Find myself awake in the middle of the night, some of these decisions with IVF are so hard!
We've had two failed cycles prior to transfer, low egg numbers (6 and 2) and no embryos making it past day 3 and results pointing to egg quality. Doctor mentioned thinking about egg donor but she said she'd support trying my eggs one more time.
We were set to go once more with mine this cycle but I've been struggling a lot with the decision of what to do next.
I've had one miscarriage at 39, 41 now. Part of me is so scared that if this does work I'll be high risk for another miscarriage due to egg quality and age and yesterday was thinking maybe I should go straight to egg donation to lower the risk of miscarriage and I'm scared to waste time if I'm going to end up likely needing egg donation...I guess my thinking is that odds are so low with my eggs, is it worth the risk or should I go straight to ED to give myself the best possible chance??
Since I feel conflicted (as the worst case scenario for me would be it working with my eggs and going through another miscarriage) and I've just come to day 1 of my cycle today I had decided last night to wait a month, find out more about ED and discuss the chances and my worries with the consultant to hopefully feel better about a decision next month (maybe just go to ED or feel more certain in trying once more with mine).
But I woke up in the middle of the night now just conflicted about everything and worried I'm delaying this month. This process is just making me second guess all my decisions and I have no idea what to do 💔
Written by
minnesota_girl
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
So sorry about this ivf is so hard emotionally but they are so many supplements you can take for egg quality and maybe try once again wt you egg and see. What do you think
I am not using donor eggs but I heard about tandem cycles, this is when you are stimulating at the same time with your donor egg. Clinic will injection the eggs from both of you with your partner sperm so you can compare the results and also you will not lose your precious time.
This is just an idea on mine in this early hours if your want to explore it any further.
My dr advised to use testogel he thinks there are some evidence that it might work.. is 3 weeks before egg retrieval and I started coq10 300mg... check if dr gives u another alternative.. donor egg also doesn’t have guarantee! Anyway you risking both ways ! You need to think how badly you want from your eggs ! For me my egg is last option as in Australia you cannot pay for donor and is only frozen egg which has risk of fragmentation!! I hope I don’t have to go that way 🥺 30000 for 6 eggs is big risk for me if doesn’t work!
Hi Minnesota_girl, have you gotten a second opinion from a different clinic or changed up your protocol with your existing one? I think it would be worth considering before you go to donor eggs. For me, I had 4 short protocols with 2 different drug regimens. The ones on gonal F only were ok, the ones where I had Menopur were disastrous for egg quality. Then I switched to long for my 5th, and added in growth hormone (although this is considered highly experimental) and that one had by far the best egg quality. I progressively added more and more supplements so those could’ve played a role as well but I am a big believer in the protocol, and that every lady will respond differently so really requires customization. Xx
Thanks yes I was on short protocol for the first cycle and long for the second, Menopur both times. My doc has suggested back to short but including Letrozole day 2-6...
Hello love, I am 40 and after three failed cycles I am literally about to start my first DE cycle abroad. I’m available to discuss with you if you feel you need advice, I know how you feel ❤️I got pregnant during my third IVF cycle but had a MMC at 10weeks. After PGS testing my remaining embryos and finding out they were all abnormal 😢I found the only option to realise our dream was to try DE. And here I am 😉about to embark on this new, scary but hopeful journey. ❤️You are not alone!
Hello , totally understand your sleepless nights . I have a low AMH and probably poor egg quality. Our first round nothing fertilised , second round 1 3 day embryo and nothing to freeze and we have had a successful 3rd round with 2 blastocysts if good quality . I totally put this down to me taking DHEA for 3 months . I would definitely recommend trying a round with these supplements before moving on.
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
Decision time: #2 with my eggs 
Decisions decisions! Double transfer it was! 
How to feel at peace with decisions and next stage of journey 
Struggling
Relationship struggles
