Clutching at straws

[hifer]

BFN at 10dp5dt and clinic want me to test again on OTD. I’m sure I’m out but I’m interested to know if anyone has had a negative at this stage and then gone on to have a positive HPT or had a negative HPT but gone on to have a positive BETA??! I think it’s so unlikely but the clinic are really pushing for me to come in on Monday for a blood test. We’ve delayed holiday plans so now I just want to pack up and go and don’t really want to go in for a blood test on Monday morning (although hubby very keen for me to do this!)

Aaaaaaaassghhhhhhh. Making babies is fun they said, it’ll be really easy they said. 😢🤯

[Gueritarubia]

I’ll tell you tomorrow... I should know my beta result around midday.

[hifer in reply to Gueritarubia]

This would be soooooo good!! Keeping everything crossed xx

[Hidden in reply to hifer]

Wishing both of you heaps of luck... I am clutching at straws with you both and have seen quite a few people on here get that late BFP. My OTD is always 14days after 5det so 10 days is still early in my eyes. Masses of luck xx

[hifer in reply to Hidden]

Thanks hun, much appreciated 🤞xx

[Gueritarubia in reply to Hidden]

Thank you lovely, we clearly need it! Hope to announce good news soon. With all the positive energy being sent, it must turn into something good, right?!

[Dorekhani in reply to Gueritarubia]

Hiya

May you get positive result🙏🙏

Waiting for your good news🤰

[Gueritarubia in reply to Dorekhani]

Sadly no good news... yet... hopefully attempt 6 will go better! 😔

[hifer in reply to Gueritarubia]

Did you manage to get your BETA?? X

[Gueritarubia in reply to hifer]

Yes... negative. Value was 2 so suspect it was a chemical. Attempt #5 failed too... still no period so very confusing 🤷‍♀️

[hifer in reply to Gueritarubia]

Oh hun I’m so sorry. It’s not even like the testing is the easy/ smooth bit after the stress of the 2ww. Hope AF comes soon so you can get on with your life! I just hate all the unknown bit! Hope you have something planned for the weekend xx

[Gueritarubia in reply to hifer]

I know. Knowing the outcome has someone relaxed me a little - after the initial tidal wave of disappointment as I was nearly convinced I was pregnant!

The good and bad news is that it’s OH’s birthday today. No perfect birthday gift, but did treat him to a fancy dinner and myself to a G&T aperitif and wine with the meal. At least I could have that! Feeling a bit better now. Hope you’ll have better news to share shortly!

[hifer in reply to Gueritarubia]

Good for you having a little tipple at dinner! Ahh thanks hun. I know it will be negative as it was negative again this morning. OTD is tomorrow but think it would take a miracle to turn it around now! At least off to relax next week x

[Gueritarubia in reply to hifer]

Oh damn! I hope you’re the one proving that there’s a reason OTD is later for reason... I’m so crossing my fingers for you! Are you doing anything special? Nice to have some time off! Wished I did... xxx

[hifer in reply to Gueritarubia]

Haha wouldn’t that be funny. We’re off on holiday for just over a week on Monday. Our first break in just under a year so we’re really looking forward to it. Like you I may even have a glass of wine 😉xx

[londonrc]

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you!!xx

[hifer in reply to londonrc]

Thank you x

[KiboXX]

I personally haven’t but a very close friend of mine did. She had a negative on her OTD at 10dp5dt, she was asked to stay on meds and retest after 3 days and got a faint line at 13dp5dt. She has a beautiful little girl now x

[hifer in reply to KiboXX]

Gosh that’s interesting. Thanks for that. My clinic said that even if I got a BFN on Saturday they would still ask me to test on Monday (14dp5dt)but they would prefer me to come in. I guess it can happen to some people. Great story re your friend x

[KiboXX in reply to hifer]

Yeah I always thought it was a bit unnecessary when they ask you to stay on meds a few more days and retest (we were cycling at the same clinic at the same time) but she’s proof they do have their reasons! I’m sure it’s not very common but if there is a chance, it’s a chance worth taking ❤️ xxx

[hifer in reply to KiboXX]

Agreed. I don’t think it’s common either but you never know I guess x

[Gueritarubia]

Thanks for sharing this story Kibo, gives me a sprinkle of hope! Still no AF and one isn’t out until we’re out, right? Had heard of people getting their positive very late, but never heard how their pregnancies ended. This is so encouraging!

