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3dp5dt and already feeling defeated 😩

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I'm 3dp5dt (FET) and already feeling defeated. I just feel empty, like there's nothing in there at all. All my symptoms of Cyclogest before transfer have even disappeared! I know I'm probably having one of those mornings and hopefully my PMA will pick up but I just can't help feel like this ATM. Anyone else feeling this way?

Thank you for reading. Xx

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Hayleyloula

Hi Sas1101, I am sorry you are feeling like this! I am a day ahead of you (4dp5dt FET) and it is horrible πŸ˜‚ my emotions are all over the place and constantly feeling that it hasn’t worked but we can’t give up hope! Are you having any symptoms at all? The only thing I have been feeling is period like cramps but I know that’s Likely the cyclogest. It’s still very early days so keep your chin up and I have everything crossed for you 🀞🏻 Xx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toHayleyloula

Hi Hayley, thank you for your kind words. I've got up from bed, and made some breakfast and already starting to feel a little better. It's just a rollercoaster! We are cycle buddies πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘ When is your OTD? I will cross everything for you! 🀞🀞

Ive had a few twinges and a few niggles in nipples but I've probably only noticed becasue I'm hyper aware. As you said it could well be the cyclogest. The rational side of me knows it's very early but you just have those momemts of despair at times. However, I'm going to stick on my big girl post pants and seize the day πŸ˜‚πŸ€ͺ

Thanks again xx

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Hayleyloulaβ€’ in reply toSas1101

Good I’m glad you’ve cheered up a little bit, I think we just expect to have some sign that it has worked or not because of what we have put our mind and bodies through during the whole ivf process!

My OTD is the 10th aug what about you?

We are cycle buddies if you ever want to PM me then please feel free we can compare symptoms πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ it’s these bloody period pains that are getting me down I tried to mow the grass yesterday but I felt like I was potentially doing some damage because the cramps were that bad!! (IVF brain) Xx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toHayleyloula

Thank you, it'll be nice to have a cycle buddy to compare symptoms πŸ€ͺ My OTD is the 8th 🀞 but nurse said I could test on the 7th πŸ€”

Good on you for attempting to mow the grass! I would have been exactly the same given the cramps. Fingers crossed those cramps are a good sign for you 🀞

What are your thoughts on doing a little sun bathing? Xx

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Hayleyloulaβ€’ in reply toSas1101

Thankyou 😁I never get why people get different dates to test?? I am actually on 3dp5dt I was counting the transfer day which I don’t think I should be 😳 so we are actually on the same day I transferred Tuesday morning.

Hell yes!! I am currently on my sunbed catching abit of β˜€οΈ It would be rude not to with this beautiful weather! I’m trying not to overthink everything and do my normal stuff just in moderation!

How are you feeling now? Xx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toHayleyloula

Yes I always wondered about different timescales for OTD. Will you test early? So we are definitely cycle buddies. I also transferred Tuesday about midday.

Aww good, I wasn't sure what to do with the sun bit have just decided to come out and catch a few rays. The Vitamin D has got to be beneficial right? 🌞🌞🌞

I'm feeling ok. My hubby just asked me how I'm feeling and I just said normal. He thinks that's a good thing πŸ˜†

How you feeling? Xx

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Jonesy84

Hi Sas1101 I too am 3dp5dt and feeling nothing. Yesterday i did have cramps starting in the afternoon but for me its too early yet for AF so I am guessing ti the Cyclogest but this morning I woke up and gone back to zero symptoms. So i have decided that i am going to enjoy this beautiful day and i am also going to have a McDonalds as not had one is ages trying to healthy etc and have a ME day!! Hope you are feeling more positive now xxx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toJonesy84

Hi Jonesy, I've also had a few twinges over the last few days but today zilch. Nothing at all. Just said to hubby that the only reason I know they transferred our blast is because I was there πŸ˜† He thinks feeling this way is good so I'll go with that.

Good for you for enjoying the sun! How hot is it though?! I have a guilt secret...I also had a Macdonalds yesterday. I was so tired and couldn't be bothered to cook. Oh well, I don't feel bad about it all!! πŸ˜‚

Hope that You day is going well. Fingers crossed for us 🀞🀞🀞 When is your OTD? Xx

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Jonesy84β€’ in reply toSas1101

Well who knows those twinges could be the egg settling in 🀞It was hit 32 degrees here according to the met office and now typical English weather it’s started to rain!

Yey to McDonalds and why not. I hope you enjoyed it. It’s definitely the time if we have a food we want or something we want to do then go for it otherwise this is going to be an even more stressful 2 weeks.

Mine is 10th August. You the same date xx

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Jols

Hello ladies, I am also your 2 ww buddy.

OTD will be 09/08. Had a 6 day FET, all went well, PGT tested and good progesterone levels.

Had cramping on day of transfer and day 1, today at day 2 had dizziness and was out of breath when doing very basic things.

Aside that I am also feeling like nothing is going on today whereas yesterday I was sure I was pregnant. The roller coaster is so bad!

I am on 2xCyclogest, 1xLubion and 3xElleste Solo taking them every 8 hours.

Had no meds symptoms before the FET.

Baby dust and blessings to all of us!

Xx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toJols

Hi Jols. It certainly is a rollercoaster ride and a half. I promised myself after last fresh cycle I'd try to be rational at all times but easier said than done hey! My last cycle ended in a CP. I also had no symptoms leading up to BFP so trying to keep that in mind.

Great news you have a PGT blast on board. I also felt exactly the same as you yesterday. So nice to have another cycle buddies on board. I have everything crossed for you and sending lots of baby dust. Xx

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Mara84

Hey! Sorry you feel this way. I’m also in my two weeks wait ( had a frozen transfer on Wednesday) I have no symptoms and one minute I’m hopeful and the next I’m so worried I want to cry....

It’s not easy and we can’t know the result this early after transfer. I’m hoping we all get BFP 😊😘

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toMara84

Hi Mara, you're right we can't know the result so we just need to plod along as best we can. It's such a rollercoaster. Hoping we get our BFP's and this tww is kind to us ❀️ πŸ™ xx

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Mara84β€’ in reply toSas1101

I hope so lovely ❀️

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Peanutchips

Hey lovely, it’s so common to feel like this, especially after the high of the transfer. After all the hand holding of the clinic you can definitely feel on your own with it. I had a few crappy days after my FETs. Not feeling anything at this stage is perfectly normal. Try to do something to distract yourself if you can (easier said than done) 😘 xxx

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toPeanutchips

Hi peanutchips, thank you so much for your kind words. I think I'd just woke up this morning and was having a wobble. I'm feeling a lot better now I'm up and pottering.l and got lost on a book for a few hours. I think it's not helping me having annual leave from work this week. You're so right about the high after FET and them suddenly feeling alone. Wishing you lots of luck and baby dust in your journey 😘 xx

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Jols

Hello ladies in the 2 ww,

How are you feeling today?

Anyone testing early? πŸ€ͺ

I am feeling so tired and out of breath sounds more like corona than anything else lol

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Sas1101β€’ in reply toJols

Hi Jols, I have been out and about today so feeling distracted which is good.

I've been cramping intermittent since last night and sometimes the cramps are intense. I'm not in pain but they are definitely noticeable!

I would love to test but told myself I wouldn't before OTD. Although it's driving me crazy πŸ€ͺ My hubby wants me to wait too. How about you?

Lol about Corona πŸ™ˆ xx

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Jols

Hi Sas, good to hear you have been busy and distracted.

I hope you get your BFP :)

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