 🍀