[KiboXX in reply to Gueritarubia]

No problem 🥰 sending you lots of luck and positive vibes xx

[Gueritarubia in reply to KiboXX]

Thank you 😘

[jengi]

I know it’s so hard but listen to the experts. If testing is making you feel down or stressed try and wait for the blood test. Or test on your blood test day. You need to keep calm and relaxed, having stress hormones circulating wont do you any favours. Do it for your embryo! You can do it, stay strong & positive. We IVF warriors are here and have your back! Only 4 more sleeps ...... big hugs Xx

[hifer in reply to jengi]

You’re right, 4 more sleeps 😉. Thanks a lot for the positive chat. Will do my very best 😊xx

[jengi in reply to hifer]

Anytime!

[JenRoy]

I’m clutching a straws too 😬! BFN at 12dp3dt. OTD tomorrow. I’m pretty resigned to a BFN but...🤞x

[hifer in reply to JenRoy]

Always 🤞. Let’s clutch at straws together! Good luck xx

[Gueritarubia in reply to JenRoy]

I’m with you tomorrow, also clutching at straws! 🍀 🤞🏻

[Dorekhani in reply to JenRoy]

Hi hope for the best praying for you.. Let's know what was your result

[JenRoy in reply to Dorekhani]

BFN and AF arrived 2hrs after the test 🙄

[hifer in reply to JenRoy]

Oh so sorry to read this!! It just sucks. How are you doing? Have you got some fun plans for the weekend?! If not, can you make some??! Sending hugs xx

[JenRoy in reply to hifer]

I’m ok thanks. Working all weekend so boo 😒. But good distraction! Thanks for asking x

[hifer in reply to JenRoy]

Ah next week then hopefully. Make sure you take some time out for yourself x

[Gueritarubia in reply to JenRoy]

Damn sorry to hear. Almost in the same boat, only AF is still rather elusive - 4 days late and counting (natural FET)... 😔

[Twiglet2]

Hey could you agree to stay on meds but do a HPT on Monday and still go on your holiday plans? There is defo still some hope of it turning around but I understand balancing that with having your holidays Xx

[hifer in reply to Twiglet2]

Thanks hun. To be honest I’m just being a whinge bag! We’re not even flying anywhere! Their secondary option is exactly that but hubby wants a definite answer (which I can understand) so I think I’ll go for the BETA first thing on Monday morning and then we can head off. Once you have a negative, you just want to get on with next steps but it really drags on!! Xx

[Dorekhani in reply to hifer]

Sorry that you are hang in between but we should be positive may be Almighty Allah give you a surprise on Monday....

Who knows... So just stay positive and do beta.. 🙏🙏🙏🥰😘

[Zucci]

Hi hifer, sending lots of love and luck your way xx 🧡🧡

[hifer in reply to Zucci]

Thank you x

[Hope76]

🤞🏼 for your OTD, it’s maybe just too early 🙏🏻. Glad you are off on holiday soon as after all his you deserve a break.

I am really hopeful for you 😘

[hifer in reply to Hope76]

Thanks hun xx

[Shirazlover2013]

We have to hope don’t we, I ruled myself out on round 3 with a very faint line and gave up the day after OTD, but now I wish I’d tried holding on just a bit longer. It may not have changed the outcome but I wouldn’t have been left with the niggling doubt. Anyway, you’re booked in for Monday now so everything crossed and whatever happens you have that holiday to go on which at the moment is a blessing on its own. 🤞🤞

[hifer in reply to Shirazlover2013]

As in you had a faint pregnancy line after OTD? Xx

[Shirazlover2013 in reply to hifer]

It was on OTD I tested but I won’t sugar coat it the line was super faint and didn’t come up in the 3min time limit but it was pink and not grey evap. I was so confused and disheartened. I gave up the next day rather than waiting the 2 days and testing again like I was advised to do.

