Nervous.

[fertilitystruggle]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for this silly post but I am very nervous.

Today I am 7 weeks pregnant and I have my scan next Tuesday which will be a detailed scan and appointment

I had a scan last week on Wednesday.

I managed to see the heart beat of the baby and they even told me I was nearly 6 weeks.

The nurse also said everything looks fine but for some reason I am still so scared. Each day I keep thinking what if I lose the baby? What if it doesn’t make it? What if I go on Tuesday and they tell me the babies heart beat has stopped.

I have heard so many times this has happened but I just don’t know how to be positive over the past few days. I’m just so afraid of being happy.

[Littlepeax]

Hi Fertility struggle,

You sound so worried 😔 I would do anything to be in your position right now but I also know I would be exactly the same as you! Please try your best to enjoy it as no one can ever predict the future so you may as well take each day as it comes and enjoy every moment. I'm sure everything will be fine. You may have heard so many bad stories but I've heard so many positive stories and you could easily be one of them ♥️🤗🥰

[fertilitystruggle in reply to Littlepeax]

Hi littlepeax,

That’s completely true, there are many positive stories but I just wish I am one of them too🤞🏼.

It’s just crazy, we work our asses off to get pregnant and when we do we just still can’t relax because of the fear.

I will try to relax because what you said is completely true, we don’t know what will happen in the future, we can only hope.

Thank you for your lovely message 💛😘

[Hidden]

Agree with littlepea! do try and enjoy it and there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't be one of the lucky ones with a healthy pregnancy.

As one of the unlucky ones the one thing I have learnt is being worried or negative etc doesnt help at all. you can fool yourself into thinking you are preparing yourself for the worst so its easier to deal with but the reality is that its not easier and actually instead you are just making yourself upset for longer and longer.

Think about how much you have wanted this baby, how quickly the next 9 months will go and make a conscious decision to be positive about it. the only thing you can do is stay calm, eat healthily and look after your little one. Masses of luck xx

[Littlepeax in reply to Hidden]

100% agree with this ♥️ especially the bit about fooling yourself into thinking the worst so its easier to deal with. I did that after my transfers and really regret it xxx

[fertilitystruggle in reply to Hidden]

Hi Daisy1245,

What you said is completely true, Worrying nonstop is only ruining my present and this will not make my future any easier either.

I think I’m just super nervous for my scan on Tuesday. I really don’t want any bad news.

Honestly I have had most pregnancy symptoms even nausea some days. But it’s hard to convince the mind to relax sadly😑.

Thank you for your lovely message! And good luck to you too🥰😘xx

[RhinoCat]

Having same thoughts so let’s just agree we a perfectly normal 😘😘😘😘😘💐💐💐💐🤣💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 try and relax and get back to just one day at a time 😘😘💖💖💐💐💐 you can do this 😘💖💐

[fertilitystruggle in reply to RhinoCat]

Hi Rhinocat,

We are absolutely normal, we just need a little more reassurance.😂

Good luck to you too, let’s both try and be strong and get through this together 💛😘❤️xxx

[London_Lady1]

Hey my lovely.

I know exactly how you feel. I had my scan last week. Saw a strong heartbeat, the nurse said all looked good and they told me to sign up with the NHS and 'discharged' me from the clinic.

One of the first things I did was Google 'what are the chances of a miscarriage after seeing a heartbeat' why do we do this to ourselves!!

Just fot your info thr changes of a miscarriage after seeing a heartbeat are between 4-5% so what we should take from that is that 95% of women will be fine!

I feel like having fertility issues is comparable to dating a whole string of horrible partners. When you finally meet someone great and fall in love you bring all your bad experiences with you and can judge your new partner by the acts of your horrible exs. But we just can't. Each partner we have is different and we need to give them the benefit of the doubt. Just like each attempt at being a mum is different. We have learned from previous attempts but we can't let previous failures dictate future ones!

Last week we took a 'bump' photo with the scan photos. I was unsure but I forced myself because I would be gutted if I didn't and all was OK.

What if this pregnancy is all OK and in 7 months your holding a little one in your arms!

I hope the scan next week helps you relax. I really do wish you all the luck xxxx

[fertilitystruggle in reply to London_Lady1]

Hi London_lady1,

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m so happy for you. 💛

Your explanation could not have been any better! What you have said makes so much sense. It is true we let our previous failures and experience get in the way and create fear in our hearts and brains.

I really can’t wait for Tuesday to come and just be told everything is fine 🙏🏼

Thank you for your lovely message ❤️💛

[Mutleybob]

I’m exactly the same, I’m currently 6 weeks 5 days, experienced some early bleeding around a week ago and had a scan on Wednesday. all seemed fine it was at EPU so it felt rushed but I saw a tiny heart beat (I think) she did it externally so wasn’t very clear. I have my official viability scan at clinic on Friday and like you am so scared babies heart may have stopped ☹️ I’ve had 2 mmc before so I just think I’m on high alert. It is so scary but we have to keep positive and hope the odds are in our favour. Wishing you lots of luck and a long and healthy pregnancy xx

[fertilitystruggle in reply to Mutleybob]

Hi Mutleybob,

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I had the exact same situation, I had a little bit of bleeding as I have had a miscarriage before too so they booked me for an emergency scan at the EPU. I

just saw the heart beat and was told everything looks fine.

Good luck for your visibility scan, I hope everything goes well. I have the exact same fear let’s just pray everything works out🤞🏼

Thank you for your lovely message 💛❤️

[Zabeen]

Hi Finally I got pregnant after 13 years. I would like to ask a question I am 6 weeks pregnant , i don’t suffer from nausea and vomiting it’s normal . I am scared .

Thank you

[Running79 in reply to Zabeen]

Hi Zabeen

That is totally normal - I’m now 19 weeks and didn’t suffer much in the way of pregnancy symptoms.

The only thing I’ve had is heartburn and indigestion which I had around 16/17 weeks, I ended up vomiting with it but that is the only time

[Zabeen in reply to Running79]

Thank you so much I’m much relief Take care xxxx