[hifer in reply to Shirazlover2013]

God it’s never simple isn’t it?! I’m so disheartened as I’m still getting negatives. I actually just told my husband that I’m going to cancel my BETA and do a HPT on Monday. I don’t really see the point in travelling into the clinic if I’m getting a negative at 13/14 dp5dt. Do you think I should still do the BETA?! X

[Shirazlover2013 in reply to hifer]

I find HPTs (even the FRERs) not conclusive for my peace of mind. My first clinic only did blood tests but my current clinic doesn’t unless you request (and pay for). So I’m not enjoying the need to wee on a stick, i swear we get PTSD from the repetitive BFNs we see on them! Are you going to test over the weekend too? If it was me I’d test each morning and by Monday’s test you could make a judgement on whether you’re sure or want the clinic to confirm one way or the other for you.

[hifer in reply to Shirazlover2013]

Yes!!! I think that’s exactly what I have got. Traumatised my the massive white space on flippin pregnancy tests!! Yes tomorrow is OTD so will test again. To be honest though it’s not like it’s a faint negative! It couldn’t be more of a firmer negative! I just don’t think I can face travelling in to clinic on Monday. I feel so deluded to be honest. Anyway I’ll see how I feel over the weekend. Thanks hun xx

[Millbanks in reply to hifer]

Oh hun I know exactly how you feel. My last BFN was the same - just stark white. So gutting. I also said to my husband that I feel like I have a massive phobia of pregnancy tests. I just can’t bear looking at them to see the whiteness. Everything crossed for you that it’s just a late developer xxx

[hifer in reply to Millbanks]

Thanks hun. BFN this morning. Trying to get out of the BETA on Monday. Just don’t think I need the additional confirmation!! Xx

[Millbanks in reply to hifer]

Sorry lovely, sending love xxx

[Picalilli99 in reply to hifer]

Really sorry you didn’t get better news. Sending love & hugs xxxxx

[hifer in reply to Picalilli99]

Thanks hun xx

[hannahkc]

The waiting is such a torment isn't it.

Fingers crossed for you, hifer, for tomorrow and Monday🤞xx

[hifer in reply to hannahkc]

Thank you 🙏 xx

[Hidden]

Have everything crossed for you that u get a positive I normally test about day 15 I think so day 10 could be quite early u r not out otd when I got a positive (sadly ended in Chemical) I had af pains & all the symptoms of a period so u just never know! wishing u all the very best xx

[hifer in reply to Hidden]

Day 15? Wow that’s late. It is OTD today and it’s negative! 😢

[Hidden in reply to hifer]

I am so sorry lovely xx

[hifer in reply to Hidden]

Thanks hun x

[RhinoCat in reply to hifer]

Love and hugs sweet pet 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐😢

[hifer in reply to RhinoCat]

Thanks hun. How’s everything going with you? Xx

[RhinoCat in reply to hifer]

Ok I think but have a 10 week scan next Friday. Fear fear fear. Every step of this journey is riddled with worry.

Be kind to yourself today and allow yourself to enjoy some wine/gin and anything else that might help to soothe your soul 😘

[hifer in reply to RhinoCat]

Gooooood luck for the 10 week. I know the anxiety is very real between scans so I totally know what you’re going through. Keep us posted 😘xx

[RhinoCat in reply to hifer]

Thanks pet , will do 😘💐

[Lillilly in reply to hifer]

I’ve been thinking of you. I’m so so sorry. Sending you hugs xxx

[hifer in reply to Lillilly]

Thank you xx

[Mmmpudding in reply to hifer]

I am so sorry to hear this. Hugs and kisses x

[hifer in reply to Mmmpudding]

Thanks lovely xx

[hifer in reply to Hidden]

And so sorry you had a chemical!! Xx

[Hidden in reply to hifer]

Thanks it was very early & nothing compared to what some go thru on here xx

[aliciahightower]

Fingers crossed lovely!! ❤😍